In real life, some people like to speak straightforwardly, while some people speak very tactfully Although it doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, sometimes, when it is not convenient to say directly or can't erase face, you need to use some hidden words, which can have a good effect. However, in this way, you must make sure that the other person can understand it, otherwise it will be empty.
In 210 BC, after the unification of China, Qin Shi Huang began his fifth tour, accompanied by Prime Minister Li Si, Ling Zhao of Zhongchefu, and "hundred officials".
Li Si is one of the famous prime ministers in history, when he was young, he studied Xunzi and learned the method of governing the country by the auxiliary king, he said when he said goodbye to the old man: "I heard that the opportunity should be seized when it arises, and you must not let it go lightly, today is the time when thousands of armies compete for the world, only by going out to travel to various countries and lobbying the kings to state their own claims, it is possible to implement the learned methods of governing the country, and now the king of Qin wants to annex the countries and unify the world, which is walking the cloth-clothed people like me to gallop, show their skills, and make meritorious achievements, It was a perfect time to achieve fame, so I was ready to go west to lobby the King of Qin and start my work. ”
After bidding farewell to Xunzi, Li Si went to the Qin state, and first joined the then prime minister Lü Buwei as a patron, and won Lü Buwei's appreciation. He was later appointed as an attendant to the King of Qin, and began his political career. Zhao Gao's life history is more complicated, it is said that his origin, "Zhu Zhao is alienated", it can be said that he is a little on the side of the Zhao aristocracy. Have a fraction of your noble blood! His parents are both sinners of the Qin state, and it is also said that they were prisoners when they destroyed Zhao in the unification war of the Qin state, his father was tortured by the Qin state, and his mother became a slave in the palace, and the Zhao Gao brothers were all "illegitimate children" born in the Qin palace, and they were also born slaves, "lowly in the world" and looked down upon. Later, Qin Shi Huang heard that Zhao Gao was strong and strong, and also knew some "prison laws", and promoted him to be the head of the eunuch who was specially responsible for managing the public opinion car and the seal letter and ink book in the court. Qin Shi Huang also asked his youngest son Hu Hai to study law with Zhao Gao. By the time he went on tour with Qin Shi Huang, Zhao Gao had already begun to be in charge of the "runes" and "seals" that conveyed the emperor's orders and transferred troops, although there were not many things, but they were very confidential and critical.
Qin Shi Huang's trip this time, all the way to sightseeing, naturally it is a lot of work. Arrived at the plain and fell ill. Zhao Gao was ordered to write a suicide note to Fusu, the eldest son of Qin Shi Huang, who was supervising the army in Hetao at that time: "Buried in Xianyang with the funeral meeting." "The letter was written, it was also sealed, and before it was sent, Qin Shi Huang died in the Dune Palace. Prime Minister Li Si believed that the emperor died outside, and one of the two sons was supervising the army outside, and the other accompanied Qin Shi Huang on tour, so it was inconvenient to immediately appoint a prince, and for the stability of the political situation, he decided not to mourn the foreign secret, and acted as usual, and only five or six people knew the truth of the matter.
Zhao Gao detained the jade seal and letter given by Qin Shi Huang to his eldest son Fusu, and found Hu Hai to discuss, and the two had the following conversation: "The emperor has died, and he did not crown his sons kings before his death, but gave a long letter to his eldest son Fusu in front of him. As soon as Fusu arrives in Xianyang after receiving the letter, he will be made emperor, and you will have no status at all, what do you think should you do? ”
Hu Hai replied: "This is a matter of course, I heard that the king knows the courtier, the father knows the son, and the father and the emperor are dead." It should be crowned king, what else can I say! Zhao Gao said: "I can't say that, when the power of life and death is in the hands of you, me and Prime Minister Li Si today, I hope you think about it, besides, others call you a subject and you call a subject to others, ruling others and being ruled by others is very different, how can you talk on the same day!" ”
Hu Hai said: "Since ancient times, it has been unrighteous to abolish the elder brother and make the brother emperor; Disobeying one's father's edict and fearing death is a sign of unfilial piety; It is an incompetent practice to become an emperor by barely relying on the strength of others, and all three are contrary to morality, and if the world is not satisfied, it will only end up in its own peril, and the society will be subverted. ”
Zhao Gao said: "The ministers heard that Tang and Wu each killed their masters in the past, but the whole world praised their actions as acts of benevolence and righteousness, and did not think that they were acts of disloyalty; Wei Jun killed his father, and the defenders recorded it as a virtue. Even the sage Confucius wrote about this in his book, and did not consider it an act of unfilial piety. To do big things, we should not stick to small things, and accumulate great virtue and do not give in to small things. Each country music has its own suitability, that is, the standards and requirements of hundreds of officials cannot be measured by the standard of Zhou, so caring for the small and forgetting the big will definitely be a scourge in the future; If you hesitate, you will definitely regret it later. As long as you do it decisively and boldly, even the ghosts and gods will avoid you, and then you will succeed, and I hope that you will get your wish. ”
Hu Hai sighed and said, "Now that the coffin of the father and emperor is not buried, it is during the big trip (there is no funeral yet), it is not appropriate to disturb the prime minister at this time, right?" ”
Zhao Gao said: "Now the time is too tight, there is no time to plan in detail!" Just as two armies are at war, using horses to carry grain forward, lest it be too late, how can they hesitate any longer! ”
After this dialogue, Hu Hai accepted Zhao Gao's opinion. Zhao Gao said again: "If you don't discuss this matter with Prime Minister Cheng, I'm afraid that it will be difficult to achieve a big thing, I will go find Li Si for you." ”
Zhao Gao found Prime Minister Li Si and said to Li Si: "Before the emperor died, he once kicked a letter to his eldest son Fusu, asking him to return to Xianyang to attend the funeral. Now the news of Ziji Zizi is not known outside, and the letters and Fuli to Fusu are also here. Determining who will be crown prince depends on your and my words, what should you do? ”
Li Si was taken aback when he heard Zhao Gao say this, "How can you say such words about the death of the country? This is not something that we courtiers should talk about."
