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Recently, there has been a lot of negative news about Huang Lei's family.
First, Huang Duoduo read a typo and was criticized by the media.
Then Huang Lei was also exposed to all kinds of black materials, and the wind evaluation was unprecedentedly poor.
Even Sun Li danced a dance casually, and netizens said that the movements were weird, like a zombie dance.
The family that has been envied before has a tendency to blacken.
The reason behind this is worth talking about.
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Let's start with one thing from a while ago.
Someone posted a set of photos of Huang Duoduo at the barbershop online.
said she dyed her hair blonde again this time.
Because Huang Duoduo was deeply caught in the negative public opinion of "mispronouncing" at that time, netizens commented a little mercilessly.
Some people complained, saying that the child's hair color has never been "serious".
Today it is dyed purple, tomorrow it is dyed gold, and at a glance it is "not good at learning".
Some people also said that this is clearly Huang Lei bought a hot search again, and wanted to bring his daughter to the entertainment industry.
Some people also turned out the photos of Huang Duoduo before piercing his ears and wearing exposed clothes, saying everything.
The words were so ugly that Duoduo's mother Sun Li couldn't sit still.
She posted directly and stunned netizens.
Say 5 points in one breath:
First, the blonde girl in the photo is not Duoduo, it is netizens who use photos of strangers to move flowers.
Second, he denied that he had bought a hot search, and also made a poisonous oath: "If you buy it, you will be retributed!" ”
Third, Sun Li publicly responded to her daughter's yellow rumors for the first time.
said that he called the police directly at that time, but because the rumor-monger was the mother of two children, he forgave the other party.
Just locked a handwritten apology letter in a drawer, which is a piece of innocence left for Duoduo.
Fourth, for more typos, Sun Li admitted that she was "not serious, inattentive, not excellent, very undeserved", everyone criticized correctly.
Fifth, netizens ridiculed her for not dancing well, and she also responded: "I dance as a hobby, and I will continue to dance." ”
Immediately afterwards, 17 minutes later, Huang Lei rarely forwarded his wife's Weibo and said three points:
First, I am used to silence, because I have always thought about the self-cleansing of the purifier.
Second, he and his family and team have never bought hot searches.
Third, blame yourself very much, let Duoduo use her pain to teach herself to be brave.
It can be seen that this time, Huang Lei and the two really can't bear it.
Because recently, their family has been on the hot search for three days and two heads, which is not a good thing.
First, Huang Duoduo taught children to read on his public account, but he made mistakes one after another.
For example, "river embankment" is pronounced "river ti", "chuangdang" is pronounced "zhuāng dang", "wheat straw" is pronounced "wheat xian", and "defense" is pronounced "anti-xiè".
You know, Huang Duoduo is already in his second year of high school, and he has always been praised for being extremely excellent.
As a result, even these well-known Chinese characters could not be read accurately, so that many people bluntly said that Huang Duoduo's "Xueba" character collapsed.
Immediately afterwards, a dancing video that Sun Li had posted on the Internet before was picked up by netizens.
It is said that she dances with a startle, like a "witch practice", dancing a big god.
And there are even more negative comments about Huang Lei.
People turned up various videos of his past, saying that he was too "daddy" and a typical "PUA master".
Search for "Huang Lei" on station B, and the videos that come out are basically like this.
A family who originally had a good reputation suddenly became the object of scolding, what is going on?
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Let's go back to Huang Lei first.
Huang Lei was born in an acting family and has achieved excellent results since childhood.
In 1990, he was just admitted to the Beijing Film Academy and starred in Chen Kaige's movie "Sing While Walking".
Chen Kaige's evaluation of him is:
"There is a little melancholy between the eyebrows, and it is also a pestle, which is too suitable for acting in literary films."
Of course, Huang Lei did not disappoint Chen Kaige.
Play a blind boy into three points.
Later, Huang Lei filmed "Singing in the Night".
