Sisters, it's really eye-opening, everyone has seen Hailey and Selena's affairs recently, and the treasures who haven't seen it click here to review the past.
I originally thought that the affairs of the two of them would fade from the public eye over time, but their fans made new jobs in reality.
First, he challenged his boyfriend to support Hailey or Selena.
Now it has evolved into major merchants using tip jars to label to see the public's support rate.
Outside of this battle between Hailey and Selena abroad, the most discussed thing is about the existence of their small group.
When Hailey and Selena poked and poked, Jin Xiaomei was present, and Kelly posted a suspected ironic video.
After netizens saw the overseas girlfriend group, they couldn't help but think of a sister group in China, Big S, Fan Xiaoxuan and Aya.
But instead of targeting other girls, they often joke about Aya in the sisterhood.
When she was a student, Aya was almost like an errand girl, helping them buy breakfast and write homework.
In previous years in variety shows, they were still accustomed to making Aya a joke on various occasions.
The public's impression of Aya has also been shrouded in such an image, until she left the big S, did her own show, and updated her account, everyone found that Aya, who had always been regarded as a green leaf girl, had actually been shining, but it was only temporarily covered up.
Now, Aya has refreshed the impression of netizens on her, and the label on her body has changed from playing treasure to intellectual.
In recent years, Aya has long been reborn, she is no longer the joyful singer who sings red bean ice with exaggerated body movements, nor is she the supporting role who has always been used as a harlequin by Big and Small S to make people laugh.
From the edge of the crowd on stage, she finally stood in the center of the stage where the lights flickered only for herself.
From a foil life to a life of adventure
How did Aya do it?
Everyone's initial impression of her was that tomboy with Astro Boy's hairstyle and dancing "Ice March" with a robot's dance posture.
When I see her, the magic lyrics will sound in my mind, "Red beans big red bean taro, frustration and setback, what do you want to add." ”
After the song became popular, she had to keep marketing the tomboy character.
Until 2017, her new songs "Miss Wallflower" and "Weight Loss Boxing" continued this style.
She has another identity on the screen, and for a long time, she was the number one representative of the Green Leaf Girl.
The green leaf girl, as the name suggests, is a marginal figure who has always stood next to others to set off the brilliance of the people next to her.
When she appeared on the sister travel show with Sister S and Fan Xiaoxuan, she was even more full of the characteristics of this attribute.
Big S daily damage Aya
One of the traits of a leafy girl is marginalization in relationships and a weak sense of identity.
When the four of them go out together, the degree of horse catching that the S sisters have together goes without saying, and Fan Xiaoxuan is the most casual and willful person, even if she is empty, others will think that this is an artist's moment.
And Aya has always played the role of "audience", and when others compete to show the camera, she sits below and applauds.
Even so, he was always openly complained by other sisters, and he pulled down the level of the entire sister group.
When Aya appears eager to try, she usually gets a blow-type reply.
After Xiao S finished singing, Aya was also excited and wanted to sing a song, so Xiao S asked her to turn off the microphone and sing again.
After Big S touched up the makeup, asked the sisters if they were immediately advanced, everyone echoed, and Big S had to say coldly, Aya is the least advanced among us.
Aya's presence in small groups makes others accustomed to making fun of her.
But the sheep did not want to simply criticize Big and Small S's suppression of Aya's friendship.
Instead, I want to analyze how she found her own life stage in such an environment and lived to become the heroine of the intellectual wisdom in the hearts of many girls.
When she appeared in the public eye with the variety show "Odd Life", it made everyone's eyes shine.
Is this still the same Aya from before? But in fact, this is the real Aya.
The first step of the green leaf girl's attack is to actively seek a benign relationship with each other as equals, and then amplify her advantages in the right environment.
In the show, Aya accompanied ten stars to travel around the world, went to Africa with Xiao S to see elephants, chased tornadoes with spring and summer, and went to the Arctic to pan for gold with Liu Wen.