Zhao Gao was not afraid, and he said to Li Si: "Estimate for yourself, compared to Meng Tian, the general next to Fusu, who is stronger in the talent of the two of you?" Who has the most credit? Who is more profound and precise? Who wins the hearts of the common people of the world? Who has a longer and more trusted relationship with Fucha, the eldest son who will be made emperor? ”
Li Si said: "I am inferior to Meng Tian in these five aspects, but why are you asking me so meanly? ”
Zhao Gao said: "I, Zhao Gao, was originally a servant of the inner palace, but I only knew some literature and ink, so I had to be such a Chinese car and seal letter and other Chinese car orders. It has been more than twenty years since I entered the palace, and I have never seen the Qin State depose the prime minister, and the rewards of meritorious heroes can be passed on to the next generation, and their end is to be cursed to death. The emperor has more than twenty sons, you know this clearly, the eldest son Fusu is resolute and brave, pays attention to faith and righteousness and likes to use old people, after he takes the throne, he will definitely use Meng Tian as the prime minister, you may not even be able to keep the seal of a marquis in the end, and it will not be obvious when he is returned to his hometown? I was taught by the emperor to study the law, Hu Hai Ren felt rich, light wealth and heavy soldiers, other princes in Thailand are not as good as him, he can be the emperor, you think of a strategy, try to settle this matter. ”
Li Si said: "I, Li Si, am a cloth in Shangcai Lane. I was fortunate to be favored by the emperor and promoted me to be prime minister, the emperor originally wanted to hand over the safety and death of the country to me, what else can I say? If you are a loyal courtier, you will not be afraid of death, although you are a filial son but not industrious, there will be danger, please stop talking. ”
Zhao Gao said: "I heard that saints are impermanent and change with time like dragons, because they can see the end and know the root, and they can know their intentions by observing what people are referring to. Things are constantly changing, of course, how can there be a common law? Now the power and destiny of the world are in the hands of Hu Hai. Zhao Gao, I will definitely be able to get aspire. From the external system, the method of confusing the eyes and ears of the people is adopted, while the lower system uses the scheme of deceiving the king and stealing the country. Therefore, the autumn frost falls and the grass withers and flowers, and the spring water moves to revive all things, which is the inevitable effect of the operation of the world. Why don't you still understand this? ”
Li Si said: "I heard that the Jin kingdom was not peaceful because of the change of crown prince; The brothers of the Duke of Qi Huan fought for the imperial throne, and his brother Gongzi was killed in battle; King Yin was tyrannical and did not listen to advice, and his country was later reduced to ruins. The above three people all went against the heavens, and as a result, they all ended up in the sect's temple and the ancestors' uneasy end. I, Li Si, am also a person, how can I conspire with you to do this harmful thing!" ”
Zhao Gao said: "If you work together from top to bottom, you can be long-lasting, consistent inside and out, and you can't tell the inside and the outside." If you listen to my strategy, you can be a marquis for a long time and an official in the world, and you will definitely live as long as the ancient immortal princes Qiao and Chisongzi; There is wisdom like the saints Confucius and Mozi. If you give up this opportunity today, not only will you be in danger of yourself, but I am afraid that it will also endanger your children and grandchildren, is this not enough to chill you? People who are good at change can turn evil into blessing, which path will you choose? ”
Hearing this, Li Si had nothing to say and looked up to the sky and sighed. With tears in his eyes, he said, "Since I cannot die martyrdom with my body, where can I put my life in it?" ”
So Li Si followed Zhao Gao's strategy, conspired with Zhao Gao and Hu Window, and decided to let Li Si come forward, pretending to be ordered by Qin Shi Huang, and announced that Li Hu would become the crown prince; On the one hand, he forged Qin Shi Huang's letter to Fusu, severely condemned him, "gave him self-punishment", and caused him to commit suicide. In the end, Hu changed to live in Xianyang and became the "second emperor".
Zhao Gao convinced Hu Hai and Li Si. Hu Hai feared that he would fall into the name of unfilial piety and unrighteousness when he claimed that the emperor would fall ill, and feared that he would lack his ability, so Zhao Gao used lobbying techniques and cited some examples of the murderer succeeding to the throne and being praised, which made Hu Hai make up his mind. When Li Si expressed opposition to Shu Gao's actions, Zhao Gao also used lobbying techniques to lure and oppress Li Si from both sides, and Li Si was eventually persuaded, and Hu Hai's succession became a fact.
Summary: We must learn to "see people and talk about people, and tell people about ghosts". When you see what the other person likes, go with what he likes, and do what he likes; When you see what the other party dislikes and taboos, you must avoid his taboo words and avoid what he dislikes and do not do. In this way, the other party will feel that you are his confidant, will lead you as a confidant, encounter things will speak for you more, for you to help, in the world, you will have one more friend, one more way, that is, the so-called "call each other, the same reason".