He has semi-long hair, melancholy eyes, pure temperament, and the taste of literary youth.
In 1997, Huang Lei released his first music album "Sing While Walking", which was also popular in the music industry.
After that, he was even more vigorous, acting in "April Days on Earth", "Orange is Red" and "Like a Watery Year", and carried out the "literary and artistic male god" to the end.
In those years, Huang Lei had a face that did not eat human fireworks and became the white moonlight in the hearts of many people.
That melancholy literary temperament fascinated countless girls.
I also liked him back then, and I still have his albums.
Of course, later we all knew that Huang Lei in life was not as cold as the play played.
On the contrary, he talks a lot, has a broken mouth, and likes to study what he eats.
It is said that once, he fried steamed buns in an alcohol pot in his dormitory, and his roommates came to grab it.
While dodging, Huang Lei laughed and said, "Call dad, call me dad and I'll give you food." ”
The roommates were not angry either, and they came over and called "Daddy".
After becoming famous, he also recreated the scene of that year in a show.
Around 1994, Huang Lei made advertisements for Dabao, earning 400 yuan a day.
He took the income back to school, and the first thing he did was invite the buddies in the whole dormitory to the restaurant.
Looking at his roommate's appearance of eating Haisei, he was extremely proud in his heart.
"At that moment, I felt like a dad to people all over the world."
——In Huang Lei's heart, it seems that he does have a hobby of "being a father".
So there should be a reason why he is now said to be "full of daddy".
In fact, Huang Lei, who became lucky in middle age, also played various types of dads.
And in the play, whether it is a good husband or a good father, they almost have unified characteristics:
Broken mouth, good teacher, and a little greasy.
Some people say that he "coiled himself out of the pulp" and acted like everything.
Some people also feel that he should be such a person in reality.
Now in the entertainment industry, everyone sees Huang Lei and has to shout "Mr. Huang".
And Huang Lei also entered this role, like to be a life mentor and show authority.
In variety shows, from time to time a meal of chicken soup for the soul.
This also made him gradually labeled with some not very good labels: "pretending", "love to preach", "daddy", "brainwashing master"...
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In addition to "Teacher Huang", Huang Lei also has two images in the eyes of the public: he loves his wife and can educate children.
He has told on various occasions that he and his wife Sun Li fell in love at first sight.
In Huang Lei's eyes, Sun Liren is beautiful, but very confused and unassertive.
Therefore, big and small things in the family have to worry about and make decisions.
But Sun Li sometimes jokingly said: "Don't brainwash me." ”
The two had participated in an interview show together before, and the host asked Sun Li if there were conflicts and disputes between the husband and wife, who would generally compromise first.
Sun Li replied like this:
"It was him when I was in love, and it was me when I got married.
Sometimes I think I'm right, but he keeps talking, and I think if I'm really wrong. ”
At that time, everyone didn't feel much.
But recently, Huang Lei's negativity has become more and more, and netizens have turned out these videos, carefully tasted, and suddenly realized: Isn't this the "PUA master".
Of course, in the past two years, Huang Lei's family has been the most searched, and his daughter Huang Duoduo has to be the most.
She was first known to everyone in 2014, when she was taken by Huang Lei to participate in "Where Did Daddy Go".
In the show, Huang Duoduo is particularly well-behaved and sensible, and mature.
Since then, Huang Duoduo has often appeared in the media.
Mother Sun Li will share various little things about Huang Duoduo on Weibo.
At the same time, Huang Duoduo's various excellent deeds often flooded the media.
She translated 3 English novels at the age of 8.
At the age of 9, he dubbed French films.
12-year-old partner He Jiong starred in dramas.
He won an international award at the age of 13.
At the age of 16, he directed his own stage play.
For a long time, "Huang Duoduo" was a proper child of others, and no one could match it.
Every time it appears, it is amazing.
Everything she does, it seems that she can be on the hot search.
