What is "American service"? To visualize it, for example, in order to show your height, long legs, and good figure, you wear a pair of 12 cm high heels, beautiful or not, others know, tired or not, pain is not painful, you know yourself. Another example is that you do a full-handed manicure, spend a lot of money, the nails are long and beautiful, and as a result, it is very inconvenient to do some things, even picking a nostril is laborious, and it is easy to break, and even split the finger seam to bleed.
In layman's terms, "American service" is the inconvenience of life caused by wanting to become beautiful, the adverse effects on the body caused by the excessive pursuit of beauty of appearance, wasted time, etc., resulting in living like a prison.
The next definition is: women maintain their beauty in order to meet the public's aesthetic and social requirements for appearance, and the degree of energy expended is comparable to labor service, and labor to become beautiful is "beauty service".
This concept includes that women's dress is an involuntary act of pandering and flattery, and is shackled by beauty. But there are also those who believe that the purpose of promoting external beauty is to make oneself happy, not to please others. This kind of thinking is somewhat self-deceived. Why would this please yourself? It is not yet a recognition of the secular standard of beauty.
After the transition from thousands of years of feudal system, there have been many inherent stereotypes, such as the concept of female morality and chastity, and the traditional family culture within the male protagonist and the female protagonist. In response to these legacy ills, there are also a lot of discussions about feminism in modern society, they have the ability and power to be economically independent and personal, they have the freedom to choose whether to do housework or not, and they have the right to choose whether to marry and have children.
And the superficial beauty of makeup, nails, shaping, plastic surgery, and wearing is becoming a new trap for women above the subsistence line, and has become an invisible new yoke similar to feudal remnants.
Why is "American service" an invisible shackle and a trap?
One Thursday morning, all three of us in the office were sitting at their desks in a daze when the leader pushed the door in. "Lili, I made an appointment for the customer to go to xx restaurant for dinner at noon, or you should come with me." The leader said to Lili.
Lili blurted out and replied: "Don't want it, Mr. Zhang, I didn't put on makeup well today, it's not okay to see outsiders!" The leader hesitated and said, "Okay!" Then he turned and left.
At the same time, Lili's answer was almost without hesitation, and she almost blurted out the answer in her heart in a sleepy state. No makeup, don't want to go out and meet people. The key is that the leader also agreed, and seemed to think that she was reasonable. At this time, for Lili, the lady, going out with makeup has become a necessary condition. Wearing makeup or not is originally personal freedom, but if you don't wear makeup, you can't meet customers, isn't this a victim of "American service"? At this moment, the matter of makeup becoming beautiful has become Lili's "shackles".
"Shackles" are easy to understand, but why is it a trap?
You must have heard the sayings: "Makeup is respect for others" and "Love of beauty is a woman's nature". Some women will also say that I wear my own makeup, wear beautiful clothes, wear beautiful jewelry, thin waist and legs and practice buttocks, I like it, I am happy, what does it have to do with men, what does it have to do with social etiquette!
Think about it, aren't breasts and fat buttocks, long legs and thin waist, and white skin and beauty all the aesthetic standards of men? Isn't it social discipline to have important occasions to make a delicate makeup, to make a good impression on others, and to be an independent woman?
One is the aesthetics of others, the other is the discipline of society, but it has integrated "aesthetic service" into all aspects of life, and even women take it for granted.
The words "love beauty is a woman's nature" seems to be a declaration of women's independence and freedom, guiding women to spend their hearts and energy to "improve themselves", but it is more like a new archway, so that "free" women do not realize that they are trapped, but also flock to have and accept it willingly. So you think that "becoming beautiful" is a high-sounding compliment, but it is only a unique requirement for women, what a terrible and hidden trap!
On the other hand, men, they do not need makeup, beauty, high heels, tight pants, in ancient times, do not have to bind their waist and feet, fat for beauty, even if they are not trim, it will not affect the promotion and salary increase at work. Always shouting about equality between men and women, fair competition, taking beauty as a goal and engraving it in the bones, and how to compete with men who aim for money, power, and courage. When beauty becomes capital, women have already lost.
Women need freedom, and they have freedom, but it's not about being beautiful, but about standing up in the world without being beautiful, not being ridiculed or being judged.
In the past, in order to wrap out the three-inch golden lotus shroud, and the fawning custom of starving to death in the palace of King Chu's thin waist, break free and throw it away, so don't pick it up again.
What kind of flesh and what kind of skin there is, that is the business of Nuwa Niangniang. Looks are not your capital, let alone your burden. Women don't have to be this way or that, and women's beauty and ugliness should not be defined!