#头条创作挑战赛 #
When my son was in the first semester of high school, due to online classes, most of the time was alone at home, because the computer configuration at home was general, and the homework from the teacher had to be submitted on the mobile phone, so I left his mobile phone at home for him to use, of course, I was afraid that the Internet at home would suddenly disappear, and the mobile phone data could also be used to listen to the class. (Whether there was a secret game during the period is unknown)
Since there was no one else to care about, there was not even a single person in the family to talk to, and occasionally I watched him walk from room to room alone with the camera at home, and it felt very sad.
Every Friday night I come home from work, finish eating, and start playing "Glory of Kings" (why is it Friday, I stipulate him, usually you still have to study seriously, Monday to Friday during the day can not play).
Every Friday night starts my day of suffering, why say this, with a dozen games, my child is like a changed person. I don't know much about this kind of game, but I heard him say what it's for, and then it's a matching game, and in my understanding, it's teaming up to fight monsters. Since I often randomly match with less capable teammates and then lose all the time, the worst thing I've ever heard him say is losing more than a dozen times in a row. Anyway, if you lose too much, you will cry and scream again; I was already nervous breakdown, listening to his roar, my heart pounded, my head was dizzy, and I specially bought earplugs, but the effect was very little, it was really hot.
I advised him that the games are all fake, virtual, what do you care! "Don't listen and don't listen" what is fake, I just can't do it in my brain, my grades are poor, I can't play games, I always lose, you always say I'm smart, I'm stupid, just stupid. Then crying and roaring, I burst into a bruise, and I couldn't stop it at home, the only good thing was to know that dropping things was cheap, not expensive. Once I rushed to the kitchen, and I said what are you doing, he said I'm going to kill myself, it's not interesting to live. It scared me to death
I asked him afterwards, do you really want to commit suicide, and he said that he actually didn't want to and was afraid, but he just couldn't control himself.
I am afraid that he will be impulsive, and the impulse is the devil!
I didn't know how to guide him at all, and often looked for some methods on the Internet or watched what others were doing, thinking that he had a mental illness such as mania and anxiety. Later, it seems that it is not, he is not always manic, only when playing games, there will be irritable, irritable, and it is relatively normal when not playing games. In addition, due to the results and negative news on the Internet, there is also some anxiety and lack of self-confidence.
I have also read some ways to teach parents how to let their children slowly quit game addiction, such as:
1. Parents should reasonably plan the time when their children touch smart phones, gradually reduce the number of times their children touch smart phones, and at the same time take back the mobile phones and put them in the hands of parents, and do not let children touch smart phones from Monday to Friday.
2. Parents explain to their children the importance of studying well as students, so that children understand that studying well can make themselves self-reliant in life and support themselves instead of games, and parents cannot feed you for a lifetime.
3. Do not forcibly interfere with or prevent children's game play behaviors (such as network disconnection, power failure), nor can they always monitor children's learning life
4. Don't be angry and beat the child
I didn't do everything except the first one, and I did almost everything else, and during the day on weekends and holidays, no matter how tired I was, I took him out to play basketball or look at the scenery outside, anyway, as long as he was not at home, his overall condition was very good. High school semester, offline teaching, he went to school, began a group life, during the school period, can not use mobile phones (the teacher will take it away, will return it to them after school), when he goes home at night occasionally he also brushes videos, but most of them also watch some videos of learning gods, talk to classmates about the evening study plan, etc., the overall is much better now, although now occasionally play games, but there is no previous excessive behavior.
So I think children still have to be in constant contact with people, positive people, and society. Lonely, poor language ability, will close themselves, live in their own world, the game becomes a spiritual space, expect to become a god in the game, that will only corrode the child's spirit.