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How do you introduce yourself on your resume?
Do you talk about other people from time to time as lively and cheerful XXX, or depressed XXX.
These are the more obvious labels.
We are always constantly becoming and making labels. We're going to learn to take it off, are those really you? Do you want to continue to be "labeled" like this?
Try to take it off, everyone should not be defined.
Every summer, some of the plumper girls in the class will be the object of discussion.
"With such a big chest, do you dare to wear tight clothes and not be afraid of being seen?"
"She has such thick legs and wears shorts? It's so rough. ”
I knew it wasn't right, but I became one of them.
Going out with friends, seeing a little fleshy arms and wearing suspenders and short skirts, I will subconsciously look at it twice, thinking how dare she wear it like this.
You're too fat to wear like this.
You wear too short and will encounter hooligans.
You have a big chest, wear more to cover up.
Seriously, it's so hot, do you have to wear long clothes and trousers all the time? Even if you are really not very satisfied with yourself, at least let yourself look cooler.
Won't you be talked about if you wear more?
Is it safe to wear more?
Is it up to you to decide on your own?
What do you do when this does happen to you, do you obey them, or do you boldly tell them that you don't like it.
Once a person is labeled, he will subconsciously think that he is like this.
This is also why some words are easy to remember if we hear too much, because they are too easily influenced.
As I once read a short article, two young mothers spoke differently to their son and observed the situation.
The child's A and B test scores are not satisfactory, and he faces the reprimand of mother A
He was in great pain.
Child B faced the gentle and calm mother, "Is it not good this time, you find out where these problems are and then understand it one by one, don't worry, take your time, mom believes that you can do better next time." ”
Although he was also sad, his expression softened.
The results of the second exam came down, and the child's AB score was almost the same, but B was a few more points.
Immediately after the third exam, child B was already far ahead of A.
Every reprimand "you can't do it", "you can't do it" and "you're stupid" will cause the child's psychological impact, and slowly he becomes more and more indifferent to these words, and accepts it calmly, feeling that he is really a stupid person who can't do anything.
Instead, in the face of those difficulties and setbacks, tell yourself that "I can do well", "I can", "I will do".
Being able to mentally suggest at the same time will also make you look forward to your next performance more and push yourself to do better.
Always have confidence and expectations for yourself and don't limit yourself.
In the eyes of parents, children always have the appearance they should have, in the eyes of teachers, students always have the appearance they should have, in the eyes of outsiders, girls always have the appearance they should have, and in the eyes of their in-laws, daughters-in-law always have the appearance of daughters-in-law...
Too much, too much.
Many things are good and bad, don't think to the extreme once it happens.
Either fear of communication or social fear, difficulty or failure, either bad state or abandonment.
Don't worry about how interpersonal communication will be handled because of sensitivity; Don't worry about the future because of anxiety; There is no need to judge beauty and ugliness by fat and thin; Don't worry about whether you can withstand the blow because of vulnerability; Don't worry about success because of low self-esteem.
Accept the casual development of people and things, and calmly face their good and bad results.
Tear off the external label, be yourself, feel your own strength, feel your own strength, feel your true self.
Get out of the limited circle, no longer be bound by certain behavior patterns, and be bold to be yourself.
To be yourself is brave and bold, but also delicate and gentle.
It's your favorite self.
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