Xiong Ruiling
Cover news reporter Xun Chao
Event background
Some time ago, the famous dancer Yang Liping sent a video of eating hot pot, which triggered heated discussion among everyone. The reason is that under this video, a comment was praised to the hot one: "A woman's biggest failure is that she does not have a child, and the so-called living herself is a mongolian... At the age of 90, (can't enjoy) the joy of children and grandchildren. After the comment was moved to Weibo, it immediately caused anger among netizens. Qi Wei angrily rebuked "don't define us women" and made it clear that "women are not fertility tools", chen shu, Li Ruotong, Chen Derong, etc. have also posted diss statements.
After the controversy, Yang Liping's art official posted a video in response. In the video, she mentions loneliness, "loneliness, is what I think of as loneliness, not complicity." Be quiet in the downtown, in the quietest place will feel that the water is your partner, the clouds are also your hair, the air is your breath, this is not lonely, not lonely at all. Subsequently, Yang Liping herself left a message under the video: "People will go to aging and death, no one can save you, but your spirit is young, your breath is beautiful, and it will emit a special taste." As long as you think you're doing well and haven't hurt anyone else, you can. ”
As for why not have children, Yang Liping has also responded to this question more than once. She once said in a show: "I feel that an ant is my child, the dance work is my daughter, and many lives are worth loving, not necessarily a sense of belonging." 」 She also once said: "Each of us has come to this world and has the meaning of each person." My meaning is to dance my dance well and convey the original brilliance of life. ”
Biography
Xiong Ruiling is a film and television actress Chinese mainland and an actress at the Sichuan People's Art Theatre. In 1996, she debuted with the role of Princess Xuanhua in the TV series "Sui and Tang Dynasties"; in 2008, she played Ding Yulan in the TV series "Proof of Identity" and was well known to the audience; in 2009, she played Xu Qiuyun in the TV series "Xu Mao and His Daughters"; in 2014, she participated in "The Great Case of the Mekong River" and was nominated for the 28th Golden Eagle Award; in 2016, she played Su Ming in the TV series "Keeping Marriage Like Jade", and in October of the same year, she played Fu Bingxian in the TV series "Desperate Defender" In 2017, he established the Black Snail Drama Studio; in 2018, he participated in the TV series "Get Out", playing Chen Kun's mother, Mrs. Qiao; in 2019, he played Yu Hui in the TV series "Icebreaker Action", and in September of the same year, he starred in the TV series "National Child" premiered on CCTV.
As a modern woman, I think people's life states are different, and there is nothing wrong with what kind of life you choose. Probably most traditional women, including the education of their parents, feel that you will have to get married, have children, and follow the steps. It is not clear what is good or bad in the middle, just do yourself.
Like I have a lot of full-time wives around me, their lives are also very good. There is a strange phenomenon that few people among their friends are willing to admit that they are full-time wives. If you look into her heart, you will find that their value to this identity is not certain. In my opinion, a full-time wife not only has to support her husband's career at home, but also has to take the children to do housework, which is a very remarkable thing.
Through this, we can do more thinking about the value of women. Like when I was a child, watching Yang Liping's dance and looking at her physical expression, I felt that this was a person, this was clearly a fairy, she was born a dance elf. She is not an ordinary, regular woman, her mind is all about art, who has it affected? No, but it brought us so many good dance works.
Yang Liping is a "fairy", a natural born for dance. You have no way to create, you follow the rules, like your wife and children hot kiln, people's value point is not there. The world is changing, don't take one point of view and comment on others.
There are also many people in life who say that I am stupid and say that I am straight, that I speak without considering the consequences, and that I am not mellow enough. But I'm not a businessman, and if I satisfy everyone, I'll lack my own edges and corners. My concentration is not in talking round or not, but in my artistic creation. This also shows that everyone's point is different, and how people want to live is everyone's own business.
I am a post-70s generation, and our education is filial piety to parents, inevitable obligations and responsibilities to husbands to children, and adherence to the bottom line of psychology. But I think personalization is also important. Like my son who goes abroad after graduating from junior high school, sometimes we may only have a video call once a week when we are busy. Do people question me as a mother? I certainly am, but our communication won't be so sticky because we're two separate individuals.
When the child is young, I will do my duty, and when he is older, I will do my best to help him get on the horse. But growing up, he had his circle and I had my way of life. We are of course intimately related by blood, and he is my spiritual sustenance. But I don't need to raise children to prevent aging.
Maybe I'm really "selfish" because the value of my life is definitely more than just children. This is certainly not perfect in the minds of many people, but I chose a lifestyle that suited me. Even if some people like to do it, this is also the choice of others, you want to see it, don't point fingers.
I have worked hard until now, and I have had a lot of struggles and dissatisfaction. I feel that what I should grasp more is that I have worked hard and my sense of value has been satisfied. Moreover, any happiness is in the process. I got this play, this role I love very much, I put in two or three months, after the work came out, the process is not how much money can enjoy.
What is the concept of happiness? I hope that women of different ages can think about their current selves and think about where your life value is at each stage. People can't succumb, they have to think independently about what kind of life they want. Quality of life is also so many decades, quality of life is a very important thing.
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