Text/Contributing Author Ju Xiaoxiao
Recently, the TV series "I'm Fine in Other Places" has been popular all over the Internet.
The plot of those who forced their faces and laughed in front of their families, turned around and licked their wounds alone, made countless young people who were wandering in different places seem to see themselves.
Ji Nanjia, one of the heroines, harvested countless tears.
Obviously, it is a strong woman who is said to be inseparable, but she suffers from cervical cancer at a young age, such a complex and plump character, I am afraid that only the actor Ren Suxi can play.
Speaking of Ren Suxi, the fire of the film "Donkey Got Water" seems to be yesterday, and in the blink of an eye, this actress who does not look amazing has more and more wonderful works.
Just recently, her new drama "Dear Child" with Qin Hao has just been completed.
The dragon woman who was once no one optimistic is now more popular with directors than many middle-aged actresses who suffer from "no drama to shoot".
However, this female star, who has experienced thousands of days and nights of hard work and immersion, almost fell into disgrace at her peak...
01
An actor's dream that is not favored
At the first sight of Ren Suxi, I am afraid that it is difficult to have the idea of "beautiful women", but her dream of being an actor has been solid for many years.
In 1988, Ren Suxi was born in Laizhou, Shandong Province, to an ordinary well-off family.
Before the age of 11, she and her sister were the little princesses of the family, and the careful care of her parents made her live a carefree life, so that she and the little girls of the same age looked forward to the vast world and a bright future.
However, it all came to an abrupt end when she was 11 years old.
Dingliangzhu's father fell ill, and the menacing cancer made this middle-aged man miserable, but he had to become a burden for the whole family.
The small family's savings quickly bottomed out, but my father's illness became more and more serious.
At that time, the mother was busy taking care of her father, and the little Ren Suxi had to live in a neighbor's house.
Once, Ren Suxi secretly ran to the hospital to visit his father, but heard him slowly say to his mother: "I will not do the next stage of chemotherapy, leave some money to buy a piano for the second brother..."
Ren Suxi ran into the ward crying and tried to "play" a song on his father's arm.
And this has become one of the few warm memories of Ren Suxi about his father.
Years later, Ren Suxi recreated this scene on the music program "City of Illusion".
At the end of the song, Faye Wong in the audience was in tears, and Huang Bo, who had always been gag, was also in tears.
Host He Jiong asked Ren Suxi: In the story just now, which are your own experiences?
Ren Suxi choked up and replied: All.
In that year, after the death of her father, Ren Suxi's mother and her two daughters had a difficult life.
Soon, the mother remarried, and she had another sister and brother.
The taste of sending people under the fence was very uncomfortable, but Ren Suxi did not complain, she understood that she was going to leave the family after all.
The day of the long trip soon arrived, at the age of 17, Ren Suxi left home for thousands of miles and applied for the Chinese opera.
Perhaps it was her father who was secretly protecting her, and she successfully passed the examination and became a North Drifter.
Forced by his livelihood, from the sophomore year, Ren Suxi began to work part-time to earn money to support himself.
Without a dazzling appearance, she worked as a choreographer, as a photographer, and sometimes even with the young man, doing some heavy work of moving machines.
But she still wants to be an actress.
After graduation, she finally got some opportunities to act in dramas with the help of her brothers and sisters.
Without a car, she would take a bus for hours to rehearse, and she would not flinch even if she was frozen on the road.
Later, when Ren Suxi recalled that experience, he rarely mentioned the bitterness and tiredness at that time, but only smiled and said:
"Everyone is very pure, just want to how to act well, everyone is so happy." 」
In this way, Ren Suxi lived for nearly ten years for the days of drama madness.
02
Overnight fame and overnight "derailment"
In show business, overnight fame is almost an unattainable opportunity for every actor.
But such luck, Ren Suxi bumped into.
In 2016, a movie called "Donkey Got Water" caught fire.
Obviously there are no big-name actors, obviously taking a black humor style, but people are fascinated by this niche movie.
Ren Suxi, the actor of the heroine "Zhang Yiman", also entered the public eye for the first time.
People are curious, where did this actress with a long face and small eyes come from?
They did not know that Ren Suxi had already played this role thousands of times on the drama stage before becoming popular with "Zhang Yiman".
When he first encountered Donkey Got Water, Ren Suxi was just 24 years old.
At that time, she was actually a little afraid of Zhang Yiman's role, after all, it was not easy for her to perform a variety of styles and the freedom of the relationship between men and women, and to perform her inner entanglements and moral baggage.
Ren Suxi slowly experienced, walked through the streets and alleys to find inspiration, and constantly pondered the characters themselves.
Finally, one day, she had a clue. She felt that she had become "Zhang Yiman" herself.
