Author: Xuan Gui
Source: Journal of Marriage and Family
ID：hunyinyujiating99
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Some people always say: It's too late.
In fact, now is the best time.
For a person who really pursues something,
Every period of life is young and timely.
There is such a person:
At the age of 20, he gave up his university studies to work as a resident singer in a restaurant;
Married at 21 and married to a like-minded boyfriend;
30-year-old driving a luxury car, living in a mansion, and having land under his name;
The 44-year-old held a concert with Cai Qin and Qi Yu;
Divorced at the age of 45, with a 16-year-old daughter out of the house;
On her 50th birthday, she said to herself: From now on, every year to do a vigorous thing!
Her name is Guan Lingzhi, and she is 63 years old this year, and she is the goddess that the post-90s generation envies and aspires to!
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At 20, do you dare to "betray" the world in pursuit of your dreams?
Many people know that Guan Lingzhi was on the stage of Zhejiang Satellite TV's "China New Song" in 2016, and she from Taiwan competed as the "teacher" of the biggest coffee since the establishment of the show.
Although it finally stopped in the top 10 of the Harlem group, the song "Song for Myself" sung by Guan Lingzhi "occupied" the top spot of the major music charts in the following days, and was called "the artwork sung by the artist" by netizens.
If estimated according to the seniority and achievement of the entertainment industry, Guan Lingzhi cannot be regarded as an "artist" in the true sense. Of course, people's ambitions do not lie in this. For her, doing what should (or had to) do at a certain age is called life.
Guan Lingzhi was born in Taipei into a musical family. His mother ran a large theater, his father was proficient in Chinese and Western instruments, and his brother was a musician in a jazz orchestra. Guan Lingzhi has been heard about it since childhood, especially indulging in Michael Jackson's music.
When she was in junior high school, she used her spare time to sing in the restaurant. English songs, Hakka songs, she is all familiar with it. In addition to solving the tuition fees and living expenses, the income of the resident singers can also save a part.
Guan Lingzhi's parents did not object to her singing, but did not want her to make a living from it. Guan Lingzhi was also very obedient, majoring in journalism in college, thinking of becoming a journalist in the future.
But at the age of 20, Guan Lingzhi knew that if he did not get close to his dream, he might only be able to live the life expected by others in this life. Everyone was puzzled and opposed, but she resolutely gave up her college studies, left home, and then asked in restaurants and bars: "Do you want a singer?" ”
A month later, Guan Lingzhi became a resident singer at a restaurant. She sang hard and steadily, taught herself music knowledge, and looked forward to one day releasing an album, forming a band and starting a concert.
At her best age, she met the man she loved the most in her life, handsome and dashing, who loved music as much as she did, and played the piano very well, which was the "Taiwanese version of Andy Lau" in the minds of many girls.
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At the age of 45, do you dare to take your child out of the house?
Married at the age of 21 and gave birth to a daughter at the age of 29. For 15 years since then, Guan Lingzhi has devoted himself to his family. Because of the years of hard work before, she has become a rich woman sitting on hundreds of millions of assets.
In 2002, the 44-year-old Guan Lingzhi, together with Qi Yu and Cai Qin, held a "One Giant Hui" concert, and the musical talent who had been dormant for many years finally waited for the spring of her career. The English album that has been brewing for many years has gradually gained eyebrows. My daughter is in high school, the orchestra is in the works, and everything is in full swing.
But the next year, the 45-year-old Guan Lingzhi chose to divorce.
Guan Lingzhi said that marriage is the best choice for two people, and divorce is also the best choice for two people.
"Do you know that the water is almost flooding your neck, and the weakness and pain of not being able to breathe?" If I don't get divorced again, I'll die. Guan Lingzhi said that her husband suffered from depression and had been drinking for many years, and she had worked hard for 8 years but it did not help. Together, instead of warming each other, we can only lose both.
When she divorced, Guan Lingzhi chose to leave the house and raise her daughter alone, she said: "He is almost 60 years old, and he can't go out to work because of physical reasons." And I'm fine, and I can go out and earn money. ”
Years later, Guan Lingzhi still sighed when she remembered the scene of the divorce, and she cried and said to him: "So far, what I love most is still you, the one who unveiled the wedding for me." The moment is eternity, and you have to be well. ”
After the divorce, guan Lingzhi had no money, and the newly formed orchestra had to be disbanded. At 45 years old, everything went back to zero. She said that since she was 21 years old, she has not rented a house to live in, and has lived in a large house for many years, with an aunt cooking at home and a driver to pick up and drop off.
When he woke up in the rental house one night, Guan Lingzhi asked his daughter in a trance, "Where is this?" Why are we here? ”
Her daughter told her, "This is our home because you and your dad are divorced, because you said you want to start your life again with me!" ”
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At 50 years old, do you dare to live again?
