Wen 丨 half a cup of tea
It has been said, "The wise do not fall in love." ”
Someone said, "Another twenty pounds of cement to seal the heart." ”
I don't know when contemporary young people see sweet love scenes, although they will show "aunt smile" across the screen, but the subconscious reaction is still "hurry up and watch two more episodes of 'Wang Baochuan' or 'Crushed Corpse Case'".
There is indeed an element of jokes in the ridicule, and the popularity of meme culture is also dissolving the emotions of the times, but in the reality hidden behind, young people do "cocoon themselves" while looking forward to love, and their attitude towards love has even gradually evolved into a symptom of the times, infiltrating the new generation of love view.
Now, in the fourth season of "Like You and Me Too" (hereinafter referred to as "Like You"), the program team has contacted about 1,600 young men and women, and their past love stories are also outlining the love attitude of a new generation. In the latest season, "Like You" set the theme of the show as "breaking the cocoon", and the love observation further looked inward, focusing on the "crux" that trapped young people towards love, and seeking a way to "break the cocoon".
In this process, "Like You" is also trying to establish more group connection points, on April 23, the program team and [Yi Jie Watching Movies] jointly recruited 30 audience friends and 10 industry practitioners to open a spring garden activity in the latest trend check-in place of the imperial capital "Jintai-Sharing Ji". At the scene, Wang Yuanyuan, producer of the fourth season of iQiyi Lighter Studio's "Like You and Me Too", psychologist Li Songwei, writer and film critic Yijie, and program guest Zhang Yangyi became observers with them to conduct in-depth discussions on the love trends of several guests and the emotional confusion of young people.
Rediscover yourself
Neither love nor marriage ceased to be necessities of life, and was probably the most significant change in collective perception of this era.
For this change, Yi Jie mentioned a word called "social change" at the garden party. In her opinion, with the change of women's social status, many problems can be solved, but the part about feelings is always troubled: "There is a difference in feelings between men and women, and I think this matter is difficult to be fair and difficult to solve." ”
Or to put it simply, today's young people pay more attention to their own feelings in a relationship. Including in the current society, the label of "love brain" is infinitely amplified, partly because such people are easy to give blindly in their feelings, and even lose themselves, and losing themselves is a very terrible thing for young people.
In "Like You", many guests who enter the cabin have said that they are "love brains", and their common denominator is that they are afraid of starting a new relationship, because once opened, they will unconsciously participate in it. Little Lion, who has a background as a psychotherapist, also talked about what they have in common in each male guest: timidity. The reason behind this may be that in the process of running-in, two people need to grind off the part of themselves that is too much of themselves, and eventually grind into "us", and it takes great courage to enter this process.
Just like when a pony receives a signal from Xiao Zhu to show favor, his first reaction is to feel the pressure multiply. Thinking of his constant changes in his previous relationship and constantly catering to each other, Pony had strong resistance when facing a new relationship, and even broke down emotionally in the show.
This is also a very obvious difference between "Like You" and other romances, the show not only focuses on the interactive details between guests, to record the process of love. Also looking inward, to present the self-growth of each individual, Xiao Zhu chose to persevere after being frustrated, Lao Zhang tried to take the initiative after understanding his own problems, and they carefully approached the process of love, which is also the process of re-understanding themselves.
Break closed networks
Like most of the guests in the show, today's young people are more willing to enjoy the joy of being alone, but they are also afraid that the uncertainty brought about by romantic relationships will push them out of their comfort zone, which makes more young people wrap themselves in a "cocoon". Especially in the post-00s generation, not falling in love and not getting married is becoming more and more common, and in the face of more options in life, love has become a natural thing in their life ordering.
The same is true of the members of the cabin, most of them can't avoid the phrase "let it be" when it comes to the expectation of love. But in fact, who hasn't had a fantasy about love?
