Come and come, do a life choice question.
Let's say, you're a male. In your 20s, when you are ready to work hard for your career, two girls appear in life:
One is your childhood sweetheart, a girl who grew up in the countryside with you. She is pure, brave, and passionate, and her simple personality is very much liked even by your parents.
The other is a Shanghai girl you met when you were studying in the county seat. She is intelligent, beautiful, modern, and a new age woman you admire.
These two girls like you.
Before you came out to work in the city, you had already established a relationship with your childhood sweetheart, but you couldn't help but have more contact with the Shanghai girl, because you had more common topics.
On one side is emotional responsibility, on the other is spiritual resonance.
If it were you, how would you choose?
The real choice of human nature, is it the future or the conscience?
The above is the difficult problem in front of Gao Jalin (played by Chen Xiao), the actor of "The Road of Life".
Gao Garin, an intellectual youth in Gaojia Village, northern Shaanxi. He has always aspired to get out of the countryside and realize his ambitions and ideals in the city.
Unfortunately, luck is back, and every time I can't take a step forward because of an accident. When he was most depressed, it was his childhood sweetheart Liu Qiaozhen (played by Li Qin) who encouraged him to cheer up.
Liu Qiaozhen let him read and write articles at home with peace of mind, go up the mountain to work by himself, and if there is a bite of meat from me, there will be a mouthful of soup for you. Liu Qiaozhen's confession was sincere and warm, and he accepted Liu Qiaozhen's hot love.
However, when Gao Garin went to the county town as a correspondent and had more contact with Huang Yaping (played by Zhang Jiani), who was an announcer, his heart began to waver.
Huang Yaping and Gao Jalin were high school classmates, both had good grades when they were in school, and they were literary and artistic young people of that era. You know the love of literary and artistic youth, as long as you happen to like the same book and the same song, then we are made in heaven and earth.
Gao Garin likes to write, Huang Yaping likes to dance, the two have similar values, can talk about poetry and songs, life philosophy.
The point is that Huang Yaping is a girl from Shanghai, has seen the world, and in some ways, she knows more than Gao Garin. Behind Huang Yaping is the vast world that Gao Garin yearns for.
For Gao Garin, choosing Liu Qiaozhen or Huang Yaping is not just a choice question of love, it is also a "struggle of conscience and future".
Liu Qiaozhen, the root of Gao Garin, represents his familiar past. In the face of Liu Qiaozhen, Gao Garin can release emotions without scruples. What Liu Qiaozhen brought to Gao Garin was a direct and violent surge of emotions.
But on the other hand, Liu Qiaozhen and the countryside behind her are the places that Gao Garin wants to escape.
Huang Yaping is a new world for Gao Garin. There was a stronger spiritual resonance between them (including imagination of a vast future) that he had never been able to obtain in a rural environment in the past.
The appearance of Huang Yaping made Gao Garin see the possibility of a new life. Of course, there is also the nature of people who are "greedy for the new and forget the old".
Human emotions are complex and multistaged. It may initially be the pull of hormones and dopamine, and once it comes to reality, emotional choices are linked to an individual's pursuit of value.
Gao Garin, who has gone through the low tide, in the stage of career development, what he wants more is Huang Yaping, who can help him "progress". Liu Qiaozhen's love is not so important to him at this moment.
In the play, Gao Garin chose Huang Yaping, who was "more favorable to his future", and failed Liu Qiaozhen, and many people scolded Gao Garin as "scum", but it seems that human nature is like this. "Self-interest" is human nature, but love is to give up part of yourself, and Gogarin is absolutely cowardly emotionally.
As the play says, "Go right, it's luck; If you go wrong, you have to bear the responsibility of suffering." Gogarin then also paid the price for his "selfish" choice.
Why wasn't she knocked down by a broken love?
Gogarin's choice was not surprising. What surprised people was Liu Qiaozhen's choice.
Although Liu Qiaozhen was a victim in this relationship, fortunately she was not trapped by love and was defeated by fate.
She has a strong vitality in her, knowing that "her own road has to go by itself, and only when she goes can she have her own way", which makes her not go to tragedy after being betrayed by her lover.
Liu Qiaozhen does have a naïve side in her feelings.
In the early stage of this relationship, Liu Qiaozhen's performance was that Wang Baochuan wanted to send her two baskets of wild vegetables when she saw it. She is dedicated to the sake of Gogarin and gives unconditionally. Gao Garin said that I would not make money, Liu Qiaozhen patted his chest and said "I will", Gao Garin said that I was not willing to go to the ground, and Liu Qiaozhen said "I will go down".
When Gao Garin went to the county town to work as a correspondent, Liu Qiaozhen willingly stayed in the countryside to wait for him. Every day, he took the initiative to go to Gogarin's house to help with work, take care of his parents, and was not afraid of gossip from the villagers.
Such selfless dedication, in the end, in exchange for Gao Garin's breakup, in the eyes of outsiders, Liu Qiaozhen is very stupid.
This "stupidity" lies in the fact that she believes too much in love and ignores human nature.
However, Liu Qiaozhen has a good point, she will not passively accept fate like Wang Baochuan and accept it instead.
Liu Qiao cherishes Gao Garin's behavior, is active, and she is the leader in this relationship.
Her love for Gogarin, not because he was handsome or because he was promising, could bring some possibility to her life.
What she admires is his ambition, and what she sees in Gao is ideals, knowledge, wisdom, a better and broader world.
