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Japanese actress Yui Niigaki has recently been on the news, which is scary!
Because the title is "Marriage Crisis", didn't Gakki get married in May this year?
Click in to take a look and breathe a sigh of relief.
This "crisis" is purely speculation by the Japanese media - they found that Yui Niigaki and Hoshino Yuan had not moved together for five months, so they speculated that the relationship between the two had "deteriorated".
Isn't this pure chasing?
The two young people did not say anything at all; and according to the existing information, it is very likely that the "separation marriage" was discussed in advance.
As early as three years ago, during the collaboration "Escape from Shameful but Useful", Hoshino Gen took the initiative to move to the vicinity of The Yuki niigaki's house.
The two are neighbors and lovers, and should also be satisfied with this way of getting along, so they chose to get married.
Having been neighbors for a few years and not moving in together after getting married this year, it is obviously a consensus reached by the couple before marriage.
This is also fully in line with Gakki's otaku personality - although in love and marriage, you also need to retain your own private space.
Japanese actresses with similar ideas are obviously not only gakki.
Tenkai Yuxi, who is "sober in the world", said in April this year that if she must get married, "separated marriage" is her ideal state.
"For example, if the apartments are adjacent or face-to-face, I can accept it."
"Call the other person and say, 'I'm done eating, are you going to come over?' Be able to keep their own castle. ”
Therefore, living separately after marriage is not necessarily an "emotional crisis", but may be a designed "new type of husband and wife relationship".
Married and not living together, separated but not far away... Speaking of the mother-in-law also began to envy.
In fact, such "separated marriages" are already quite a lot in Hollywood star couples.
Plus-size supermodel Ashley Graham and film cameraman Husband Justin Ervin have been married for more than 10 years and have had to live separately on the east and west coasts of the United States because of the nature of their respective jobs.
Ashley Graham revealed in an interview that the two agreed to see each other every two weeks, and later fell in love with this lifestyle completely.
"We met in New York, Los Angeles, and then we went to Paris and Miami to meet. It feels like dating, very sexy. ”
There is also Julia Roberts and photographer husband Daniel Moder, who have been married for 19 years and are a model couple in Hollywood.
The man spent $9 million to buy another residence across the road from his house. Because it is not far away, "the whole family still maintains a very close relationship."
In Sex and the City, Aidan buys Carrie's apartment and the apartment next door and prepares to open up the whole big one.
In real life, SJP and comedian husband Matthew Broderick operate like this, buying a neighbor's apartment, opening up in the middle, and usually living on one side.
Gwyneth Paltrow opted for a "semi-separated" state.
She married her second at the age of 46 and married television producer Brad Falchuk. The two spend the night together only four days a week, with the remaining three days living apart.
She said that her married friends were one by one, and they were super envious of her.
What are the benefits of "separated marriage"? First of all, of course, to preserve the freshness of love.
Gwyneth Paltrow says her "intimate relationship mentor" thinks living apart can "keep the mystery" and is good for that.
And two people get along for a long time, they will gradually lose sight of each other's advantages.
Maintaining proper distance allows couples to see each other from a more objective perspective, which helps to re-establish an attitude of appreciation and approval.
Second, living separately allows you to retain your own habits.
Xiao Bei and Bei sister-in-law divide the "three eight lines" at home, and when they go to the country house in Oxfordshire (pictured below, right), they will live in two different houses.
It is said that this design concept of "you building, me building" was conceived at the beginning of construction.
Because Xiaobei especially loves to be clean, in 2006 he also revealed that he had obsessive-compulsive behavior: everything had to be arranged in a straight line, or appear in pairs.
"If you have three jars in your home, you have to throw away one." Sister-in-law, on the other hand, likes a relaxed and stress-free family atmosphere.
Therefore, the two families have their own activity areas at home and do not disturb each other; of course, family activities such as eating and accompanying the baby are still together.
Not sure if this is one of the secrets of their 22 years of marriage and still being together.
There is a third advantage of living separately, which is to reduce the sense of responsibility and reduce the degree of annoyance of life chores.
"The X-Files" actress Gillian Anderson and producer boyfriend Peter Morgan were in a five-year relationship and never lived together. She sighed and said, "It's so nice not to live together!" ”
She had two previous marriages, both of which lasted only three years.
For the form of living separately, Gillian Anderson hates each other late: "It's really great to see a pair of pants thrown on the ground at his house and I would step over without guilt." ”
Of course, the coin has two sides. Of course, the "separation marriage" praised by celebrities will also have some potential negative effects on the relationship.
First of all, the intimacy is discounted, giving more opportunities for people who desert their minds.
Gillian Anderson, who was happy to step over her boyfriend's pants, had a boyfriend cheating late last year, and the two sides briefly broke up.
Now it is compounded; the man's cheating is not a "separated" pot, it is completely that he can't control himself.
However, living apart does give the leg splitter more space, making it difficult for the other party to find and extinguish the small flame.
Secondly, it is difficult for families with children to operate.
Have you found that the "separated marriage" couples just mentioned either have not yet had children, or the children are already old and do not need to worry too much.
In the case of Brother Hammer, there are three snot babies in the family that need to be taken care of, and it is certainly very unrealistic to separate.
In most families, I dare say that "living separately" will only make the baby a mother alone.
Finally, and most importantly, the premise of "living separately" is to be rich enough!
Couples Like Yuki Niigaki and Julia Roberts, both need family property to contain two adjacent homes.
British actress Helena Bonham Carter is very honest about this.
She and the director's ex-boyfriend Tim Burton have had two babies for more than a decade and have always maintained a "neighbor" relationship.
She said it's certainly good to be back in her "safe house" at any time, "provided you can afford it."
So you can "live separately & live close together", which happens more often in celebrity families.
In our ordinary world, the mother-in-law has even heard of examples of middle-aged couples "divorcing and not leaving home", just because neither party can afford to buy a house and move out.
------------ If you are divorced, you have to face each other every day, and isn't it a pipe dream to keep your distance when you get married?
It's just that when people reach middle age and their children are older, they really feel that it is important for couples to keep their own space.
Like me, every day I fantasize that I can move to the "double bathroom master bedroom" type of house, I can stay alone in the bathroom, electric face, makeup, smear... No one is allowed to come in.
This yearning for personal space has nothing to do with whether the relationship between the two people is good or not.
My parents were a well-known model couple, and my mom still told me early on: the ideal model is a weekend couple.
"Otherwise, it's really annoying to stare at the big eyes and small eyes every day."
I believe that there are many people who agree with my mother's ideas. However, even if there is a condition to do so, it will have to face the pressure of public opinion.
From the Japanese media to the seven aunts and eight aunts, they all feel that "living separately" is a "marriage crisis", how can you explain it clearly to them?
Therefore, a little more examples of celebrities like Gakki "separated marriage" may be able to educate social concepts -
Human society has been progressing, and the understanding of marriage also needs to keep pace with the times; as long as both families feel OK, why not be more distant from beauty?