Everyone who enters the cabin is looking forward to a love. Those 1,600 people who have contacted the "Like You" program group, as well as those of us who like to watch romances, have deep imaginations about love. But hiding in your own "cocoon" and waiting for a "burglary" love will only pull fantasy and reality farther and farther apart. As Li Songwei said at the garden party: "The attitude of 'going with the flow' in love should not be 'not a brave shield', but a relatively natural and relaxed state of love without presupposing results and without strong purpose." ”
Judging by the rule changes in the new season, "Like You" is also trying to create such an atmosphere. On the one hand, "Like You" sets up a small tent for two people on the rooftop, and the invited person cannot refuse. This setting simplifies the suspicion between guests, makes it faster to clarify the attitude of the other party, and the "can't refuse" rule also gives the person who made the invitation more courageous to take this step.
On the other hand, the program group has added a "expansion door", and at a fixed time every week, the "expansion door" is opened and new members join, which not only adds more highlights to the interaction between guests. More importantly, the existence of the "expansion door" breaks the closed relationship network that is more common in the previous romance, and the entry and departure of new members is more like interpersonal relations in reality, coupled with group activities such as frisbee and skating, the overall atmosphere of the cabin is relaxed and harmonious, and they not only collide with the flame of love, but also plant the seeds of friendship.
After Lao Zhang made it clear that he had a good impression of Little Lion, he didn't know how to go further, so Zhang Yangyi turned into a military master and began to analyze the relationship between the two to assist; Pony and Pan Pan, who both have experience as soldiers, are more like comrades-in-arms, and even Pan Pan's title for Pony has been changed to "squad leader" ... The existence of multiple relationships continues to narrow the distance between the members of the cottage, and also makes everyone get along more and more easily, and relaxation is the prerequisite for intimate relationships.
Two-way "breaking the cocoon" and healing each other
Now that "Like You" will be updated halfway, "breaking the cocoon" has always been the theme running through it. At the garden party, Wang Yuanyuan talked about the understanding of "breaking the cocoon": "In terms of commonality, everyone has a cocoon, but in terms of personality, everyone's cocoon is different, and everyone in the show wants to complete breaking their own cocoon, in fact, it is more inward." ”
Of course, "breaking the cocoon" is a process, and the "cocoon" on each person's body is created by their own past experience and cognition, it is difficult to break through by themselves alone, and re-recognize themselves, slowly approach love, try to expand the circle of friends, and establish more people to get along with each other, in this process, the germination of feelings and mutual companionship is the key to "breaking the cocoon".
In the cabin, Pan Pan fell in love with Little Lion at first sight, and in the process of expressing his good feelings, Pan Pan took the initiative to give "straight ball", in a way that was not offensive, so that Little Lion clearly felt that he was special in Pan Pan's heart. Although Little Lion did not put boys like Pan Pan in the choice of love objects at first, but later, Little Lion also began to learn to express emotions in a "straight ball" way, and before that, she was more accustomed to roundabouts and temptations.
Similarly, Pan Pan's inferiority, Zhang Yangyi's lack of confidence, and Lao Zhang's passivity... The "cocoon" on everyone's body is slowly thinning, and although it is safe in the "cocoon room", you will see a different scenery when you come out.
Perhaps this is the reason why "Like You" positions the new season as a "burning" complex, and the "burning" point of the show lies in the self-breakthrough of the cabin members, stepping out of the hurdle in their hearts, becoming a better self, and meeting a better lover. This transformation actually resonates more with the public, because everyone walks on this road, and only by breaking their "cocoon" first, can they meet the right person.
As Yi Jie said at the garden party: "Any intimate relationship is risky, and our attitude towards an intimate relationship should be that I accept its cruelty, I accept its original imperfection, so it appears in my life, I should be both a surprise and a gift, and I should also be the only way to go." I think that people who can not blindly reject and evade, and can truly accept others are powerful. ”
So instead of being trapped in it, it's better to be brave and turn into a butterfly. On the road to chasing love, I hope that every sentence of "like you" can wait for "me too".
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