Teacher Fu Chong (famous actor and teacher of Chen Dahui Traditional Culture Forum Sharing) once said a passage about Hu Xiaolin's feelings for Wang Xihai.
Fu Chong: ... The last time Teacher Hu Xiaolin and I read The report of Big Brother Xihai, Teacher Hu couldn't cry, and he said: "Shame on the last student, people who can't even suck their own phlegm, let alone their parents' phlegm." ”............ At that time, I was also present, teacher Hu Xiaolin could not cry, and we could not cry when we were low, because it was really tears of repentance. Then, after going back, Teacher Hu Xiaolin forwarded a message to each of our teachers, so that we should wake up ourselves every day, learn from Big Brother Wang Xihai, and enter the Samadhi of learning Big Brother Wang Xihai. ......
2011 China Top Ten Filial Pieties Nomination: Wang Xihai
【Summary】 Wang Xihai spent 26 years taking meticulous care of his vegetative father, and he has not married for his father. After his father's death in 2006, Wang Xihai began volunteering to repay well-wishers. He often lectured everywhere, taking the nursing knowledge he had mastered for so many years and was filial piety
In 1980, Wang Xihai's father became a vegetative person due to cerebral hemorrhage. The mother was frail and sickly, and the younger brother suffered from congenital physical disability and could not be employed, and the burden of the whole family fell on the shoulders of Wang Xihai, who was only 23 years old at the time. Faced with such a situation, Wang Xihai first resolutely gave up the opportunity to work in Malaysia, and then took a long leave from the unit until he was finally laid off and unemployed, and for 25 years he took care of his father, who could not take care of himself. At that time, he swore in his heart that he would make his father live to be 80 years old.
Wang Xihai has two older brothers and an older sister. Wang Xihai saw that his brothers and sisters had already started a family, and the family was quite difficult, so he took the initiative to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of his father. In order to prevent his father from suffering from pressure sores, he would turn over to his father every half hour every day, and during the day he would help his father to sit in a wheelchair for half an hour to 1 hour, and also massage and knock on his back five or six times. In order to make his father lie down comfortably, he used 8 pillow pads on the back, under the legs and other different parts.
Wang Xihai had to take care of his father until after 12:30 in the middle of the night, and was replaced by his mother in the middle of the night. In addition, Wang Xihai also washes two large basins of clothes or bed sheets and other clothes a day. The mother was distressed by her son and asked her son to go to work and take care of his wife by himself, but the son said, "You can't fall, if you want that, I can't serve the two of you." ”
In order to take care of his father, he gave up his job and personal marriage, and Wang Xihai, who was more than 50 years old, had long passed the age when he should start a family. The most important thing in his life was his father. He said: "If I become a family, I will definitely take the family as the first priority, and there will be less time to take care of my father; and if I do not become a family, my father will always be the first." Over the years, there have been many people who have to introduce me to the object, but I can't give up my parents, and the first thing I have to do is to play the role of a son. I think I'm satisfied. ”
Wang Xihai's biggest wish when he was young was to be a crew member, but he had to give up for the sake of his father. He said: "I can't cure my father's illness, but I can comfort and take care of him in life and spirit, but I can do it." As long as my father lives, I feel happy and happy. ”
1. "When my father's rough tea and light rice, I was raised, as long as the old father is alive for one day, I will let him enjoy a day of happiness!" Wang Xihai had to feed his father 6 meals a day.
2. The father in the wheelchair always can't lift his head, Wang Xihai wrapped a soft towel around his father's forehead, and cleaned his father's mouth with a homemade watering can.
3. The old father turned over once in half an hour, and the 12 pillows sewn by Wang Xihai were also in different positions with the father's body cushion.
4. This rubber tube saved his father's life, and whenever he heard the sound of phlegm in his father's throat, Wang Xihai put the tube into his father's mouth. Wang Xihai said that for the sake of his father, he could give anything.
5. Listening to the radio is my father's greatest hobby. For 24 years, although his father did not have any expression, Wang Xihai still played it for his father every day.
6. At 21:00 on January 9, Wang Xihai, who was awarded the "National Star of Filial Piety and Respect for the Elderly", returned from Beijing.
