The TV series "Happiness on the Road" is based on "A Rape Case Twenty Years Ago". Li Li and Ma Gang are in love, if it were not for the fact that they met three little on the date, Ma Gang was knocked unconscious, and Li Li was ruined by three men, they would soon be married.
Unfortunately, the sky did not go according to people's wishes, and when Li Li and Ma Gang were in love, there was such a bad thing, Ma Gang could not accept Li Li, who was no longer simple, and chose to break up. When Li Li's thoughts were gray, Liu Dong appeared. Under the care of Liu Dong, Li Li regained her self-confidence. The two got married and had children. But after marriage, they were not happy, and when Li Li proposed divorce, Liu Dong agreed. He said he had had too much pain in his marriage.
At first, I thought that Li Li was lucky to meet the kind Liu Dong. But after reading the original work, I found that there was no love between them, only each other's calculations. Liu Dong had a painful life in marriage, which was related to Li Li, but these pains were all self-inflicted.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >1. Weigh the pros and cons before marriage. </h1>
Liu Dong was born in the countryside, his parents are rural people facing the loess with their backs to the sky, Liu Dong stayed in the big city as a doctor after studying medicine, which is a very worthy thing to show off in their hometown. As soon as Liu Dong thought of those fathers and fellow countrymen, he was full of confidence, and his future was no longer on the same level as them.
But Liu Dong, who is full of self-confidence, after meeting the proud nurse Li Li, his sense of inferiority is like a mushroom after the rain. Li Li is beautiful-looking, she is not only a city person, her mother has a good job, and her father is also the director of foreign trade.
Liu Dong felt half short in front of her. Liu Dong wants to leave the countryside completely, marry a wife in the city, and completely become a city person, and Li Li just meets all the conditions of Liu Dong.
Liu Dong began to pursue Li Li, and he accompanied her on the night shift, told her cold jokes, and gave her some worthless but exquisite small gifts. After Li Li accepted the gift, she said thank you. Liu Dong saw hope, and he thought that the girl's acceptance of the boy's gift meant that she also liked him.
But he didn't know that from childhood to adulthood, the men who pursued Li Li had never stopped. Li Li accepted his gift, but she was just accustomed to it. In Li Li's eyes, Liu Dong couldn't get into her eyes at all.
Liu Dong was not dead hearted and began to write love letters to Li Li, but every love letter was returned. Just when Liu Dong was at a loss, he suddenly heard the news that Li Li and Ma Gang were in love. Liu Dong was very unhappy in his heart, he told himself that love is sacrifice, as long as Li Li did not marry Ma Gang, he still had a chance.
No one expected that Li Li and Ma Gang would happen a few days before their engagement. Although Li Li and Ma Gang have been married, but there is no name for husband and wife, and now that she has been ruined by three men, Ma Gang cannot accept her who is already dirty no matter what.
After Li Li and Ma Gang broke up, they lived every day like a year. She wanted to hide it and use time to heal herself, as long as Ma Gang kept it a secret with her, no one would know about it. Unfortunately, after the three men were arrested, they confessed Li Li's name. Li Li's loss of virginity, everyone around her knows.
Li Li broke down and cried, and she decided to quit her job and go back to her hometown and lick her wounds at home. After Li Li left, Liu Dong was listless like a lost soul. Once, Li Li couldn't look at him. But now it was different, no one wanted to marry Li Li, except him.
Liu Dong pretended not to know about Li Li's loss of virginity, and continued to write love letters to her with deep affection, his love was hot and intense, as if there was no Li Li's life, and there was no point in his life.
Li Li, persuaded by her family, accepted Liu Dong. Liu Dong took Li Li's reply and ran around excitedly. He successfully took a leave of absence and rushed to Li Li's hometown.
In the original work, it was written that Li Li was not as excited as Liu Dong imagined, but looked calm. She said in a light tone: You are sincere to me?
Liu Dong nodded: It's true, if I have a false sentence, the sky will strike five thunderclaps.
