Wen 丨 Qing Xin Junyue
Zheng Xizhi's feelings are too bumpy.
First of all, his girlfriend Chen Yan, who has been in love for five years, has become his uncle's woman, and he not only has to often watch people show affection, but also changes his name to Aunt Chen Yan.
Finally put down Chen Yan and liked her sister Dongni's best friend Jiang Wei, but when she confessed, she was told that although the family was divorcing, she was still a woman with a husband in name.
In fact, the matter of Chen Yan becoming an aunt is still within the scope of Zheng Xidu's acceptance, after all, Chen Yan first proposed to break up before showing love to Zheng Hong, but Jiang Wei's prodding to deliberately conceal her married identity completely exceeded Zheng Xidu's bottom line.
It's just that what Zheng Xi never knew was that he became Jiang Wei's "prey" a long time ago, and Jiang Wei only relied on "three steps" to successfully control Zheng Xidu.
approach
Zheng Xi's decision to fall in love with Jiang Wei was something that Jiang Wei expected, or more accurately, it was the result of Jiang Wei's intention.
When Jiang Wei and Zheng Xidu approached, it was Zheng Xizhi who learned that Chen Yan loved his uncle Zheng Hong.
Zheng Xi, who was in the pain of lost love, decided to go to the bar to buy drunk, and happened to meet Jiang Wei, who was partying with friends at the bar.
At that time, Jiang Wei held a glass of wine, and through the old-fashioned truth or dare game to talk to Zheng Xizhi, who was sitting alone at the bar, after recognizing each other, Zheng Xizhi took the initiative to go to Jiang Wei's table in order to help Jiang Wei complete the "task".
Jiang Wei could see that Zheng Xi was absolutely invincible to drinking, and he could also see that Zheng Xi was incompatible with the people around him, but Zheng Xi never refused her invitation, and even forcibly toasted three glasses in order to help her block the wine, which surprised Jiang Wei a little.
Subsequently, Jiang Wei asked the somewhat drunk Zheng Xidu to go out for a walk, and in the process Jiang Wei took the initiative to bring up the topic of lost love, and when Zheng Xizhi said that such a topic may be a little cruel to a lovelorn person, Jiang Wei said:
"So what do I have to do to compensate?"
Pay attention to Jiang Wei's body movements at that time.
She took the initiative to take a step in the direction of Zheng Xidu, leaned forward slightly, and looked at Zheng Xidu with a smile.
I have to say that this action is with the meaning of "prodding", and therefore, in the face of Jiang Wei's sudden approach, the simple Zheng Xi was obviously stunned, and the ambiguous atmosphere caught him off guard.
After Zheng Xi was embarrassed to avoid Jiang Wei's eyes, and said with a nervous expression, "No need, I'll just say it casually", Jiang Wei once again pulled the ambiguous atmosphere back:
"Has anyone taught you how to survive when you fall out of love?"
Jiang Wei is not a little girl who does not know the world, and it is impossible for her not to know that her actions and words have ambiguous and suggestive meanings.
The reason why she is like this is to test whether Zheng Xi is as simple as she appears, and helping her block alcohol is really just out of kindness, or whether it is just a girl-flirting method of a veteran who has just lost love.
And Zheng Xi's reaction was so nervous that she got the answer.
It was also this temptation and prodding that made Jiang Wei "interested" in Zheng Xizhi.
Yes, just interest, Jiang Wei at that time did not really fall in love with Zheng Xidu, she was just attracted by Zheng Xizhi's kindness and simplicity.
Jiang Wei really fell in love with Zheng Xizhi when the two "lived together".
In order to avoid embarrassment between Chen Yan and Zheng Hong, Zheng Xizhi temporarily moved out of the house of his third uncle and third aunt to live in a hotel, and Zheng Dongni, who learned the situation, took Zheng Xizhi to Jiang Wei's empty house to borrow, while Jiang Wei, who should not have appeared there, also stayed there due to work needs.
In this way, the two inexplicably began to live together, and the ambiguous atmosphere between them continued to heat up.
The two often chatted until midnight, Jiang Wei cooked his favorite shiitake mushroom stuffed dumplings for Zheng Xi, would go to Chen Yan and Zheng Hong's wedding banquet to support Zheng Xidu, would listen to Zheng Xizhi tell his mother's story, and took the initiative to give Zheng Xizhi a hug...
In fact, Jiang Wei deliberately stayed on the grounds of work, in order to get closer to and understand Zheng Xizhi, and also to make Zheng Xizhi fall in love with her.
You know, Jiang Wei is not in love Xiaobai, she is extremely aware of what may happen when a lonely man and a widow are in the same room, especially if she knows that Zheng Xi has just fallen out of love.