And Huang Lei has also talked about his educational philosophy many times:
"Doto is a thinking person, she has her secrets, her thoughts, her life.
She doesn't belong to me, I don't impose my will on her, and we get along like friends. ”
There is also this widely circulated "love theory":
"My daughter is going to fall in love at 15, and I feel normal.
I don't think it's called early love.
Love is love, and the word early love is very bastard. ”
He said that his daughter was completely "free-range", not only dyeing her hair, piercing her ears, but also "never caring about learning".
It was probably at this time that people slowly began to feel uncomfortable in their hearts.
You see, most of us ordinary people are exhausted to stare at the children's learning, and the children's grades are not good.
And other people's children have never "managed", and they are still so good.
Our children are afraid that her early love will affect learning.
But the parent of that excellent child, it doesn't matter if he says "the word early love is very asshole, he should let the child fall in love."
This feeling, it's like when I can't eat, you eat meat next to me, and you keep talking.
In everyone's hearts, they were a little panicked.
And after this emotion accumulates for a long time, sooner or later it will explode.
So this time Huang Duoduo read the wrong word "rollover", which made many people hold on.
"How do you educate children?"
"Pretending to be a cultural person has overturned, so powerful why not teach your daughter well."
Why is there so much hostility towards everyone meeting a 17-year-old girl?
A high-praise reply was:
"What everyone dislikes, in fact, is not Huang Duoduo at all.
It's his dad who shows himself very good everywhere. ”
Yes, those scoldings are not nitpicking for a child.
It is the outbreak of long-term grudges against the child father who is full of superiority.
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In fact, many people are doing this thing of drying children.
It is not only Huang Lei's family who expose children in the entertainment industry.
Tian Liang, Lu Yi, and Deng Chao will all share their children's daily lives on social platforms.
But they don't deliberately mold children so perfectly that the public feels unattainable.
He will not be so proud to teach others how to be a father.
It's less annoying.
This is probably what Huang Lei should pay more attention to in the future.
He said the other day that "Duoduo taught him to be brave with pain", which is actually inaccurate.
Duoduo's situation should teach Huang Lei two other things——
Sincere and low-key.
It's okay to tan children, but we have to be sincere.
Excellent tanning, but also insufficient tanning.
Let the public see a more real child.
If Huang Lei had told everyone earlier, because Duoduo went to an international school, his Chinese level was very low.
Then she mispronounced, and there was no talk of a rollover.
On the contrary, parents mold their children into excellent goddesses.
Then she mispronounced "embankment" and it seems unforgivable.
Then, more important than sincerity, there is low-key.
I actually still think Huang Duoduo is very good.
But should parents go around promoting her excellence, or even mentoring other parents from above?
There's a big question mark here.
Because ordinary parents may not have the resources like yours.
They can only look at your excellent daughter and sigh.
When I turned around again and saw my own child, he was ordinary, and even sick.
It's probably a little bad in my heart.
Once there is such a subtle change in the hearts of the public, the envy you have won is likely to unconsciously turn into jealousy, dissatisfaction and disgust.
These negative emotions have been brewing for a long time, and they will always find an opportunity to burst out and devour you.
This is the complexity of living in the world.
It is also the reason why you should not spit when you eat meat.
You might say, what's wrong with me eating meat to my heart's content? My own meat, how to eat how to eat, do you care?
Yes, others don't care.
But know that people live in people.
If the people around you look at you unfavorably, then even if you have done nothing wrong, you will encounter unexpected trouble.
So Chinese talk about brocade night walking.
You are happy, you have money, you are successful, you know it yourself.
Try to stimulate others with your happiness as little as possible.
This is kindness and a blessing for oneself.
Light up [Like] + [Watching], to every excellent child, and their low-key parents.
About the author
Author: Li Yueliang. Highly popular writer, new feminist, solid writing craftsman. Grow up with reason and wisdom with thousands of readers. The new book "Live Soberly" was a hot seller on the Internet. WeChat public account: Li Yueliang.