Li Li continued: Liu Dong, you have listened well, I agreed to marry you, definitely not to let you pity me.
Liu Dong replied: I know that you are a hundred times stronger than me, and if I marry you, I have climbed high.
Before getting married, Liu Dong resigned from his job and returned to her hometown to work in accordance with Li Li's request. Liu Dong agreed one by one, and after marrying Li Li, Liu Dong's heart was both nervous and excited. He finally married the woman he had in mind, but this woman did not belong to her completely, and he was a little disappointed when he thought about it.
Every time Liu Dong is with Li Li, he has to do some psychological construction and convince himself to assume Li Li as a divorced woman. Only then could he forget about it and treat her as his wife.
After marriage, Liu Dong took good care of Li Li, but Li Li was still as lukewarm as before. Liu Dong was not happy in his heart, he felt that he had paid too much in this marriage, at least much more than Li Li. So he decided to do something to reverse this unbalanced effort.
The original book reads: "In the past, when I came home from work, he made dinner, and before going to bed, he would prepare foot washing water for Li Li, and he washed the clothes and quilts and socks at home. Half a year later, he was too lazy to do this kind of work, and even if he did it, he seemed absent-minded.
He didn't do this, only Li Li could do it. At first, Li Li seemed very uncomfortable, and deliberately made the pots and pans jingle. He said nothing and opened a newspaper to read for half a day. ”
"Life is a Solo Practice" writes: Don't say lightly who you are giving and sacrificing for, in fact, all the ultimate beneficiaries of giving and sacrificing are yourself. Life is a solo practice that has nothing to do with anyone, it is a path of mixed sorrow and joy, and there must be gifts at the end of the road, depending on whether you deserve it or not.
There is no such thing as a debt in life. Others give to you because others are happy; you give to others because you are willing.
Without that incident, Liu Dong and Li Li's lives would not have any intersection. Liu Dong knew in his heart that with Li Li's appearance and family situation, if he found someone to marry, he would be stronger than him. In Li Li's eyes, he wasn't even a spare tire.
But now he has embraced the beauty and become a real rich man. There is a father-in-law to help in the workplace, and there are beautiful people to accompany you home. Li Li didn't love him, he knew it before he got married. Li Li's sense of superiority has always been there. Even if she lost her virginity, she didn't look up to Liu Dong.
But Liu Dong wanted to grasp the initiative of marriage and let everyone revolve around him. This kind of thinking is too unrealistic. Liu Dong was not wronged in this marriage, no one forced him to marry Li Li, and Li Li did not marry without him.
In his opinion, he married Li Li is Li Li's blessing, and in the eyes of Li Li's family, it is Liu Dong who will exploit the loophole. Liu Dong's care for Li Li, and the so-called sacrifice he said, were all deserved.
Did Liu Dong marry Li Li really because he liked her? His kindness to Li Li, no other calculations? Li Li and Li Li's family know that Liu Dong's marriage to Li Li was weighed.
Li Li's appearance, family background, and connections are all out of Liu Dong's reach. Liu Dong can get what he wants, and Li Li will no longer be told by others to the end because she is married. This marriage is just about taking what you need.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >2. The easier it is to get, the less you know how to cherish it. </h1>
There is such a passage in the original work: the feeling of being newly married passed after half a year, and during this half a year, he only had Li Li as a woman in his eyes. Li Li was beautiful and good in his eyes, and after half a year, he was used to this kind of married life, and seemed to be familiar with every pore of Li Li. Li Li began to become less attracted to him in his life and consciousness.
In the hospital environment, there are always more women than men, and he looks at these women, sometimes secretly comparing themselves with Li Li. None of them seemed to be lili, but some people were more plump than Li Li, and some people had a more cute personality than Li Li, compared to it, Liu Dong found that Li Li was not so good, not so perfect.