In this case, Jiang Wei also took the initiative to stay and "cohabit" with Zheng Xidu, and cared for Zheng Xizhi, if it were not for wanting to develop with Zheng Xizhi, it would not be possible.
In other words, making Zheng Xi fall in love with her is the result that Jiang Wei deliberately did and wanted to see.
As for why Jiang Wei "fancy" Zheng Xidu, it is because of her last failed marriage.
At that time, Jiang Wei was trapped in a bad marriage, her husband cheated on her for half a year after marriage, she filed for divorce but her husband did not agree, the divorce lawsuit was fought and beaten, but the other party kept delaying under various excuses, and Jiang Wei was tortured and exhausted.
The failed marriage made Jiang Wei a little disappointed in the man and the marriage, until the appearance of Zheng Xizhi.
The initial temptation and provocation made Jiang Wei realize that Zheng Xizhi is a very honest and kind person, and the subsequent contact made her more determined, with Zheng Xizhi's character, if they were together, Zheng Xizhi would rather wronged himself than hurt her.
Don't want to be hurt anymore, don't want to be betrayed again, this is the real reason why Jiang Wei looks at Zheng Xidu.
Jiang Wei knows how to show the charm of women, and also understands the mind of men, under her "offensive", Zheng Xi decided to fall quickly, but what Jiang Wei did not expect was that Zheng Xi's attitude towards feelings was so serious that he could not tolerate any "flaws".
Confess the truth
If it is said that making Zheng Xi decide to fall in love with himself is Jiang Wei's "long-planned" plan, then when to confess the truth of marriage to Zheng Xi is also Jiang Wei's "calculation".
After attending the wedding night of Chen Yan and Zheng Hong, Zheng Xi decided to confess to Jiang Wei:
"Jiang Wei, be my girlfriend, I know it's a little sudden, but don't worry, I'm very serious."
Although this confession was within Jiang Wei's expectation, she looked at Zheng Xizhi with an affectionate face, and Jiang Wei was still a little apprehensive, which stemmed from her deliberately hiding the truth of being married.
Therefore, in the face of Zheng Xizhi's show of love, Jiang Wei did not respond directly but hesitated how to speak, and only after Zheng Xizhi's questioning did she tell the truth:
"I thought you knew I had a husband."
This sentence has obvious suspicion of blame, and Jiang Wei wants to use this to cover up that he is not deliberately concealing.
Later, in order to show his sincerity and innocence, Jiang Wei added:
"He cheated on us half a year after we were married, I filed for divorce a long time ago, it was he who kept dragging me... I have been separated from him for more than a year, Xidu, I am telling the truth, and I am serious. ”
Jiang Wei's defense did not stop Zheng Xi from leaving, he could not accept the fact that Jiang Wei was married, let alone Jiang Wei's concealment, which made him feel like a fool, being played and played around.
In fact, from the beginning, Jiang Wei deliberately concealed the truth that he was married.
First, she enjoyed her ambiguous relationship with Zheng Xidu, and did not want to ruin the long-lost love-like feeling so early; Second, she knew that if she had told Zheng Xi the truth from the beginning, Zheng Xi would never have come close to her no matter what, let alone fall in love with her.
This can be verified by Zheng Dongni's questioning of Jiang Wei by Zheng Dongni, who learned the situation from the play:
"You're still quite reasonable, why didn't you tell Xi Due in the morning? You know if you say that, he won't approach you. ”
In other words, Jiang Wei deliberately waited until Zheng Xi fell in love with her before choosing to confess.
Only in this way will she have the opportunity to get Zheng Xidu, because she knows that once Zheng Xizhi falls in love with someone, she will not easily change her heart, and it will be easier to accept her who has been married.
Everything is within Jiang Wei's "calculation", and the only accident is that Jiang Wei underestimated how serious Zheng Xizhi was about feelings.
After that unhappy breakup, Zheng Xizhi has been avoiding Jiang Wei, and in desperation, Jiang Wei took the divorce lawsuit with her husband to the school where Zheng Xizhi taught.
When Zheng Xizhi said that he was willing to wait for her to divorce, but he couldn't accept that they were together now, Jiang Wei was incomprehensible:
"Why should we waste our good time for this paper, isn't the past, present, and future me the same to you?"
Jiang Wei didn't understand that since they loved each other, since her marriage had already existed in name only, and divorce was only a matter of time, why Zheng Xi would never refuse her so decisively, which was unexpected.
For Zheng Xizhi, once the word love is spoken, it is a commitment, a responsibility, and a vow. He didn't mind that Jiang Wei was married, but he minded the fact that Jiang Wei was not divorced, and in his opinion, entanglement with married women was irresponsible and immoral.
From this point of view, I support Zheng Xidu.