She regrets that she was deprived of the possibility of education and could not read and read like Gogarin, so she was more willing to support Gogarin's dream, she hoped that her lover would have a good life, and would not be aggrieved and regretful like her.
This is also why she would say to Gogarin "I will not make you suffer", she does not want to see Gogarin sink more than anyone. The more simple and warm Liu Qiaozhen's love is, the more Gao Garin's emotional selfishness and cowardice are revealed.
She can also make herself braver and happier by loving Gogarin.
For example, Liu Qiaozhen read the movie magazine sent to her by Gao Garin, and would withstand the strange eyes of the whole village and burn her head to become fashionable. Even Gogarin could not help but boast "you are amazing."
In this relationship, Liu Qiaozhen is giving more, but she also has gains and growth. She is not the kind of person who is blind for love and completely forgets herself because of love.
Therefore, when Gao Garin and her proposed to break up, although Liu Qiaozhen was very sad, she was not knocked down.
This may be the reality she has seen for a long time, and Gogarin and she are not on the same path. Her company is not destined to last long.
Liu Qiaozhen did not complain, did not resent. She chooses to accept reality and throws away the red scarf that Gogarin gave her, cutting off all thoughts.
In this love that ended without a problem, Liu Qiaozhen saw her heart clearly and the life that really suits her. She loves bravely and decisively lets go.
Liu Qiaozhen's love instinct and strong vitality allow her to let go of the past and continue to find a new life.
In the second half of the story, Liu Qiaozhen opened up her own career line and tied up with the horse who really knows how to cherish her,
She did not delay her life because of "Chen Shimei".
Liu Qiaozhen's too naïve side made her fall into the "love trap".
Thankfully, she invested in "love itself" rather than tying her entire life to another person.
Her living life will not collapse because of someone's disappearance. Liu Qiaozhen's love has always been warm and sober.
Those women who dare to awaken
In addition to Liu Qiaozhen in "The Road of Life", other female characters are also quite positive on the emotional road. They all have the courage and energy to love.
For women of that era, it was difficult to leave the "order of parents, the words of matchmakers" to fight for their love. But the girls in this drama want to try to regain their dominance.
Like Huang Yaping, it is not appropriate to intervene in the relationship between Gao Jalin and Liu Qiaozhen, but compared with the indecisive Gao Garin, Huang Yaping's attitude in the relationship is more resolute. She has a very clear inner boundary between loving and not loving.
She knew that she had no way to fall in love with Zhang Kenan, who had been pursuing her, so, even if Gao Garin did not make a choice, Huang Yaping took the initiative to break up with Zhang Kenan, not planning to treat the other party as a "spare tire".
Later, Huang Yaping and Gao Garin were forced to separate because they reported the incident.
Huang Yaping returned to Shanghai, continued her studies, and devoted her spirit to her favorite dance.
Huang Yaping fought so hard for Gao Garin, but she was not stupid enough to take love for a person as all.
Another woman, Chen Xiuli, is from Shanghai and is studying at university in Shanghai. This was a very good girl at the time.
Her mother always wanted her to find a local man to marry. But Chen Xiuli fell in love with Gao Shuangxing from Gaojia Village.
She did not dislike Gao Shuangxing's origin, but saw his simple and motivated side. When Gao Shuangxing was confused, Chen Xiuli encouraged him to submit articles, supported him to participate in the student union election, and promoted his progress. Chen Xiuli's love made Gao Shuangxing find self-confidence.
For his choice, Chen Xiuli is also very determined. When her mother objected, Chen Xiuli did not back down and always insisted on herself.
The female characters in "The Road of Life" love actively and very soberly.
In their relationship, they see their own needs: Liu Qiaozhen wants to get out of the mountain, Huang Yaping wants spiritual resonance, and Chen Xiuli doesn't want to be just a "good girl" for her mother.
What they pursue is love, and the right to love. Their group portraits enrich the connotation of this drama. They let people see that in that era, women were also striving for their ideal life.
Sister E's epilogue
Liu Qiaozhen's love is simple, pure, and passionate, which is an almost extinct way of loving people at present, in fact, loving bravely, no matter when, is not a bad thing.
In our generation, there are too many fetters in reality, but we have lost the energy to love unbridled. Day after day, people actually need some heat to keep our lives alive. Love is one of the things that can make people feel the life force.
As Chizuko Ueno said, it is better to talk about love than not to talk about it. "Because in the love field, people are able to learn deeply about themselves and others. Being in love helps us understand our desires, jealousy, manipulativeness, egoism, tolerance and detachment. ”
Love is a process by which we recognize ourselves and fill you up, "to love and not to be loved." Those who know how to love, love bravely, and have the ability to love are strong. He/she can experience a richer life than anyone else.
However, we should not be overly optimistic about love. Love requires luck, it is not in the hands of one person. Even if you are as brave as Liu Qiaozhen, there will be times when you "love the wrong person".
For them, love is an accident, not a result. "Love" itself is not the whole of their lives.
Later, Liu Qiaozhen went to Shanghai to seek medical treatment for her child, and the hardships of life pushed her along, but it also opened up a broader space;
Huang Yaping continues to pursue her dance dreams, and when she reunites with Gao Garin, she does not change the value order of self-priority;
What awaits Chen Xiuli may be the cruel truth, but she knows how to face the storm of life with kindness but not weakness.
The result should not be a burden on the process. What we should learn is to love passionately and soberly, to preserve our ability to love, and not to let it wear down in life.
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