Some people say that when they are three years old, they look at the young, and when they are seven years old, they will see whether their children will have a chance when they grow up.
But sometimes it's really hard to say that that inconspicuous child is now living a more exciting life, which is impressive.
When the aunts and ladies get together, it is inevitable that the parents are short, and they judge the character of others, especially whose children have made a living, how enviable their current life is, and they are even more energetic to chat.
It's not enough to talk about the outstanding one, there has to be a contrast, the aunts chat like this, just have red flowers is not enough, but also have to find green leaf linings, they will say who is whose children, how many of them are the same age, go to school together, but look at the people now, speaking of this, the aunts will sigh a few times, and then say, it's really incomparable.
The child who is now talking about by the aunts is called Xiaofei, and the other two are Xiaowei and Xiaoqiang.
An aunt said how Xiao Fei's parents educated, educating such a productive child, Xiao Fei's aunt next door said: "I haven't seen how strict the two of them are with their children, as if they don't care about their son's learning at all, but people's sons are so productive, do you say it's strange?" ”
What children look like when they grow up must have something to do with their parents' education from an early age, Xiaofei, Xiaowei and Xiaoqiang, and the parents of the three of them are also very different from their education.
People feel that his parents' education is different from other parents.
Xiao Fei, Xiao Wei and Xiao Qiang are three years old, in a class when they were in elementary school, Xiao Wei and Xiao Qiang studied well, Xiao Wei studied better than Xiao Qiang, Xiao Fei and the two of them could not compare, and he was at the bottom of every exam.
Xiaowei's mother attaches great importance to her son's learning, she often says that it is too hard to work in the field, she does not want her son to grow up and still farm, she must let her children go to school well, admitted to university, even if they can't fly, at least they don't have to do farm work.
Xiao Wei is urged to learn by his mother every day, how can children not be greedy for fun, especially boys are more playful, a group of little boys often play crazy together, but I have never seen Xiao Wei playing with them.
Although Xiao Wei doesn't go to fight with his companions, his mother can't always let him study at home, and she will let him go out for a while every day, but he can't go out for a long time.
His mother allowed Xiao Wei to go out to play, but he couldn't stay outside for a long time, and it wasn't that he could find any companion he wanted to play, and his mother only let him play with children who study well, not with children who study poorly. Xiaowei's mother thinks that children who study poorly are not good children, and they are afraid that their son will be affected, and they don't like to study anymore.
It cannot be said that Xiaowei's mother's approach is not reasonable at all, children are easily influenced by others, not only by children of the same age, but also by adults, at this time if you develop some bad habits, it is difficult to change.
It's just that she shouldn't call all children who don't study well as bad children.
Under his mother's strict education, Xiaowei's academic performance is good, in addition to studying, I can't see that he has other hobbies, maybe it is something unrelated to learning, his mother does not let him do it, nor will he order him to work, his task is only to study.
The friends also did not go to play with Xiaowei, because if he went, his mother would not let him come out, he was at home every day, in addition to studying, he still studied.
Xiaowei's mother is strict, full of thoughts about letting her son study well.
Xiaoqiang's mother is like this
Xiaoqiang's family is relatively wealthy, he has three sisters, his parents are patriarchal, and he has a son after having three daughters, and he has a special preference for his son, it is because of this, Xiaoqiang has been very domineering since he was a child, what he wants, his parents will buy him anything, he is the little ancestor of the family, and his sisters also have to let him.
Xiaoqiang is not only domineering at home, the family revolves around him, he is the same with outsiders, playing with other friends often fights, he is taller than children of the same age, every fight is he beats others, three days and two heads of parents take their children to his parents to reason, let them manage Xiaoqiang well.
As soon as Xiaoqiang fights with other children, his father has to apologize to others and buy some gifts for others, but he just refuses to beat and scold his son, if he teaches Xiaoqiang a hard lesson, he can't always bully other children.
Xiaoqiang's parents are accustomed to their sons, no matter what kind of beating other people's children, as long as Xiaoqiang is not broken.
It is not a good thing for parents to be accustomed to Xiaoqiang like this.
Xiaofei's parents are neither accustomed to their sons nor urge them to study.
Xiao Fei's parents are not as strict as Xiao Wei's mother, who controls their son's learning so strictly, Xiao Fei can play if he wants, as long as he does not poke Louzi and does not break into trouble.
Xiao Fei didn't let his parents worry, although he was greedy for fun, he didn't fight with others, unlike Xiaoqiang who made trouble for his parents every day.
Xiao Fei's parents basically ignored his studies, Xiao Fei's studies were so poor, every exam was a mess, his parents were never angry, Xiao Fei was never beaten because of a mess.
Don't look at Xiaofei was not beaten because of poor study, but he was severely beaten by his mother for other things, and he was only beaten this time since he was a child.
That time he was beaten because he was buying toys, Xiaofei saw that other friends were playing with small planes, and he also liked it very much, so he ran to ask his mother to buy it for him.
