How stressed are children now? Many parents always do everything for the good of their children, sign them up for various cram schools, interest classes, so that children have no free time at all, sometimes they also want to let go of everything and play happily, but when they think that they still have so many tasks to complete every day, they can only bite the bullet and do what they don't want to do every day.
Two days ago, I brushed a video, in which a mother held her daughter's body, sat on the ground and cried bitterly, shouting: Baby, come back! Mom won't force you, as long as you can be fine, health and well-being are more important than anything else.
Although my mother was crying and shouting in tears, it was too late to avail.
It turns out that this is the way it is.
13-year-old Mengmeng, since she was a child, was sent by her mother to learn to dance, various interest classes, before going to school, she can know thousands of Chinese characters, memorize 300 Tang poems, and take English and open her mouth.
With peers, Mengmeng obviously does not have the immaturity and cuteness of peers, and the happiness that peers should have, Mengmeng does not have it, and lives like an adult every day.
Many times Mengmeng told her mother that she also wanted to make friends and go out to play, but every time she was rejected by her mother on the grounds of studying.
Mengmeng feels that life is very painful, and often asks her mother, why do I study so much? Can other children play outside? Why can't I go? And my mother's answer every time is, if you want to get ahead in the future, you have to study hard, others play now, and she will regret it later.
When Mengmeng was 13 years old, a unit exam, because of the negligence of the examination questions, resulting in the failure to do well that time, I thought that my mother would comfort Mengmeng and encourage her to cheer next time, but I didn't expect my mother to split her head and cover her face, and it was a scolding when she came up, Mengmeng felt very aggrieved, but did not dare to refute it.
However, her mother scolded herself endlessly, walking on the road and still scolding, and a few of Mengmeng's classmates were also there at that time, Mengmeng felt that there was no dignity at all, so she refuted a few words with her mother.
Unexpectedly, my mother saw Mengmeng refute, pointed at her with her finger, and said, you have long skills, I paid you to study, let you learn to talk back to me?
Mengmeng is also very angry, you sign me up for various interest classes and cram schools every day, everything is your own decision, have you ever asked me? Ever wondered if I could take it?
Mom said, you can't even eat this bit of suffering, how can you eat the bitterness of life in the future? Who am I doing this for? Is it for myself? I don't want you to live better in the future, you really disappointed me so much, and said and pointed at the cute head.
Mengmeng also had 10,000 grievances surging in her heart, roaring at her mother as if venting, and saying all the grievances she held in her heart.
Mom listened to Mengmeng's heart-rending roar, not angry, raised her hand is a slap, after the fight, slammed the door, leaving Mengmeng alone at home, as a result, tragedy happened.
Mengmeng wrote on the paper, "Mom, you won, I will return my life to you", and then ran to the seventeenth floor, plunged down, and a fresh life left like this.
Mom received the call back, saw a circle of people downstairs, ran over to see, at this time Mengmeng has long been unrecognizable, mother hugged Mengmeng, tearing her heart and crying, shouting baby, you come back! Mom will no longer force you to do things you don't want to do, please come back?
However, people are like this, when they are infinitely demanding, they are gone, and it is useless to regret and cry.
When the cute father received the news and arrived, her mother had already cried into tears and collapsed to the ground.
Sometimes you really can't put too much pressure on your child, and today's children, unlike before, are sometimes really not as strong as parents think.
I may be wasted, for my children, I dare not expect too much, as long as they live happily, I am content with good health, I don't think that my children have to get ahead.
Globally, China has the highest suicide rate, according to the numbers.
Among Chinese children, excessive study pressure ranked first (45.5%), followed by early love (22.7%) and divorced parents (13.6%). In the age ranking of suicides, 12 years old accounted for the first place (40.3%), followed by 14 years old (22.7%), 11 years old and 13 years old (13.6%).
Behind every cold number is a living life, and a family that may be shrouded in haze forever.
Some people say that meeting such parents is a disaster for children! Yes, it does feel like a disaster in the eyes of those of us, but such parents think that everything is for their children.
Some people also say that parents hold the desire of their children to become dragons and phoenixes, in fact, where are so many dragons and phoenixes? The vast majority of children are ordinary, and as parents, you should accept this reality! As long as the child is happy, healthy, safe, and the grades are gone! Yes, every child is ordinary, why do you ask them to get ahead? Is it just because you are their parents?
In fact, having said this, what I want to say most is that what should be done in moderation should not blindly force children to do what they do not want to do, otherwise it is likely to be counterproductive, and it may also cause unexpected tragedies.
So whether it's parents or children, we do whatever we do, just do our best, and everything goes with the flow.
What else can we do to protect children's mental and spiritual health?
For children who have recently lacked normal learning and social interaction, how can parents and teachers correctly guide children to relieve their emotions and get out of psychological difficulties?
Communication is the best way to solve problems, although children are very young, but they can also understand the words of their parents, and must be positively guided.
Conclusion
Meng Meng in this article is actually a very well-behaved child, in her heart, she also wants to be like other children, but it is because her mother has given her too much pressure, so that she can't bear it, and the 13-year-old child is already in a rebellious period, self-esteem is very heavy, just because she didn't do well in the test once, she was chattered by her mother, and finally added violence to cause Mengmeng to think about it for a while and go to the point of no return.
Moe Moe Mom regretted it, but now it doesn't help, I believe that in real life, there are many families like Moe Mom .
I hope that such parents, you listen to the child's heart, do not blindly make decisions, sometimes we can also follow the child's point of view.
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