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I never dared to think that Asian women would win an Oscar, and I always felt that it was out of reach.
However, Michelle Yeoh made history.
Still, at 60 years old, she is.
60 years old, this is by no means a good age for a woman, without a young and beautiful face, it has nothing to do with beauty, layer after layer of wrinkles crawl all over your face, leaving traces of the ruthlessness of the years.
"Old age and decay", the four words seem to tell through the past and present lives of women.
This also makes women generally anxious about age, and the twenties are the best years for girls, and after the age of thirty, they begin to decline. Dreams, you still dare to have any dreams, you have to have children when you get married, from that day on, your career will reach the ceiling, if you still dare to have dreams, it is selfish.
There are many women around us who "die" as soon as they get married and have children.
There may be some people who don't quite understand what it means for Michelle Yeoh to win an Oscar?
Isn't it great in itself that at 60 years old you can still realize your dream and stand in your own field and become a top1? She is the first Asian and Chinese actor to be crowned in the history of the Oscars in the past 100 years. Don't care about Michelle Yeoh's nationality, just say what she did, she can still have such courage at this age, it is very worthy of our applause.
"Witnessing all this tonight with all the little friends who look like me, is a beacon of hope that big dreams are indeed possible. And women, don't let anyone define you as 'you're gone,' and never give up. ”
60-year-old Michelle Yeoh stood on the stage of the Oscars, holding the trophy, and when she said this, she was beautiful.
Regardless of age, you can be yourself as long as you dare.
This also makes me think about one thing: where is the value of women themselves?
Let's extend it from "Michelle Yeoh won the Oscar".
You may say that it is the entertainment industry, and their big star actors are too far away from the lives of our ordinary people. It's a long way off, but have you ever thought that it would be more brutal. We ordinary people don't need to carry so much pressure, just need to find their own positioning.
I have also asked myself many times: After the age of thirty, is it possible that my life will be like this? What else would I like to do? What else can I do? Every time I think about it, I think about my children and I feel like I'm limited a lot. I also said such a stupid thing: In the future, I will count on two children for the rest of my life, and if I raise them well, I will have no worries about food and clothing.
But the question is, what about myself? Do I still have dreams?
And where am I myself? After getting married and having children, was there a moment when I was living for myself?
After giving birth, I wrote while raising my baby, including now, so hard, in fact, to find my own value. I know very well that my life should not be for others, but for myself. I also don't think it's selfish for a married woman to be herself. Why can't you be yourself? Who stipulates that you must sacrifice for the sake of the child and the family, can you find your own value more outside the child's husband's family?
Or, don't pay too much attention to them, but pay more attention to your own growth.
I also discussed with my husband whether I could go to the graduate school of the Chinese Department of Xiamen University, and since I liked this, whether I could return to campus one day. I'm not afraid that you will laugh at me, I have this idea, but I haven't acted yet, maybe after sending my daughter to kindergarten, I will really act. I don't want my life to stop here, that's it, I always feel that there are endless possibilities.
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Michelle Yeoh, redefining "woman".
She made history to tell us: No matter what age, you can pursue your dreams. She encouraged women not to give up being themselves.
Michelle Yeoh, we are no strangers, she is famous for "beating women" in Hong Kong films.
In fact, Michelle Yeoh does not need to fight so hard at all, because her family is very advantageous, she was also raised by her parents as a princess when she was a child, and began to learn ballet at the age of 4, and also learned painting, piano, badminton, skiing, horseback riding, diving.
As a teenager, she moved to England with her parents and was admitted to the Royal Academy of Dance in London to specialize in ballet. Later, due to her own health, she had to give up her dream of being a ballerina. She switched her major to dance and minor in arts, and earned a bachelor's degree in the major.
Michelle Yeoh has also participated in beauty contests, and at the age of 20, she looks beautiful, and she also wants to make herself stand out with her beauty.
Beauty pageant champions have always entered the entertainment industry, and Michelle Yeoh is no exception.
Michelle Yeoh is very hardworking, once she decides what she wants to do, she will put in a hundred times more effort, in order to make a good movie, she painstakingly learned Cantonese and Mandarin. When I didn't know Michelle Yeoh, I always thought she was from Hong Kong, after all, we all knew her from Hong Kong films in the past.
When she first entered the film industry, the women played by Michelle Yeoh are also more effeminate, crying and crying, very soft; But such a woman is destined to be only a vase and a foil. Although Michelle Yeoh debuted as a beauty pageant champion, she is not willing to make a vase, and the women in her mind are powerful and intelligent.
With this idea, she transformed into a star.
A pampered eldest lady, being a star, is really whimsical.
But, Michelle Yeoh, did it.
Michelle Yeoh has made many well-known Hong Kong films: "Royal Senior Sister", "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon", "Police Story", "Sword Rain" and so on. Her status as a star is completely spelled by herself, making movies for so many years, rarely using stand-ins, what Jackie Chan can do, she can also do.
After becoming famous, Michelle Yeoh married Hong Kong tycoon Pan Disheng.
Perhaps everyone thought that she would become a rich wife, but Michelle Yeoh endured for three years and divorced. She doesn't want to be such a woman, raised by her husband, and wandering around her husband, so where is she herself? Who rules that women can't chase their dreams once they get married?
The wealthy marriage that everyone envies only lasted for three years, Michelle Yeoh divorced, if marriage can only bind you, what do you want marriage to do? Michelle Yeoh also fell in love many times later, and once they were engaged, but because her boyfriend had restrictions on her, she also broke the marriage contract. She still respects her, which is why the two of them have been able to maintain an intimate relationship for 18 years.
Could it be that after marriage, women can only return to the family to become full-time wives?
Why give up your career?
It's always women who are sacrificing.
Michelle Yeoh is not willing to be bound, if marriage becomes a cage, what is the point? If your partner doesn't respect you, how can you spend the rest of your life with him?
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We will find for a long time: it is easy for men to be themselves, they are rarely limited; However, women are different, and women are subject to various restrictions from birth. The inherent prejudice makes it difficult for women to move forward, as well as various discrimination in the workplace brought about by marriage and childbirth, after having children, more people will bind you with "maternal accusations", we have struggled in the hustle and bustle all our lives, but have you really lived for yourself?
Why do you have to be the one who makes so many compromises?
Is there an exception.
Why do you feel very sad about the "sponsored girl as a housewife for eight years", which was hotly discussed some time ago? Because another woman is attached to a man and gives up on herself, although she is still alive, she is just a "dead corpse", forgetting her original intention of working so hard.
Is life better with palms up? Do you see if she dares to have her own ideas and opinions in the future?
Being raised by others seems to be worry-free, but you must know that the person who raised you will not allow you to rebel against him. Define your own value in the "womb" and be like that for a lifetime. A stable marriage with a rich old man is good, but if she is unstable, she will lose all games, and other ordinary women may have her mother's family as a backing, and she may not even have the most basic support.
She also said that it was the man who changed her fate, which is really foolish.
Of course, you will also say that marrying well should not be blessed? Even if I come out to work, I can earn a few dollars a month. But you have to know that "you have something to do" is not the same after all. A really smart girl should never stop at "being raised" and have a good life, but how do you use resources to be yourself more unscrupulously.
At any time, no matter what age, you should not judge your life too early.
Women can also do something instead of having children, raising children, and being busy with many household chores all day. Having children is a great business, but you have to think about where you are and ask yourself if there is anything else you want to do and don't do.
Actually, you can do it.
Today's topic: After getting married and having children, do you still have dreams? Do you still dare to be yourself? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; The original creator of emotions, writing about the warm emotional things of this world.