He thought coldly of the three people, remembering what Li Li had experienced. As soon as he thought about it, he became a kind of physiological disgust, he felt that Li Li was unclean, and gradually Li Li became less important in his heart.
Liu Dong lost his freshness to Li Li, he no longer returned home on time, and at night he either danced with female colleagues or went out to play mahjong. Only Li Li left work and wept secretly in the face of the deserted home and the smokeless kitchen.
However, in half a year, Liu Dong changed, and she could not accept Liu Dong's sudden change. She married Liu Dong, just to hope that someone would accompany her to pass the loneliness, and now she is the only one in the family, she is empty and afraid. Although the three men who hurt her caught her, as long as she slept alone in the dark night, those painful memories would pour into her brain.
One night, Liu Dong returned home, and Li Li whispered: Liu Dong begged you, will you come back early after work?
Li Li's humble tone allowed Liu Dong to find a sense of balance and satisfaction. When he first pursued Li Li so humbly, even when no one married Li Li, he still insisted on that original intention, how rare is it for a good man like him.
Now that Li Li finally knew his goodness and began to cherish him, he was no longer the man who whispered and begged Li Li to look at him more. He smiled in his heart: Women are all the same, and it is nothing when they are married.
In order to win back Liu Dong's heart, Li Li proposed to have a child. The child was born, and Liu Dong asked his mother to wait for Li Li to confinement. Liu Dong is the pride in the eyes of her parents, in her eyes, no woman is worthy of Liu Dong, and Li Li is no exception.
She hated that Li Li ate too little, resulting in too little milk and too little food for the child. She hated that Li Li loved to be clean, and every day she washed her hands before meals and couldn't spit on the ground.
Liu Dong was not at home, and the two did not look at each other well. Liu Dong's mother believes that this family belongs to Liu Dong, not Li Li. Men are the head of the family, and Li Li is just an accessory to men, and she can change it if she wants.
Liu Dong's mother did not take Li Li in her eyes, and Li Li had been pampered since childhood, even if she had suffered such grievances. Liu Dong returned home from work, did not comfort her, but complained that she did not know how to humble the old man, Li Li was angry, and returned to her mother's house.
In the end, Liu Dong's mother fell because she was carrying a child, and Liu Dong felt sorry for her and let her go back to her hometown. He found a babysitter to take care of the children and took Li Li back.
Li Li saw through Liu Dong, and she quit her well-paid job to open a building materials company. She no longer wanted to look at Liu Dong's face to live a life. Once she thought that Liu Dong would always be good to him, but Liu Dong only pretended for half a year, and he revealed his true face. After she found that Liu Dong could not be trusted, she made up her mind to rely on herself.
Liu Dong and Li Li had a big fight, he blamed Li Li for not taking him seriously, resigning such a big thing, not discussing with him, resigning. He even blamed Li Li for being more indifferent to him than before. He risked being pointed out and married a dirty woman like Li Li, why did Li Li treat him like this?
I once read a saying: Human desire is a strange thing, many times, we long to get something, but after getting it, we quickly lose interest; we clearly hold what others envy in our hands, but we always envy the hands of others. Perhaps, only after going through the events of the world will we understand that what we have in front of us is what we should really cherish. Because the distance is the scenery, the near is life.
Many times, we always want to get the good of others. At first, I couldn't be more grateful. But over time, I got used to taking her good to you for granted. One day when she doesn't treat you well, you become resentful. In fact, it is not that others are not good, but that our requirements have become more. When you get used to it, you forget to be grateful.
Liu Dong married Li Li, and in the eyes of outsiders, it was a flower planted on cow dung. Li Li's appearance and connections are beyond the reach of others. Man, the easier it is to get, the more he does not know how to cherish. It was he who did not dislike Li Li's loss of virginity at the beginning, and now it is he who dislikes Li Li's uncleanness.
