Wen \ Mu Xin, Jiang Zuo Meiniang
To talk about this year's stars, who is the most embarrassing? Chen Feiyu, the "good" son of the Chen Hong family, is counted as one, and Zhang Ziyi must also be able to count it. At the just-concluded Paris Fashion Week, Zhang Niangniang actually sat on a cold bench.
Line up for admission, sit in corners, wear seasonal dresses, and settle accommodation at your own expense. Zhang Ziyi's treatment and South Korean actress Kim Ji-so, who was favored by Dior's daughter, are simply a Pacific Ocean.
You know, Zhang Ziyi is the first Asian actress invited to watch the show by Paris Fashion Week, and since 2005, she has been invited 8 times, the whole process is VIP.
But look at today, it's really not what it used to be.
Vanity Fair has always been snobbish, and with Zhang Ziyi's arrogance, her heart may naturally not be comfortable, but from the moment she leisurely held the thermos cup to drink water, I concluded:
Now 44 years old, she has already lived an extremely transparent life, what she wants is not a spotlight around, being held up by people to look at the treatment, she wants a "happy life" with fireworks.
01 People who grit their teeth and break through the peak of fame and fortune will want to reduce their burden in the second half of life
In the general impression of the public, Zhang Ziyi is a woman who writes her ambitions on her face, and her personality is really unpleasant, but people really turn her ambitions into reality:
From a Chinese opera student to an international superstar, Zhang Ziyi took only 10 years. During this period, she made 15 popular films and won at least 23 awards, and the "International Chapter" is by no means a wasted name.
Behind her dazzling achievements is her consumption beyond the limits of gender and physical strength. While filming Ang Lee's "Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon", her nails were knocked off, and she only applied snow once, and then filmed.
When fighting with Zhou Yunfa, it was common for the bamboo pole to be hit in the face, but she didn't care, and when Zhang Ziyi's mother came to visit her daughter's class, she was directly scared to cry.
Physical suffering is nothing, psychological suffering is really torturous. At that time, although Ang Lee had decided to play the female number one, she was still auditioning for the heroine.
After Zhang Ziyi saw it through the window, she was very uncomfortable, but with the arrangement of the big director, how can she be a little girl who has just become famous? She can only secretly make up her mind to kill this role!
But during the official filming, Ang Lee always stared at the monitor expressionlessly and smoked, not affirming or denying Zhang Ziyi's performance. Occasionally, when he saw Zhang Ziyi looking at him, he would glared at her fiercely.
In the 5 months of shooting, Zhang Ziyi had no one to talk to, and she was only 90 pounds thin, she could only grit her teeth next to each other, and she had to endure the torment of thousands of turns physically and mentally.
On the day of the finale, Li An's hug and affirmation made Zhang Ziyi cry.
Nowadays, it is popular to "slack", in Zhang Niangniang, you can't see a penny, which is also the fundamental reason why she is always not treated, she is honest, and she can't pretend, you watch her grit her teeth all day to fight, who sees that she won't be stressed!
The audience is this thing, is "destiny", forced to come, she does not care about these, however, "hardship and hardship, Yuru in success", this sentence is not false, 10 hours of play practice a day, in the bitter cold of minus 20 degrees, she gritted her teeth and insisted, this persistence is three years.
Finally, "A Generation of Grandmasters" won 12 awards at once, which finally made Zhang Ziyi smile.
However, there are many popular people, this red lady has not yet eaten up, and then around Zhang Ziyi's "fraudulent donation door", "splash ink gate", "beach gate", the door is sandwiched by her misery, but in front of people, she still has to hold on, it is really not easy.
However, everything obeys the law of conservation of energy, teeth clenched too tightly, sore and tired, and the "international chapter" that has already had the highlight of his career must also plan for the rest of his life.
This is also the reason why Zhang Ziyi met Wang Feng, who could make her relax and smile, despite the opposition of her parents, she would rather be a stepmother than marry him.
The scenery of Vanity Fair, she has tasted it, she has suffered a wound on her back, she is also tired of pain, and at this time the rapids retreat bravely, it is a wisdom of life.
The people who are honored as guests by Fashion Week are still the masters of crazy fighting in Vanity Fair, Zhang Ziyi no longer wants to live this kind of life, "the front waves of the Yangtze River push the back waves", how can she care too much about what she voluntarily gives up?
When we reach middle age, our physical problems are constant, and we dare not overload and toss anymore, Zhang Ziyi is the same, as the only person on the show who drinks water with a thermos cup, she just wants to reduce her burden, relax herself, and live a relaxed and warm life.
02 Most women's happiness is related to men and children, and there are too few exceptions
Last month, three Peking University girls were scolded for their night conversation with Chizuko Ueno. Many people feel that the happiness of highly educated women cannot bypass men and children?
But this is indeed a social phenomenon, and the happiness that most women recognize is related to men and children. Like Yan Ning Chen Guo, there are too few women who ignore the world and only focus on themselves.
Zhang Ziyi was not exempt from vulgarity, and after enjoying the highlights of her career, she began to be enthusiastic about emotional satisfaction. Among the happiness that Zhang Ziyi wants, marriage and children account for a high proportion.
Li Min learned that her husband had repeatedly split his legs, and in less than a year, he was thin and godless; After Wang Ziwen fell out of love, he cried so much that he cried with pears and rain. These two are career-type sober heroines, but in front of the man they like, they still lose their posture.
Without the intention of belittling them, the thinking mode that attaches importance to emotions in women's bones, which can be completely eliminated at once?
Besides, a woman who has already achieved fame wants to find a man to give herself three warmth, and can it be a more down-to-earth happiness?
