Yesterday was Children's Day.
There is a festive atmosphere on the Internet.
Older children can have a more energetic holiday than children.
However, how many people know the origin of International Children's Day?
In fact, it was a sad day.
It is to commemorate the Lidice massacre of June 10, 1942 (88 children of the village were gassed by the Nazis) and all the children who died in the war around the world.
The festival was established to focus on the protection of the rights and interests of children around the world.
As a vulnerable group, children are easily the target of abuse and harm in their daily lives.
June 1st, it is not easy.
Everyone who played this day should be almost happy, Uncle Fish wants to talk about something else-
"Headache"
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It's a German film.
The male lead is played by Max Remet.
He has been acting since he was 14 years old, and likes to interpret different types of roles, and his play path is quite extensive.
There is Wolfgang in the German branch of the "Super Sense Hunting" series.
The expression of carrying a bazooka is called a calm.
There is Kay from the same-sex love movie "Free Fall".
Relying on the body of the tough guy and the expression of the sheep has captured the hearts of many fans.
In "Hitler's Boy", he played on the same stage with Tom Shirin, two beautiful teenagers, and did not know how many B-station mixed scissors grandmasters were fed.
This time, he challenged himself again.
Played a pedophile in the film.
Marcus, a good young man in the eyes of everyone.
Stable work, handsome appearance and calm personality have attracted the attention of many young women.
But whenever he was invited by a female colleague, he always refused for various reasons.
Because, he's not interested in adults at all.
He was very fond of children, to the point of going beyond ordinary emotions.
When watching TV at home, if a little boy appears in the picture, he will take a picture with his camera.
When you go swimming, children who see naked children in the water will also hide in the corner and secretly leave images.
While sitting in the car, I saw two little boys laughing in front of me.
I can't help but look at it with the afterglow.
After that, they would even follow them out of the car and follow them near their home before reluctantly leaving.
Seeing this, do you think Marcus is particularly disgusting?
In fact, the person who disgusted him the most was himself.
He felt dirty and perverted.
When he can't restrain his gaze and thoughts, he will take a deep breath in the bathroom, trying to squeeze out the "dirty things" in his mind.
When visiting his sister, his nephew happily greeted him and hugged him.
He suddenly broke free from his nephew's arms, went to the empty room, and desperately pressed his head against the door and said:
"It's fucking bad."
When Marcus bathed and applied shower gel to the neighbor's children, he unconsciously immersed himself in the pleasure of touching the boy's body.
Then the big dream woke up and left in a hurry.
Special fetishes gnawed at his mind and occupied all his midnight dreams and reverie time.
One day, a new neighbor moved in to the opposite door, and it happened to be a single mother with a child.
This is not a good thing for Marcus.
The little boy's name was Arthur.
Arthur's mother was going to a party at night, and she was not sure that her son was alone at home, so she entrusted Marcus to take care of it.
At first, the two kept a certain distance.
Play chess across the table.
Later Arthur was sleepy, and Marcus read pirate stories for him.
Arthur was on the other side of the couch, and as he listened, he approached Marcus.
Perhaps because he had lacked his father's love since childhood, Arthur lifted the arm of the man who was telling himself a story and burrowed into his arms.
Slowly he closed his eyes and fell into a deep sleep.
Marcus looked at the little boy in his arms and put down the storybook.
A hand through the air, couldn't help but wander away from Arthur.
Later, Arthur became dependent on Marcus, who was like his father.
The two ride a bike together.
Drift together.
Playing on the pitch together.
Arthur fell in love with Marcus, just as much as he liked his father.
Marcus fell in love with Arthur, a liking mixed with lust.
When he realized his "love," he realized he had to leave as soon as possible.
If they continue, the relationship between the two will become more and more intimate.
Once desire overpowers reason, it leads to unforgivable mistakes.
Before leaving, Marcus took Arthur for a swim and they had a great time.
He looked at the little boy in front of him with water droplets and a popsicle and took out his camera.
Arthur was happy to pose for him, albeit somewhat unnaturally.
