Mama Wang is a kind old man in the countryside who generously accepted the newborn baby entrusted by her son and daughter-in-law. Mother Wang is very experienced in taking care of children, and every day she will prepare clean bottles for children, warm water heating, and hold and coax the baby to sleep. Qingqing and her daughter-in-law were very relieved, because the child had hardly been sick since it was handed over to Wang Mama.
However, one day when the child was 6 months old, he suddenly began to have a high fever that did not go away and kept crying. Qingqing and her daughter-in-law rushed the child to the hospital, and after examination, the doctor found that the child was diagnosed with cerebral palsy. This diagnosis shocked the family because the child had been very healthy and had never had any problems.
Through the doctor's questioning, they realized that the child's cerebral palsy may be due to Wang Mama often shaking the child in an incorrect way to put him to sleep. Shaking a child is a very dangerous practice, especially for newborn children, because it can cause brain damage. Without this wrong way of dealing with it, the child may have been growing up healthy.
When the family heard the doctor's words, they were very distressed and helpless. They love their children deeply, so their heartache and sadness are self-evident. At this time, they also clearly realized that Wang Mama is not a harmless grandmother, but may destroy the healthy growth of the child due to her own ignorance and mistakes.
This incident made people deeply reflect on the way children are treated. Especially for elderly grandparents, they may think that what they are doing is the right thing, but in fact it has a serious impact on the health of their children. Therefore, we need to educate and remind them more so that they can take better care of their children and follow the doctor's advice to properly handle their children's health.
Through this story, Xiaoyu's mother has something to say that coaxing children is a problem that every parent encounters in daily life, so parents need to avoid the following wrong ways when coaxing children.
How to coax children correctly: four misunderstandings of parents
In the process of parenting, parents often need to coax their children, which is a headache for many parents. Because children's emotions are sometimes difficult to control, and children of different ages need different types of coaxing. If parents do not know how to coax their children correctly, it is easy to make some mistakes and cause children to have bad psychological and emotional problems. So, how to coax children correctly? Let's take a look at a few common misconceptions parents make.
First, let the child be overly dependent
Many parents will continue to coax their children when coaxing their children, this practice will make children overly dependent on their parents, when children encounter problems, they will naturally pin their hopes on their parents, rather than taking the initiative to think about ways to solve problems, so that once the child leaves the parents, it may feel helpless and lost. Therefore, parents should avoid cultivating children's psychology of excessive dependence on themselves, and should encourage children to try to solve problems on their own and gradually improve their confidence and self-care ability.
Second, overindulge children
Excessive indulgence of children is also a wrong way to coax children. When the child keeps crying or willful, some parents may try their best to meet the child's requirements, this practice will make the child think that crying or vexatious is the right way to achieve the goal, it is conceivable that in the future growth process, the child will become more and more difficult to control. Therefore, parents need to have measurement and proportion, can not overindulge their children, can not let children do whatever they want, should gradually establish some rules and constraints according to the age and personality of the child.
Third, neglect of the child's emotions
When coaxing children, parents need to understand the child's inner world and pay attention to the child's true feelings. If parents just wait for their children to calm down on their own and fail to pay attention to their children's actual situation, children may feel neglected and isolated, and even let this feeling of loneliness and anxiety last longer. Therefore, parents should try to communicate with their children, understand their feelings and situations, and give appropriate care and support, so that children can better sleep peacefully.
Threaten or punish the child
In the process of coaxing children, parents should avoid threats or punishments. Parents use this method, often more exciting children's emotions, children may cry or play scoundrels and other ways to express their dissatisfaction, in the long run, children's psychological problems will become more and more serious. Therefore, parents should use other methods, such as telling stories, singing, caring for children, and establishing emotional connections and close relationships with children.
The right way to coax children
In the process of coaxing children, parents should clarify some principles of coaxing children.
First, respect the child's emotions and feelings, understand the child's needs and requirements, and adopt a gentle, simple, direct and patient way to coax the child to sleep.
Second, try not to let your child fall asleep by depriving or hurting it. This way will cause the child to have depressed and resistant emotions, which may lead to psychological problems for a longer period of time.
Third, use other methods to replace deprivation, such as storytelling, singing, playing small games, etc., these methods can distract the child's attention and relieve the child's emotions.
Fourth, when coaxing children, it is necessary to give children a certain degree of autonomy and related control, so that children can maintain a sense of control, so that children will feel comfortable and relaxed.
conclusion
The right way to coax children can help children relieve their emotions, enhance their ability to protect themselves, and help children form a foundation for healthy growth. Therefore, when parents coax their children, they must avoid the above four misunderstandings and coax their children in a gentle, patient, understanding and respectful way. In this process, parents should continue to learn, improve their parenting ability, actively establish a good emotional connection with their children, and experience and feel the happiness and confusion of their children with their hearts. Anyone can be a good parent, as long as they really care for their children, trust their children, and pay attention and listen to their children, they will get their children's trust and reward.