You will find that after being with Wang Feng, who is very good at providing emotional value, Zhang Ziyi is very happy, and she is often photographed with a smile on her face.
After having a daughter and son one after another, Zhang Ziyi's stretch became more and more obvious, and she held the joy of her young son, which was the same as when she went on stage to receive the award.
Yes, Wang Feng understands her difficulties, can see her vulnerability, and can secretly support her when she can't be brought out of the championship by Na Ying sarcasm, and is only worthy of being recharged in style, to help her win back a round.
Sincerely for his own good partner, the attraction to women is fatal, even though Wang Feng's black history continues, but Zhang Ziyi is very satisfied with Wang Feng, her happiness is from the heart.
When she reaches middle age, the balance of life is naturally more inclined to marriage.
In "Men from Mars, Women from Venus", it is mentioned that "men naturally value strength, ability, efficiency, and achievement. Women, on the other hand, pay more attention to emotion, communication, beauty and sharing. ”
Yes, women pay more attention to spiritual things, which is also the main reason for the long-term popularity of emotional programs and related books.
When I was young, men and women were busy looking at the world of flowers outside, and perhaps did not pay too much attention to their feelings. The older you get, the more pronounced the difference between men and women.
Men can always linger in the outside world, while women always look forward to a man to soothe their tired hearts.
Zhang Ziyi is like this, and those women who are in favor of borrowing sperm to have children are also like this, they have no confidence in marriage, but it is not bad to have a child and fill the emotional gap.
Women really don't need to twist their nature to live, let it be, you live without screwing.
03 In career and family, women can only choose between trade-offs, and it is impossible to have both
A reporter once asked Ma Yili: "How do you balance family and career?" Ma Yili said without hesitation: "There is no balance, the so-called balance is actually sacrificing yourself." ”
In fact, everyone's time of day is constant, and the more time spent on one thing, the less attention is bound to be reduced in another.
The sacrifice that Ma Yili said about himself cannot actually be exchanged for balance, the only way is to choose, and if you take this end, you must give up that end.
After Zhang Ziyi and Wang Feng got married, the resources of big names were significantly less, and since 2019, she has not had the global endorsement of high-luxury brands.
In addition, the resources of the entertainment industry are connected, and Zhang Ziyi's film resources have also visibly declined. The shrewd Zhang Ziyi began to switch to TV series and variety shows, of course, the splash was far from the previous highlight moment.
Many fans turned white to black, and they all felt that Zhang Niangniang was "degenerate", but Zhang Ziyi understood that it was already the best choice for him to be like this.
Because even if she changed tracks, Zhang Ziyi's time in her career was also tied up a lot by her family and children, and her face showed fatigue from time to time.
Yes, it's much easier to get acquainted with faces in TV series and variety shows than to win a movie award, but Zhang Ziyi wants to take care of it, it's quite difficult, and then soak in the crew all year like before, but the loss is a precious and warm family!
The next day of the 3 children, one "Mom, when will you come back?" ", really enough for her to worry, Zhang Ziyi originally cherished the family she formed with Wang Feng, and at the age of 41 she fought for a second child, which is particularly expensive for women, and it is not easy for her to survive until now.
Zhang Ziyi is now cold on the Paris runway, but she is also satisfied with her intimate husband's cute children.
Sandberg said in her best-selling book Lean in Step Forward that the "all-powerful woman" is a myth and cannot exist.
Not only can no woman be omnipotent, but even men can't do it, and how much time do men who have successful careers and harmonious families spend with their children?
Jackie Chan occasionally picked up his ancestor's name from school, and he didn't even know that his son was in junior high school, and waited stupidly at the entrance of the elementary school for half a day.
Forced by reality, everyone has to make trade-offs for what they want, want to stand firm in their careers, and may not even have time to talk about love.
Celebrities have money and backing, and they can't do both career and family, not to mention us ordinary women? So, it's normal to be able to do a good job of one or both ends with negligence.
So if career and family, each item can score 80 points, it is still higher than just a single 100 points, another zero point total score!
04. Mei Niang said
"Silence" said: "Women, the most important thing is to find a position for yourself, so that the happiness that belongs to you can come to you." ”
The positioning here is the best choice made by a person based on the current mood and needs. Just like Zhang Ziyi, who was 35+ years old, was willing to set a new positioning for herself in the face of fame and emotion, it was bound to give up some of the opportunities for scenery.
Or as it is said in the Analects: "The golden mean is in harmony without relying on it, in reality and not in vain." "Confucianism pays attention to the golden mean, compromise and reconciliation attitude to the world, Zhang Ziyi's choice, just step on this, this dynamic psychological balance, is the closest way to happiness."
The cold reception at this year's Paris Fashion Week, Zhang Ziyi had expected it, but she still went beautifully, just because what she wanted was no longer sought after by magnesium lights.
Compared with watching Zhang Niangniang's Fanghua peerless in the past, I appreciate her low-key indifference now. The look when proud is dazzling, and the open-mindedness when frustrated is even more wise and noble.
Now Zhang Ziyi is the most comfortable state in her life, her husband and children are warm and accompanied, although her career is not on the front line, but there is always a fall, so what is not to be held?
Just like me now, I am also a second child in hand, the teacher is doing, and the self-media is writing, although they are not so good, but the whole is moving forward, it is enough.
Life is a single lane of trade-offs and balances, and if you make a choice, you have to bear the cost, and if you want to balance completely high, you can only take care of one or the other.
You might as well be moderate, don't be so extreme, you will find that this is the most down-to-earth happiness.
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