Marcus carefully reminded him:
"It's our secret, don't tell your mother."
But the photo was found by Arthur's mother.
She saw a picture of her son in the darkroom that had not yet dried after washing.
Then I found two drawers full of pictures, and the protagonists were all children.
"You make me sick."
That's her assessment.
Marcus explained weakly, but no longer expected anyone to understand.
He committed suicide, attempted.
Failed to kill the "disgusting" self.
My sister went to the hospital to visit him and calmly said to the person in front of her who had just died once:
"Our parents are ashamed of you."
"I don't want you to contact us again."
Marcus returned home after being discharged from the hospital.
Burned all the photos and deleted all the files in the computer.
Tidy up the house well.
Finally, he changed into formal clothes and sat down on the bed with a heavy face.
On the bedside table was a glass of water, and a pile of pills.
The film ends abruptly here.
Marcus is a pedophile, there's no doubt about that.
But is he heinous?
The first thing that should be clear is:
First, he never directly harmed any child.
Second, he never bought child pornography videos to indirectly encourage criminal behavior.
Third, he has never given up fighting the desires in his body.
Marcus also tried for help.
The first time I told the doctor about my proclivities, I wanted him to save himself.
As a result, the doctor turned his back directly and let him leave in a cold tone.
In the eyes of most people, pedophilia is the original sin.
Even if he hadn't sinned, the dirty thoughts in his head were unforgivable.
But this is unfair to harmless people who are unjustifiably tormented by psychological disorders.
Pedophiles are not the same as sexual abusers.
The cause of pedophilia is unclear and the course of the illness lasts for life.
As a pathological preference, there is currently no evidence that it can be cured.
When Marcus rescued the psychiatrist again, the doctor told him:
"Your tendencies are not your fault."
But this tendency will not disappear, it will accompany people throughout their lives.
Most treatment options focus on helping pedophiles avoid taking any action on their desires.
It can only reduce their susceptibility.
The doctor said to Marcus:
"This is your destiny, and neither you nor I can change that."
Marcus could not bear to continue to be trampled by this "fate" and chose to commit suicide.
Someone in Douban commented:
"It was the first time I sympathized with a pedophile."
You could argue that this is a film that "whitewashes" pedophiles.
But it is those harmless pedophiles who wash, not "Bao Yuming".
"Pedophilia" is discussed in Female Addicts: Part II.
The heroine, who is tormented by sexual addiction, makes a very bold point, "Pedophilia that has not hurt children is commendable".
Because they have spent their entire lives battling man's strongest biological instincts.
Be ashamed of your innate sexual desire and live forever in the shadow of shame.
Some pedophiles are also victimized "people", and some are "beasts".
Marcus is the former.
He was unfortunate, but that misfortune also made him a time bomb.
Even if he is determined not to cross the red line at this stage, there is no guarantee that he will always be a dud.
This uncertainty led him to choose suicide.
Again, any pedophile leading to violations against children is an unforgivable crime.
The "Bao Yumings" and "Xu Haojie" have no room for whitewashing.
But pedophilia itself is not a sin.
It is a disease that needs to be treated.
Perpetrators should never escape legal and moral sanctions.
But innocent people should not be destroyed just because fate has made a label on them.
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Nor can we expect all pedophiles to rely on lofty morality for eternal self-restraint.
Medical intervention, social concern, to strengthen the tight strings between reason and desire.
Avoid it from breaking down and committing harmful acts as much as possible.
In the film, Arthur's mother often leaves her child alone with the male protagonist for a long time.
Even after discovering the male protagonist's sexual preferences, he only forcibly isolated himself, without telling the child "why stay away from that uncle".
Arthur was lucky enough to meet Marcus, who could hold his ground;
So what if he met "Bao Yuming"?
Educating children to distinguish between sexual harassment and sexual assault and active prevention and protection is an indispensable but often seriously lacking part.
On this special day of Children's Day.
After buying gifts for your child, you may wish to talk deeply.
Tell them how to protect themselves.