Little non-mother has not bought toys for her son, the mother lives frugally, usually spends money carefully, she thinks that buying toys is a waste of money, she often says, the child is hungry, frozen on the line, she even rarely buys new clothes for the child, does not buy snacks for the child, let alone toys, will definitely not buy.
Usually Xiaofei didn't ask his parents for this and that, he listened to his parents, let him wear whatever he wore, let him eat whatever he wanted, but this time he was disobedient, no matter what his mother said, he had to buy a small plane.
Mother just doesn't buy it, Xiaofei has seen other children want their parents to buy something, parents cry and make trouble when they don't buy it, sit on the ground and can't get up, and then parents buy it, Xiaofei also uses this trick.
Xiao Fei also sat on the ground crying and making trouble, crying snot and tears, but his mother not only did not buy it for him, but also beat him fiercely, and since then, he has not used this trick, which does not work with his mother.
Xiaofei's mother did not scold him because of his poor study, but she was not accustomed to her son, did not let her son have bad habits, did not let her son compare with others, did not allow her son to cause trouble, and sometimes ordered her son to help him work, in short, she was not used to her child's bad problems.
In the eyes of the little non-mother, children's learning is natural, and educating children to become adults is more important than becoming talented.
Under the different education methods of their parents, the three children also embarked on different life paths.
Xiao Wei's academic performance is very stable, he has been studying very well, originally Xiao Fei's study was very poor, but by junior high school, his grades have improved by leaps and bounds, and he has caught up with Xiao Wei.
In elementary school, Xiao Fei was poor in learning, maybe he was not open to learning, and he was not so clear about the importance of learning, but after entering junior high school, he seemed to suddenly open up, and he said that he liked to listen to their teachers' lectures, and it was very interesting. When he becomes interested in learning, he will study consciously without the supervision of his parents.
Xiaoqiang's studies are still like that, he loves to play, and he jokes that Xiaowei is a nerd. Xiao Fei not only studied well, but also had a wide range of interests and hobbies, which were different from Xiao Wei and Xiao Qiang.
If you let the three of them live alone in the wild, Xiao Fei will definitely have no problem, he will do anything, Xiao Qiang has not done any work that his parents are used to, Xiao Wei only knows how to read, his hands-on ability is very poor, and neither of them is as good as Xiao Fei.
If the three of them are talking about the heart eye, or Xiao Qiang's heart eye is more, people see him as smart enough and smart enough.
After graduating from junior high school, all three of them went to high school, but none of them were admitted to major high schools.
Xiao Qiang's family lived a rich life, and the parents did not let their son go to an ordinary high school, but spent money to let his son go to a key high school.
In high school, the three of them were not in the same school, Xiao Fei and Xiao Wei went to school together, they were both focused on studying, although Xiao Qiang went to a key high school, he did not take his studies seriously, but often went out in a group of two, and his academic performance was not as good as Xiao Fei and Xiao Wei.
Xiao Wei's mother was very nervous, afraid that her son would not be able to go to college, and Xiao Qiang's parents had long seen that their son could not make progress in his studies and no longer had much hope for him.
Xiao Fei's parents didn't think that their son could be admitted to college, they were not as worried as Xiao Wei's mother, the two of them were quite close, seeing that Xiao Wei's mother was more nervous than her son, Xiao Fei's mother said: "It's better to get the exam, if you can't take the test, you can't take the test, it's useless to worry." ”
Regarding which university to examine, Xiaofei and Xiaowei have their own ideas.
Xiao Wei and his parents have a difference in their ideas, parents mean to be safe, after graduation can find a job, originally parents should help their children counselor, but Xiao Wei's parents are to make decisions for their son, what school Xiao Wei wants to go to, he can't be the master himself, his parents have the final say.
Xiao Wei listened to his parents after all, and he couldn't help his own thoughts.
Xiao Fei's parents are just the opposite of Xiao Wei's parents, and they let their son make his own decisions.
Xiao Feixiao went to the university he yearned for, and Xiao Wei was also admitted to the university, but not as good as Xiao Fei.
Xiaoqiang did not expect his parents, he was not admitted to college, Xiaofei and Xiaowei went to college, and he went out to work.
Three peers, the gap is getting bigger and bigger.
Xiaoqiang went out to work, but he couldn't be down-to-earth anywhere, and his parents were worried about him, because he always caused trouble and fought with others at every turn.
Once Xiaoqiang fought with others again, I don't know why, anyway, this time he didn't win, he was beaten by others, and he didn't suffer losses in previous fights.
But this time he was beaten, it was not a bad thing for him, let him learn a long lesson, otherwise he was always not afraid of the sky, he loved to fight with people, this is good, let him understand that it is impossible for him to always hit others, he will also have times when he is beaten, there are always people who are better than him, and since then, he no longer fights with whom he is not good.