The misfortune of Jiang Wei's marriage deserves sympathy, and she also has the right to find her own happiness, but the premise is that some things should not happen during the marriage, even if the divorce is deliberately dragged by the other party, it is not her fault, but the fact is the fact. Facts are sometimes cruel, but facts are what we have to face.
Moreover, the last thing Jiang Wei should do is to hide the truth, this is not a white lie, but a deception, a deception in order to obtain emotional satisfaction, which is unfair to Zheng Xizhi, and he loses the right to refuse this relationship.
Jiang Wei, who was rejected by Zheng Xizhi, never took the initiative to find Zheng Xizhi again.
She knew that as long as she didn't divorce, no matter what she did, Zheng Xi would never accept her, so why would she entangle and consume each other's feelings.
It's just that Jiang Wei did not intend to give up Zheng Xidu, but after the formal divorce, he "recovered" Zheng Xizhi in a different way.
"Accept" Zheng Nanyin
Jiang Wei and Zheng Xi can definitely come together again, and they can't do without Zheng Nanyin's assist.
After the divorce, Jiang Wei has been waiting for Zheng Xizhi to take the initiative to find her.
She can naturally take the initiative to tell Zheng Xizhi, but she doesn't want to, in her words, if a man really loves a woman, he will definitely can't help but go to that woman.
But after half a year, Zheng Xi decided not to move, and Jiang Wei guessed that Zheng Xi definitely probably did not know that she had divorced, so she took the initiative to get closer to Nanyin, and became a girlfriend with Zheng Nanyin who talked about everything.
This is Jiang Wei's last step of "calculation".
Normally speaking, with Jiang Wei's age, personality and career, it is impossible to be friends with Zheng Nanyin, who is naïve and still in college. When adults make friends, they are either like-minded or have mutually beneficial networks, and it is clear that Zheng Nanyin does not fit.
And the reason why Jiang Wei is willing to spend a lot of time befriending Zheng Nanyin is nothing more than Zheng Xidu:
First, simple Zheng Nanyin can't hide any secrets, and Jiang Wei can know anything she wants to know about Zheng Xidu from Zheng Nanyin's mouth;
Second, Zheng Nanyin is friendly, and with Zheng Nanyin's gossipy personality, she will definitely report her recent situation to Zheng Xizhi, so that without her taking the initiative, someone will be able to consciously or unintentionally remind Zheng Xizhi of her existence and her situation. Jiang Wei just wanted to force Zheng Xi to come to her.
And Zheng Nanyin did not live up to Jiang Wei's expectations, and on the night she ate ice cream with Jiang Wei, she began to chat with Zheng Xi about Jiang Wei's recent situation.
However, when Zheng Xi decided to take the initiative, Jiang Wei retreated again.
She withdrew because Zheng Dongni's affairs made her realize that for Zheng Xidu, the Zheng family will always be more important than her, but this is not the love she wants, just like she said in the play:
"Xijue, you said you love me, can you always guarantee to put me in front of your family?"
I can understand Jiang Wei's feelings, everyone wants their lover to put themselves first, but I can't agree that Jiang Wei has to compare her with the Zheng family, especially Zheng Dongni.
As Zheng Xizhi said:
"Jiang Wei, you and Dongni are not opposites, the two of them are my family, you are my lover, this does not involve each other."
Obviously they are the closest people, why do they have to be higher or lower, this question for Zheng Xizhi is tantamount to "my mother and girlfriend fell into the water at the same time, who to save first".
However, in the end, Jiang Wei still won.
When Zheng Xijue learned from Nanyin's mouth that Zheng Dongni wanted to design Jiang Wei and Fang Jinghui, he rushed to find Jiang Wei non-stop, and when Jiang Wei tested him and Zheng Dongni was upstairs, Zheng Xidu chose to ignore it for the first time.
For Zheng Xizhi's reaction, Jiang Wei was satisfied, so she agreed to Zheng Xizhi's confession again.
Throughout the plot about Jiang Wei and Zheng Xidu, you will find that from Jiang Wei and Zheng Xidu approaching, to Zheng Xi's decision to fall in love with Jiang Wei, to Jiang Wei's confession of the truth of marriage, until finally the two are officially together, almost every step is under Jiang Wei's control.
Even if there is a small episode in the middle that Zheng Xi must not accept her without divorce, it will not affect Jiang Wei's initiative and dominance in finally fully grasping this relationship.
Jiang Wei is not a person who is easily carried away by love, regardless of it, she is independent, confident, exquisite, and has a strong sense of career. She has her own insistence on love, she knows what she wants, and she knows how to get what she wants, and she has been determined from the beginning.
I don't know if this kind of Jiang Wei is Zheng Xizhi's happiness and belonging, but I hope that the kind Zheng Xizhi will never be hurt again.
Qing Xin Junyue is an emotional observer, book critic and film critic. Warm you with words, me.