#2023育儿季 #
Lao Du's 32nd original article
I can always see all kinds of parents on the Internet who have crashed because of checking homework.
After the news that a father supervised his child's homework and went to the emergency room broke out, it caused public opinion to be angry.
Calmness is a huge problem.
When watching the family inheritors who quit smoking and drinking and worked hard to conceive break their fingers and calculate how much 10+4 is equal to, the sadness and indignation cannot be suppressed with reason.
But emotions also don't help solve the 10+4 equals thing.
For example, if someone scolds you for doing something wrong, the first thing you get up is emotional feedback, whether things are right or not is not a problem to think about at this time. You may keep your mouth shut because of the identity of the other person, but it does not prevent you from thinking about the other person in your heart.
So from a problem-solving perspective, this emotion is worthless except to choke yourself.
The above is the truth, the truth is not in line with human nature most of the time.
For example, not letting you lose your temper.
For example, one person does not have to bear the temper of another.
For example, although you come home late, your daughter-in-law does not lose her temper with you.
For example, the child will not do 10+4, and you will not lose your temper with the child.
It's a bit roundabout, but you can try to understand because it's not human, but he makes sense.
If you understand the truth, you can solve the problem.
10+4=？
Is this difficult?
Not necessarily, it depends on who the target is.
For example, how do you write the chemical equation for the decomposition of water into hydrogen and oxygen?
Junior high school knowledge, come on.
Don't say anything that you can write or can't write. The main thing is to tell everyone that it is normal not to write.
You can't measure children against your mature knowledge structure, it's not fair.
What you think is simple things children don't necessarily think this way, and what you find difficult children don't necessarily think this way.
This is the path of children's development, if you think that simple children feel simple, you feel that difficult children must feel as difficult as you, then the child is at best at the same level as you.
Use less reason to measure your family, and be humane.
Swallow the emotion that you are stupid, and try to understand how this idiot thinks about the question 10+4=15.
To ask, to seduce, when the child can tell you his path of thinking, you can find out what is wrong. It is possible to solve the problem.
For example, he feels that there is a 1 in 10, and then adds 4, which equals 15, and so on. If you have a path, you can find problems. This is a bit of ten did not understand, is this easier to accept than the child will not be counted 10+4.
Of course, this thing is actually quite difficult, to control anger, to do it by the family!
However, you can continue to go on a rampage. (Adjournment)
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