Why do children suddenly become timid and afraid of life after they reach the age of 2? The investigation learned that when they could not speak, most parents took their children out for a stroll and would say hello when they met acquaintances. Hold your baby's hand and say hello goodbye. At this time, the other party will praise this baby, saying oh, your baby really knows how to be polite, really cute and so on.
When the baby takes the initiative to learn to speak, you will find that grandpa is good, grandma is good, and he will also call this baby really sensible, small mouth is really sweet. When your baby is praised and recognized, he will happily follow your instructions. But suddenly one day, the baby stopped calling people, and even became timid and afraid of birth. Even when you see strangers, you will twist and pinch, you may feel very strange, what's going on? Wasn't it very sensible before, why did it suddenly change?
Some parents do not understand the laws of children's growth, in order to make their children polite, force their children to greet others. You will find that the baby not only does not cooperate, but even turns his face and turns his back to each other, making himself and the other party embarrassed. In fact, this is a typical manifestation of the child's entry into a sensitive period of order. In the process of growing up, he will continue to establish self-order, and when he learns new skills, he will use them frequently, and the same is true for speaking, greeting him just to make him more proficient in this skill. As you age, it also becomes more complex.
When he is confronted with unfamiliar people and things, he first shows self-vigilance and the act of constructing a new order. This is the baby observing, adjusting to the new environment. Timidity and fear of life are a manifestation of the child's adaptation to the environment. When he is ready, he will naturally accept new people and things. So we should pay attention to the child's growth law, do not force him to cooperate with instructions, you give him time and space to adapt to the new environment.
When your child meets someone you don't know, we can take the initiative to say hello to the other person, tell the baby who the other person is, and introduce your baby to the other person. This can not only resolve the embarrassment, but also give the child protection of his inner order and give him guidance for good behavior. Do you know? If parents can learn scientific parenting early, understand the growth characteristics of children at each stage, and master the key ability cultivation methods of children. Even if you encounter problems, you can deal with them specifically, and you can easily raise an excellent child.
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