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Some time ago, the daughter of the second grade held a parent-teacher meeting, and the class teacher talked about the homework of the children in the class.
The head teacher said that some parents are afraid that their children's homework will be wrong and will not get a full score, so they check their children's homework every day. This also leads to the problem that when the child makes a mistake in homework, the child will blame the parent.
"It's because my mother didn't give me a serious check on my homework, I was wrong so much, what does it matter to me?"
Parents, listen, is it normal for children to say this? Homework is the child's own business, how can it become a parent's business?
Children with good grades may not have good study habits, but children with good study habits have poor grades, and good study habits are more important than grades.
The standard for measuring whether a child has good study habits is to see if the child can check his homework by himself. The class teacher pointed out: Wise parents do not like to check their children's homework, understand in advance, the better the baby's grades.
Why the child doesn't check homework
There are generally several reasons:
Parents do it
Some parents like to help their children check homework, find wrong questions, and directly let their children revise them. This process of checking errors has not been experienced by children, and naturally takes it for granted that checking homework is a matter for parents and has nothing to do with themselves. The child does not care if he is wrong, anyway, his parents will help him check, and then correct it if he is wrong.
The child has low concentration
Elementary school students, especially those in the first and second grades, are very emotional, obviously finished homework, and spend time checking homework back and forth. Grievances, complaints, and sadness, with these emotions, it is difficult for children to ensure the quality of the task of completing the inspection homework.
In addition, children in the first and second grades are still in the early stages of development and do not pay good attention to checking homework.
Children don't
How do children in the first and second grades check their homework, read each topic again, look at the flowers, look at ten lines at a glance, on the surface it seems to be looking at the question, but in fact, the child does not use his brain at all, nor does he use his pen.
The child cannot check for errors in the homework
In the eyes of some parents, children cannot check the mistakes in homework, that is, they are not serious in learning, they do not listen to the teacher in class, and their basic knowledge is not solid. In fact, for children in the first and second grades, they can't really be blamed for not being able to check for mistakes. This is because the child's metacognitive abilities have not yet developed well.
Metacognition was proposed by the American psychologist Flavel.
Metacognition has an important part - metacognitive monitoring, and metacognitive monitoring includes monitoring, examination, reflection and other aspects.
Metacognitive development, the process of occurrence and the maturity of the cerebral cortex are related, and the child's corresponding brain functional structure area is not mature, then the child naturally cannot monitor, regulate, check and evaluate these behaviors.
As a result, the child's inability to detect errors in homework is partly due to the immature development of the child's brain. For example, when children do math problems, they will see 300 as 30, which is not that the child is not careful or serious, but the child's development level is limited.
As the child gets older and the prefrontal cortex reaches a certain maturity, his ability to check homework will be further developed.
How to guide your child to check homework
Threshold effect
For first- and second-graders, it is more difficult to check all the homework in one go. We might as well use the "threshold effect". When the child accepts a trivial request, in order to maintain the overall image consistency and avoid the overall incongruity, more requests can be accepted.
We break down your child's homework into small requirements, let your child complete the small requirements, and then move on to the big requirements.
For example, if the child completes a page of calculations and there are 5 wrong questions, you can choose to circle 3 questions and let the child find out 1 of these 3 questions, which is much simpler than checking a page of calculation questions. At this time, the child's motivation and initiative will be high.
When children find out the wrong question, their self-confidence is doubled and they will be more willing to try to find the next wrong question. At this time, we can appropriately increase the difficulty, and the child will not reject and is willing to challenge difficulties.
Learn to let go
When accompanying the child to check the homework, you can not directly tell the child the answer, there are questions and answers, it is not a good thing for the child, and we should pay attention to cultivating the child's ability to think independently.
One of the earliest educational works on the mainland, "Xueji", said: "Open and Fuda Zesi." "What do you mean? Enlighten students so that they can understand something, but not all of them.
Sugar Sugar Mother Conclusion: Doctors always say "headache heals the head, foot pain heals the foot", treat the child's homework can not be like this, wrong questions help the child directly correct, will not directly teach the child to do. In this way, it will only "tire parents and harm children", so that children are becoming more and more dependent on you and cannot think independently.
Small homework hides the child's personality, attitude, learning level, learning habits, parents must not take it lightly, remember to check the homework, guide the child well!
Educator Mr. Ye Shengtao also said: What is education? In a nutshell, it's about developing good habits.
To cultivate good study habits in children, start by checking homework!
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