7. Wang Xihai's family lives in an old-fashioned house without heating, and the narrow corridors are full of firewood.
[Wang Xihai: The old people in the world are my parents]
The story of Wang Xihai, a filial son of Dalian, who has been taking care of his vegetative father who cannot take care of himself for more than 20 years has touched thousands of people, and at 21:00 p.m., Wang Xihai was invited by the organizing committee to walk on the podium of the "National Entrepreneur Forum" and bowed deeply to the statue of Confucius on the podium. At the forum, he still mentioned his father the most, talking about how he had kept his vegetative father bedridden for 20 years without pressure sores. In the face of doubts, Wang Xihai repeatedly said, "If I don't take good care of my father, I am afraid that there will be an 'invisible blow' that will destroy myself", and he hopes that his father will leave without pain and regret. It vividly explains how to avoid the psychology of "children want to be raised and not waiting".
Wang Xihai said he had been invited to a university to teach nursing, but he refused. When the audience asked if it was because "you are caring with your heart, not skill", the simple Northeastern man simply replied "yes".
"Old man and old man", Wang Xihai not only carefully took care of his father, but also gave care to the elderly around him, after scrubbing the elderly in the community, the old man became "rosy in the face and walked shakily", Wang Xihai said, "The old people in the world are my parents." ”
When Wang Xihai, who is still single, was asked what he wanted from his partner, the humble man said: Follow the fate.
"Dalian Filial Piety 24 Years Only Live for Father" Follow-up report Wang Xihai: Old Man and Old Man
Dalian Xiaozi 24 Years Only Live for His Father" Follow-up report Wang Xihai: Old Wu Lao and People's Old Reporter Lu Zhenzhen On October 5 and 6, this newspaper continuously reported two articles, "Dalian Xiaozi Only Lived for His Father for 24 Years" and "Dalian Xiaozi Online Touched Thousands of Readers", which caused great repercussions in society.
Yesterday, the family of a patient who had been in the same hospital as Wang Xihai called this newspaper, saying that Wang Xihai often helped others in the hospital and used his own methods to explain to everyone what filial piety is.
Yesterday, the reporter came to Wang Xihai's home again and talked to him about the situation in the hospital, And Wang Xihai said: "Over the years, I can't remember how much time I spent with my old father in the hospital. In front of the old man's hospital bed, I saw many types of children, and the performance of some of them chilled me. It may be that I have been serving my father for a long time, and I am always willing to help when I see other elderly people asking for help. ”
Once, Wang Xihai saw that an old man in the same ward as his father was paralyzed, and after being sent by four or five children, the children disappeared, and only a full-time escort was found to take care of the elderly. And the escort is also confused, every day when feeding the elderly to eat, regardless of whether the old man swallows this mouthful or not, followed by another bite, the old man is often held red. Wang Xihai bought fritters in the morning, and the old man ate several of them. The nurses and Wang Xihai were already familiar with each other, and when they saw him coming with his father behind his back, they all took the initiative to come forward to help, as long as they could provide it, they would provide it first. Some family members asked Wang Xihai to ask the nurse for a bed and sleep well at night. He shook his head and said, "I have to turn my father over every half an hour at night, what if I always sleep in bed and get used to not being able to get up every night to take care of my father?" So every day, Wang Xihai leaned on his father's bed to rest for a while, and got up "on time" every half an hour to turn his father over.
Another time, Wang Xihai saw that the old man on the bed next to him was in a very bad physical condition, and the old man's son was waiting next to him, but he may also know that the old man's time was short, and when he saw that there were family members playing poker in the corridor, he played with those people, and asked Wang Xihai to come over and "make a handle". This made Wang Xihai angry, and Yan Ci rejected him. Seeing the old man lying alone on the bed, Wang Xihai couldn't bear it, just like taking care of his father to take care of the old man.
After a few days, the old man did not show any expression when he saw his son coming, but when he saw Wang Xihai come over, his eyes would always move, and Wang Xihai understood that it was the old man's happy expression. Wang Xihai said with emotion: "The more I see this kind of chilling thing, the more I have to take care of my old father, and I don't believe that the conscience of society can still be gone?" ”