Through the process of communicating with each other during the journey, the guests and Aya gradually opened their hearts, and even if there was a camera, they were willing to show their relaxed side.
Aya has a magical ability, no matter who is with her, the other party can always lower her psychological defenses and be willing to share her darkest moments, or heart-wrenching stories that are not enough to be outsiders.
There was an issue in which Mao Buyi talked about his internship experience as a nurse and told his heart knot for many years.
The first person to die in front of him was his mother, who he thought was still in a state of worry before he died, because he was not a successful person at that time.
Aya's response was not simply to reassure, but to explain to him her feelings as a mother.
"Don't think like that, because I'm a mom, she won't think you're an unsuccessful person, she will only worry that you won't be able to take good care of yourself."
A few words not only made Mao not easy to come out of the haze of memories at that time, but also let the public see the unique temperament of Aya, she is intellectually inclusive and understanding.
Aya went from a foil life to a strange life, and then to the stage of Sister Lang who shined in the back.
She has long transformed into an open-minded, free-spirited, sober and mature attractive woman, and Aya's life reversal ideas are also worth learning from all girls.
The key point for the green leaf girl to win the turnaround battle
It's about getting rid of patterns of inertia in relationships
Let's start with what the inertia pattern of the green leafy girl is in the relationship.
Green leaf girls are functional beings in some relationships, such as being with others, and they have to assume a funny and funny identity to highlight the advantages of others.
Many supporting roles in film and television dramas are also such existences, they bear the role of being consumed and joked about in the relationship, and must sacrifice their own image and feelings as a price to gain the attention and happiness of others.
The green leafy girl will worry that stopping such behavior will affect the relationship, so she unconsciously persuades herself to slowly get used to this situation.
Some people may say that many girlfriends will promote the relationship between the two by sarcasm and ridicule each other.
But the question is whether the person being teased will think that this is just a simple joke.
For example, Aya and Big S's friendship has decades of deep feelings, and Aya has also publicly said that she always scolds her big S, and when her father dies, it is the other party who accompanies her left and right to accompany her through the difficulties, and their feelings do not need to be questioned.
However, in daily relationships, she often begins to feel uncomfortable because she is in a passive state.
Once after Xiao S joked with her on the show, Aya privately found her and said that she should not do this again, and she was very uncomfortable.
Aya doesn't really need to use subordination to consolidate her friendship with others and prove her worth.
It turns out that she can definitely become a unique presence in other shows, from the previous surprising "Odd Life" to "Nice to Meet You" with Zhou Xun.
Whether it's the rhythm she hosts or the harmonious scene of throwing stalks with guests, she copes with it like a fish.
So another crucial point is to show your strengths.
The summary is that tearing off the leafy girl label to escape requires a stable relationship through subordination.
Abandon the sense of recognition in a small team, find your own positioning, find another stage to show yourself, and strengthen personal subjectivity.
A person's situation will subtly change themselves, in an environment that is constantly being hit, it is slowly easy to develop feelings of self-doubt, and it is more difficult to get rid of this identity.
And the first step to change is to stay away from the environment where you become a leafy girl.
How important is the environment?
The sheep thought of a test in Japan before, the girl has always been very inferior, and with friends is a small transparent existence.
She was used to wearing a mask everywhere, and after fifty days of being praised in a row, her appearance changed dramatically.
The whole person became refreshed and loved to smile even more.
When the green leaf girl no longer tiptoes to be a supporting role in other people's lives, but puts more eyes on herself, she can recognize and see her own value from the heart.
As Chunxia once said in an interview, "I just want a light in this world to light up for me, which is very important."
There are many girls like Aya, not as beautiful as Big S, not as smart as Little S, they are used to finding a sense of presence in the song.
However, once they abandon this idea, they will regain the initiative in life and discover a new self, and can become more charismatic people to a large extent.
The sheep also bless all girls to shine in their new adventures and unlock their new ways to open!