Liu Dong is the kind of person who eats in the bowl and looks at the pot, and will never be satisfied.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" >3. Liu Dong, who is inferior and conceited, will not be happy if he marries anyone. </h1>
Liu Dong was inferior when he met Li Li, and if there was no such thing, they would not have intersected in this life, let alone become husband and wife. Liu Dong's persistent pursuit of Li Li is not only because Li Li is beautiful and has a good family, he enjoys that desire to conquer.
He was a young boy from the countryside, and his ability to marry the arrogant and invincible Li Li was enough to prove that he was not worse than Li Li. He was inferior and conceited, so after he married Li Li, he always wanted to suppress Li Li and let Li Li revolve around him.
He enjoyed Li Li's sense of accomplishment in whispering to him, and he was going to tell Li Li: You didn't like me at first, and now you don't want to work for me and this family. Who do you think you are? Meet me, you are nothing.
After Liu Dong married Li Li, he never mentioned that matter. But he always treated Li Li with a sense of superiority, as if to tell Li Li, I married you is your blessing, you have to be grateful to Dade, treat me well.
He likes to look at Li Li's inferiority, and the more Inferior Li Li is, the more proud he is. When Li Li resigned from business, a month's income exceeded his income for a year, and she began to buy a car and a house without his permission, only writing her Li Li's name, and even taking the child to live in a new house without notifying Liu Dong, and changing the best kindergarten for her.
Li Dong saw that Li Li, who had been confident and beautiful, had returned, and when he woke up in the morning, he saw Li Li's slightly straightened nose bridge and the wrinkles in the corners of his eyes that had been flattened, and he had a sense of dazed loss in his heart.
Sure enough, after Li Li regained her self-confidence, she looked down on Liu Dong even more. She was busy working hard and turned a blind eye to Liu Dong. She even desperately hoped that Liu Dong would file for divorce so that he could be removed from his life.
After Li Li met her first love Ma Gang because of work, the desire in her heart was ignited, and she hoped to reunite with Ma Gang, but unfortunately Ma Gang was already married, even if he was not married, he still could not accept her past.
Li Li collapsed, she deliberately sought a divorce with Liu Dong, and then took the children and all the property, went to a place where no one knew her, and lived again.
Some people say that Li Li's move is too cruel. She and Liu Dong have been married for many years, and she should not abandon Liu Dong in the face of her children. However, I think that Li Li does not abandon Liu Dong, and Liu Dong will also find an opportunity to abandon Li Li.
Melolo said: People with low self-esteem are doomed to be unhappy. Because of the fear of being isolated, they desperately follow the butts of others, watch others' faces, and exchange patience, concessions, and compromises for approval without a bottom line. But this momentary satisfaction depends entirely on the mood of others at that time, he cannot control the mood of others, so he will never be happy.
After Liu Dong married Li Li, he never thought of relying on his own efforts to make Li Li look up to himself. He seems to have paid in marriage, but in fact, because of his inferiority, he quietly flattered Li Li. He took this effort step by step in mind, and waited until one day he stepped on Li Li and let her become the self she once was.
In the eyes of his family, Liu Dong is full of brilliance. In a city full of talents, I can't look up with low self-esteem. He was proud, but he could not find the capital to be proud. Liu Dong can't face his true self, no matter what kind of woman he marries, he feels that others are not worthy of him.
He is inferior and conceited, so after seeing Li Li regain his self-confidence, he will become dazed and overwhelmed. He never loved Li Li, he loved the vanity of being held by the stars.
What is the meaning of effort? It's about seeing the bigger world. It is to have the opportunity to choose life freely. So that you can not bow to nasty people in the future. In order to be able to appear when the person he likes appears, he will not be inferior to the point of not being able to lift his head, but full of confidence and rightfully say the words: "I know you are good, but I am not bad."
Liu Dong's pattern is too small, and his world has only his own gains and losses. So Li Li didn't look up to him, and with him, he would only keep reminding Li Li of that bad past and making her worse and worse. And Li Li only wants to be herself, a white swan who is still proud even if she has been hurt.