Xiaoqiang's temper has to make him afraid, if he is not beaten this time, I don't know how much trouble he will break into in the future.
Xiaoqiang went to work in many places, but it didn't last long, and after being beaten, he went to work in the factory in the county, and this time he worked honestly and never fought again.
Xiaofei and Xiaowei had not graduated from college, Xiaoqiang got married, the girl's family lived on the same street as his family, they were familiar with each other, and after marriage, his daughter-in-law went to work in the factory with him.
Xiaoqiang has a very flexible brain, does a good job in the factory, the monthly salary is more than 10,000, the daughter-in-law earns less than him, but the daughter-in-law loves to save money, except for expenses every month, the two of them can also save money, the daughter-in-law said that they are saving money and are ready to buy a house in the city.
Xiaoqiang and his daughter-in-law's wish is to quickly buy a house in the city.
Xiao Fei and Xiao Wei graduated in the same year, and Xiao Wei quickly found a job, with a stable job, but not a high income.
Xiao Fei's work income is very high, which makes Xiao Wei very envious, Xiao Qiang is also envious, but he and Xiao Wei's mood is different, because he can't blame others, it is he himself who did not study well, Xiao Wei is different, originally he and Xiao Fei are on par, it is because his parents are in charge of him, which makes the gap between him and Xiao Fei so big now.
Although Xiao Wei never complained about her parents, every time her mother saw Xiao Fei come back, she would say that if her son had also taken a major university, he would be the same as Xiao Fei now.
In fact, people also say that it was Xiaowei's mother who commanded indiscriminately and delayed the child's future.
After Xiao Wei worked, his mother began to worry about her son's marriage again.
Xiao Wei's two aunts are in the county seat, Xiao Wei's mother asked them to help pay more attention, and introduce Xiao Wei if there is a suitable one.
The nephew's matter, of course, the aunt took it to heart, not long after, the aunt told Xiaowei's mother that the daughter of an eldest sister in their factory had just graduated from college, but she had not yet found a suitable job, she had seen this girl, felt that it was good, and wanted to introduce it to Xiaowei.
Xiao Wei's mother agreed with her mouth, and the introduction of her own sister must be trustworthy, and she couldn't be wrong, so she immediately arranged for Xiao Wei to meet the girl.
Xiaowei's mother has also seen the girl, she looks very good, the son and the girl have just met a few times, the mother urged her son to quickly make a marriage, and then get married quickly, she will be relieved.
Xiao Wei listened to his mother's arrangement, and this time he married his daughter-in-law also listened to his mother's arrangement, and soon married this girl, I don't know if the girl his mother is optimistic about, he himself also likes.
When Xiao Wei got married, his parents cobbled together and bought them a house in the county seat, and at that time he himself was not able to buy a house.
Xiao Fei also got married, married the girl he liked, they are still classmates, the neighbors have also seen, the girl is not only beautiful, but also knowledgeable, Xiao Fei's parents are also full of praise for this daughter-in-law, very satisfied.
Xiao Fei's married house was bought in the provincial capital, did not spend the parents' money, which made the parents with sons in the village envious, ordinary people, as long as the son gets married, the family's savings are almost spent, some also have to borrow money from relatives and friends, Xiao Fei did not spend the parents' money, people say that the son has interest, parents are worry-free!
Xiaofei's parents don't have to suffer anymore, their son will give them enough living expenses every month, and when they want to go to their son's house, the son will pick up his parents.
Every time Xiaofei comes back, people will praise, saying that they don't let their parents worry, but let their parents stain, such a son is a good son of filial piety.
Xiao Fei, Xiao Wei and Xiao Qiang, the three of them are living like this now, if Xiao Qiang can always be so stable and not cause trouble, he can also buy a house in the county in two years, Xiao Wei's life is also without waves, on the economic conditions, the two of them and Xiao Fei are incomparable, the world is different.
Xiao Fei's mother said that although Xiao Fei's income is very high now, he is not idle after work, and he still has to learn new things, learning has become his habit, in fact, everyone should have the habit of learning.
The three of them, none of them expected that it would be Xiaofei who would be more productive.
The growth of children is inseparable from the education of parents, and what kind of future children will have in the future is related to the parents' education methods, and Xiaofei's parents believe that educating children to become adults is more important than becoming talents, which is correct.
Children do not study well, parents should not be too anxious, some children do not open up to learning, just like Xiaofei, he will open the trick late, is to junior high school to hear the teacher lecture interesting, only to fall in love with learning, parents to find a way to make children love learning, instead of supervising children's learning every day, that is not much gain, only children are interested in learning, they will learn consciously.
What school the child wants to go to, parents can help counsel, but also listen to the child's ideas, sometimes the decision parents make for the child is not necessarily better.
Parents give their children a good learning environment, educate their children to become people, as for what kind of life they can live in the future, it is up to them, whether it is ordinary or outstanding, as long as the child can grow up to be self-reliant, healthy and happy!