Writer Mo Yan wrote a saying in "Frog": "Get out of the legs first, debt collector." ”
This means that if a family owes a debt to others in a previous life, the creditor will reincarnate into the family and make the family suffer. This reincarnated child may not be able to survive, and it is easy to die, bringing great pain.
From a scientific point of view, this saying is not correct, but from the perspective of human nature, it has a certain deterrent power and is in line with the "law of cause and effect".
When we reach the age of fifty, we are halfway through life. A good life, work hard in the first half of your life, and enjoy happiness in the second half. Bad life, the first half of life is muddy, the second half of life is bitter.
At the age of fifty, there are old and young, and he is also a "", but he has a lot of responsibility, not only to consider the family, but also to gradually hand over the pressure of the family to the children. On the other hand, consider your own pension problem.
Comprehensively considered, you will find that people over fifty, do not owe anything to the following kinds of debts, the sooner you pay off, the better, to avoid the evening desolation.
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The "filial debt owed to parents" indicates the corruption of filial piety.
From the moment we are born, we owe our parents a debt. As the saying goes, the body is skinned, and the parents are affected.
When my parents are very old, we need to take care of them. In any case, ensure that parents are fed, clothed, warm, and have more company.
When a person cannot even tolerate his parents, then when he is very old, he will not receive the filial piety of his children.
There are also some people who do foolish things and do not correct their parents' mistakes, resulting in the upper beam being wrong and the lower beam being crooked.
Wu Geng was the son of King Shang, and looking at King Shang's atrocities, he did not point it out. When the Shang Dynasty was destroyed, Wu Geng still wanted to avenge his father.
With the few remaining soldiers, he launched the Three Prisons Rebellion. After the defeat, the entire family perished.
Conversely, if we are filial to our parents, we embody the kindness of being a human being and set an example for our children, so that future generations will be filial to themselves and thus support their old age.
What parents do right, carry forward; Parents' mistakes should be pointed out and corrected. After several generations of correction, the family style is correct, and the old people are happy at home.
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A "parenting debt owed to a child" indicates a mistreat or a great partiality of the child.
Since you have chosen the child, treat the child well, not only responsible for giving birth, not responsible for raising. You know, when children are young, they are the ones who come to collect debts.
The ancients said: "The son is not filial, the father is guilty." ”
Children are not filial, parents are responsible, not to find a way to morally kidnap their children, force their children to retire.
After the age of fifty, my children have grown up, but we still have the spirit to help our children and take care of our grandchildren as much as we can. They are all a family, and if they can speak two words, emotions are greater than the law.
In the last years of the Western Jin Dynasty, an official named Duke Xi hid in the countryside in order to avoid the funeral of Yongjia.
The villagers respected him and would take turns inviting him to dinner.
However, Duke Xi felt sorry for his nephew and nephew, and every time after eating, he would put a ball of rice next to his cheeks. When I got home, I spit out my meal and gave it to my two children.
When Duke Xi died, his nephew made a county order, but his nephew did not hesitate to go home and mourn for three years.
Consult more with your children, arrange the distribution of family assets, children's careers, and support them more. Children feel the kindness of their parents at any time, so when they feed back, they are willing.
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Owing a "love debt between husband and wife" indicates that there is no reliance in old age.
After the pianist Liszt became famous, he had several romances, but none of them officially entered into marriage.
There is a young girl, Olga, who is dissatisfied with the real marriage, abandons her husband, and runs away from home. She admired Liszt very much, and entered Liszt's villa dressed as a man.
When Olga and Liszt confirmed their love, they began to criticize Liszt's past, and the love fell into trouble.
Horrifyingly, Olga also wrote memoirs to expose the ugly side of Lister. Love is gone, and of course there is no decent home for the rest of your life.
Look at a custom in the Togolese country.
When the relationship between the spouses breaks down, go to the local department to confirm the divorce.
The staff shaved the couple's hair in half, and exchanged the hair as gifts.
Although divorced, "leave a line of human favor" and do not hurt each other.
Yes, what is more profound than the fate of husband and wife? One day husband and wife hundred days of grace, don't throw it away casually. Otherwise, your old age will be walking alone.
Although you can have a dusk love, how can it be so good as the original match?
On the road of life, you will meet a lot of people, maybe you love more than one person, but you have to be restrained and clear about right and wrong.
After the age of fifty, tossing love is not a joke. If your love is lost, then you owe your lover a lifetime of love, and there is no way to repay it in the next life.
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Owing a "moral debt to society" indicates difficulties in old-age care for the rest of your life.
After the age of fifty, you must be a person of high moral integrity and know the truth of virtue.
If a person loses morality, then it is a debt to the whole society, and your image will be spurned, so that no one will treat you well when you are old.
Gao Lian in the late Northern Song Dynasty learned the trick in the juju - "Mandarin Duck Cane", and was also very famous in the calligraphy circle, so he was deeply loved by Song Huizong.
Gao Lian has too much selfish desire, and also condones his family to do corrupt things. When the Northern Song Dynasty was in danger, Gao Lian did not seek a proper job, and he and his colleagues praised the emperor.
According to the records of "Dangkou Zhi", Gao Lian was taken down, confiscated all his belongings, and soon sent to Cangzhou.
Now, this is not the age of barbarism, but it is also possible for some immoral people, in their fifties, to lose their jobs or to be punished for corruption.
After the age of fifty, without a job or social care, a bleak old age begins. And, your pitiful appearance, no one sympathizes, but someone spurns.
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Li Qingyuan, a medicinal scientist at the end of the Qing Dynasty, wrote in his "Self-Narrative on Health Care": "Enough firewood and rice, carefree, finish official food early, and do not be shocked or humiliated." Do not owe people debts and make profits, do not enter the pawn court, only need tea and light rice, you can prolong life. ”
The reason why a person lives happily is not because of how much money he has in his hands, nor because the benefits are in his own hands, but because he is "debt-free and light", the family is safe and harmonious, and the surrounding environment is elegant and comfortable.
Coarse tea and light rice, carefree, is the best health.
People are all a lifetime, only decades, but there must be long-term arrangements, don't wait for yourself to be very old, remember what is important, and regret your former self.
Look at you, what is owed? Pay it off one by one, if you are destined to pay it off, you must do your best and be worthy of it.
After the age of fifty, we must not only know the destiny of heaven, but also the good life of a good person.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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