Previous lives, good and bad, are all in the past. "What if you don't?" What about the child if he doesn't start over? What about an old mother in her 80s? If you don't sort yourself out, how can you start all over again? ”
In order to stand on the stage and sing again, Guan Lingzhi began to desperately earn money. She chose a profession that was faster and harder to earn money – sales. How hard is it? In Guan Lingzhi's own words, it goes from "chicken calling to ghost calling."
After spending 3 years and earning enough to meet her and her daughter's normal needs, she chose to leave the "promising" sales company. In August 2005, Guan Lingzhi used the sales income to release his first album "The Good Voice of the Official".
"It's okay to make money, but I don't like it, I'm not happy. After the divorce, I am not afraid to take my daughter alone without any money, am I afraid to approach my dream again? Guan Lingzhi said.
"If you fall, cry, and if you are injured, you will apply some medicine." The pain of falling, the pain of illness, will surely become the medals and music of the future! ”
Guan Lingzhi used such a sentence to welcome her to approach the life of her dreams again.
On his 50th birthday, Guan Lingzhi's birthday wish was: "From now on, do a vigorous thing every year." ”
She said "vigorously", compared with her past self, does this thing she did today really make her feel happy and meaningful?
Guan Lingzhi said that whether she was 50 years old or 20 years old, she never compared herself to others.
She is only compared to her past self.
As long as you dare, you can still live like a goddess at the age of 63.
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Let's see what vigorous things Guan Lingzhi has done after the age of 50.
50 years old - Guan Lingzhi prepares her debut Chinese cover album "D8 do low hegemony", and the guest language album "Head SwingIng You" (Hakka dialect, meaning "you a long time ago") composed entirely by herself.
51 years old - "You with your head swing" made Guan Lingzhi stand on the podium of Taiwan's "Golden Melody Awards". This late reward convinced her that winter would be spring, and the rest of the road might not be easy, but she wanted to walk well.
52 years old – Travels to the U.S. with her daughter and retraces all the attractions she's traveled with her mom years ago. For Guan Lingzhi and his daughter, who had lived in a rental house for 3 years and worked several jobs, this was their 2010 boom.
53 years old - with veteran singers Fan Yiwen and Xiu Jing, he formed the "woman woman us" girl group and publicly challenged the popular girl group "SHE".
The 54-year-old - "womanwoman we" group launched its first EP "Say, You Love Me", which was on TV and held concerts, which swept Taiwan.
55 years old - Guan Lingzhi, as the only invited guest in Taiwan, went to Dubai to participate in a concert. The stage of the concert is set up in the middle of the desert, and the official Lingzhi finale is performed.
56 years old - Guan Lingzhi and his old friend Tu Huiyuan (Taiwan's gold medal composer and producer, Huang Qishan's ex-husband) reunite by chance, and talk about the cooperative bar. Six months later, the "live house" bar was established in Taipei. At least one day a week, Guan Lingzhi went to the bar to sing, just as she had done when she was younger.
At the age of 57, Guan Lingzhi accepted the invitation to play the lead role in the song and dance drama "Hot Girls Go to School", which is known as the Taiwanese version of "Chicago". Every night, I memorized the dense lines on the script and ran crazy for the stage effect. Three months later, the song and dance drama "Hot Girls Go to School" starring her was full, and the 57-year-old was called "Little Hot Girls".
58 years old - participating in "China's New Songs", Guan Lingzhi and a group of young people who can be her children, rehearsed and recorded all night, for a 30-second film, shooting for nearly 40 hours.
61 years old - after the investment failed, she began to operate cross-border e-commerce, selling daily necessities and beauty, and the income of tens of thousands of Taiwan dollars a month was enough to make the former singer live in peace.
Guan Lingzhi once said on his 59th birthday: "Live in the moment, cherish the people in front of you, which day the mood is good, find a handsome guy to discharge, and then talk about a vigorous love!" ”
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At this moment, make yourself a cool wish!
How old are you today?
What is being done at the moment?
Is it also like Guan Lingzhi, doing at least one vigorous thing in a year?
If you are 18 years old, can you be like her then, and choose boldly for your dreams?
If you just happen to be 20 years old, what kind of youth is invincible if you don't take advantage of this age to vigorously love someone?
30 years old is still young, you can actually use the courage and love of 20 years old to manage the current relationship well.
At 40 or even 45, it doesn't matter if you think it's right to give up or accept a relationship. Because life has just begun.
Are you afraid of the arrival of 50?
Perhaps, at 30, you are already panicking.
But what's the use of being afraid?
Instead of being afraid and resisting, it is better to learn the official Lingzhi, no matter what kind of life experience you have had before, make a birthday wish for yourself to "explode the sky":
From now on, do one thing every year!
"In fact, no stage of life is so difficult, and I believe that when I am 80 years old, I will still live a "very fun" life. ”
This is the heartfelt words of Guan Lingzhi.
Who says it's not?
Grandma Moses, who became famous for her paintings in her twilight years, said, "Some people always say it's too late." In fact, now is the best time. For a person who is truly pursuing something, every period of life is young and timely. ”