In the play, Zhang Yiman needs to slap himself fiercely, and Ren Suxi does not hesitate to perform every time.
That scene was performed more than 200 times, and Ren Suxi slapped himself thousands of times.
It can be said that without the tempering of drama performance, there would be no ease of retraction on the big screen later.
However, his career has just improved, and Ren Suxi suddenly ushered in the "darkest moment" of his life:
In 2019, she was suddenly accused of being a "third party" and accused by her ex-husband of "marital infidelity".
At that time, some media filmed a video of Ren Suxi and Dong Bo, an actor in the same crew, talking and laughing.
Only to see Dong Bo take the milk tea in her hand without seeing it, and take a sip with the same straw.
Subsequently, the selfie photo of the two was also exposed online, and the two returned to the hotel together in the evening.
Just when everyone thought that this was the prelude to the exposure of Ren Suxi's love affair, some netizens claimed to be the girlfriend of Dong Bo's ex-wife, pointing out that the responsibility Su Xi was a third party involved in the marriage.
Dong Bo's ex-wife, Ma Qiya, is a singer and actor in the China Coal Mine Literary troupe.
According to the information she gave, she and Dong Bo met in 2005 and married in 2014.
In 2016, she discovered the relationship between Dong Bo and Ren Suxi, and the two eventually chose to divorce at the end of 2017.
At this juncture, Ren Suxi's ex-husband Li Yang also stood up to hammer his ex-wife.
Although the two have been divorced for three years, Li Yang said that he has only now speculated that Ren Suxi was cheating in marriage at that time, and he has been hidden.
He even suffered a deaf ear because he couldn't stand the blow.
Under the accusations of the ex-husbands and ex-wives of both sides, Ren Suxi was very depressed for a while.
Although neither side took out a real hammer, the label of "third party" once made Ren Suxi a fox spirit that everyone shouted and beat.
Overnight fame and overnight "derailment" happened almost at the same time, was Ren Suxi really defeated?
03
With strength, isn't the sense of boundaries important?
In the blink of an eye, the scandal was exposed, and it had been two years.
For more than two years, emotionally, Ren Suxi may have learned to be obedient, or perhaps he may have eaten a long and wise one, and the media has never been able to capture the dynamics of her relationship.
In her career, she has performed one work after another, step by step, so that her recognizable face, from the big screen to the small screen, is known to more and more people.
In "The Unknown Generation", she played on the same stage with Chen Jianbin and Zhang Yu without showing timidity, and played the elderly young woman who was unexpectedly disabled.
In "Galaxy Tuition Class", she is a middle-aged woman who complains about her husband Deng Chao and dislikes her son all the time.
In "A Little Moving", she actually talked about love with Yan Chengxu, the "originator of idol drama", but the picture did not violate the sense of harmony.
She was even highly praised by the always picky Feng Xiaogang, saying that "she can hold up the texture of the movie alone", and also passed the cameo addiction in his recently supervised web drama "North and South".
Time has passed, as an outsider, we have been unable to verify whether Ren Suxi intervened as a "third party" in the end, and whether he was unfaithful to her husband and cheated in marriage.
But what we can see is that the word "derailment" is like a gangrene attached to the bone, always hidden behind the bright and beautiful.
No matter how powerful the star is, he can't escape the scrutiny of the public's eyes, whether it is cheating or having a close relationship, what the public can see is the scene where Ren Suxi drank a cup of milk tea with the male star at that time, which is the male star still wearing a wedding ring on his hand, and the two have taken an intimate photo.
Judging from these two real hammers, Ren Suxi's accusation is not unreasonable.
Jun did not see, the once hot little flower Zhang Xueying, just because on the set, and Yang Zi's boyfriend Qin Junjie drank the same bowl of peppery soup together, he was ridiculed by the netizens who ate melon to today, and the star path was devastated.
Jun did not see, Li Xiang's husband Wang Yuelun, first let the female friend sit on the co-pilot, which caused Li Xiang to be angry, and then acted intimately with the opposite sex in KTV, triggering divorce rumors.
In a relationship, both men and women should pay attention to the minimum boundaries.
After all, public opinion is ultimately harsher on women.
Whether it is to treat emotions or marriage, for their own sake, but also for the minimum sense of responsibility, to keep the boundaries of behavior, is the rightful meaning.
Yang Lan once said: Between husband and wife, in addition to love, there is also the righteousness of taking care of each other, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, the growth of common nurture, and the unforgettable kindness.
And all of this is based on the right boundaries.
With boundaries, you can better love yourself and love each other.
I am Pan Xingzhi, your personal emotional counselor. If you need professional help, send me a private message to help you get through an emotional crisis.