#历史开讲 #
4-year-old Kong Rong knows how to let pears, and is praised for being sensible, well-behaved, shrewd and intelligent. At the age of 10, he was evaluated by the famous man Li Yi: "Wisdom must be a great weapon." "At the age of 16, he took responsibility for his brother and was almost beheaded. At the age of 55, Cao Cao's family was beheaded. Since he was a child, he has been wise and wise, and Kong Rong, who respects his brother and can speak well, how could Kong Wenju be exterminated?
Let's start from his childhood, find the path of his growth, and learn about this twenty-generation grandson of Confucius and one of the seven sons of Jian'an.
Born a child prodigy, a showdown between banquets
Kong Rong arrived in the capital Luoyang with his father when he was ten years old. Luoyang City is prosperous, with shouting on the streets and tall buildings one after another. Kong Rong was only ten years old, but he was particularly curious about Li Yi. If you want to see what kind of person Li Yi is, I will visit the door. He said loudly to the gatekeeper: "I am a relative of Li Yi. At that time, the famous scholar Li Yi was also in the capital, and his rule was that if it was not a famous scholar or his relatives, the gatekeeper would generally not report. The gatekeeper did not dare to make a trot to report, and entered the courtyard and was beckoned to sit down.
Li Yi smiled and asked him, "What is your relationship with me?" ”
Kong Rong replied, "In the past, my ancestor Confucius and your ancestor Laozi Li Er had the honor of teachers (Confucius once asked Lao Tzu about Zhou Li), so you and I are also friends of the world!" Many guests were present at that time, and they were very surprised by Kong Rong's answer.
During the banquet, Dr. Chen Wei came to Li Yi's house, and the guests told him about it, but he said disapprovingly: "When I was smart, I was not necessarily good when I grew up." (It's time, big may not be good.) Kong Rong immediately retorted: "From what you said, you must have been very smart when you were a child, right? (If you think about it, you must be done.) Chen Yun's face turned red and he had nothing to say. Li Yi laughed loudly and said, "With all the vigor and no respect for the elders, such a smart child will definitely be able to become a big player in the future." ”
Kong Rong is indeed sharp, directly mocking in person, you say that you are smart when you grow up, it may not seem that you are smart when you are young, and directly fight back. But it is not appropriate to let a doctor from the stage under the public, even if it is a child.
Took in Zhang Jian and became famous
During the period of Emperor Huan and Emperor Ling of the Eastern Han Dynasty, the scholar and aristocratic class were dissatisfied with the phenomenon of chaotic government by eunuchs, and party disputes broke out with eunuchs. The calamity of the party was named because the eunuchs imprisoned the Shiren for life on the charge of "party members", and it happened twice before and after, and the Shidafu group was severely hit. The calamity of the party ended with the eunuchs killing Shi Dafu and the party, which also laid the groundwork for the Yellow Turban Rebellion and the final demise of the Han Dynasty.
In this incident, Shi Dafu Zhang Jian was wanted. Kong Rong's brother Kong Zhao was Zhang Jian's friend, so Zhang Jian hurriedly came to join Kong Zhao. But unfortunately, Kong Zhao was not at home, Kong Rong, who answered the door at that time, was only sixteen years old at the time, and Zhang Jian did not tell him the truth because Kong Rong was too young and worried that he would leak his mouth.
Kong Rong saw that Zhang Jian looked flustered, so he left Zhang Jian behind. Later, the matter was revealed, Zhang Jian fled, but Kong Rong and Kong Zhao were arrested and imprisoned. In court, Kong Rong said that Zhang Jian was left by him and that he should be responsible; Kong Zhao said, "He came to beg me, not a brother. "He is responsible; Kong's mother said that she was a parent and that she should be responsible, making a "fight to the death". Later, the emperor decided to put Kong Zhao in charge and execute Kong Zhao, and Kong Rong became famous for this matter.
How to say, to protect one's own body is the most important thing. Not to mention whether Kong Zhao will keep his friend at home, an outsider rushed to your house in a hurry, and you opened the door to let him in? Without even figuring out the basic situation, they left people behind? But if you think about it with a little emotional intelligence, it won't be like this. Kong Rong is also fateful, and his brother is not wrong about this, but he bears all the blame. As a result, the wrongdoer gets a good name, and the rightful person dies.
Kick to the iron plate and look for death yourself
The biggest and most capable leader Kong Rong met in his life was Cao Cao. Who is Cao Cao? Bicaiqi, people are the founder of "Jian'an Wind Bone", the article has been passed down through the ages, and the song "Watching the Sea" is heroic and ambitious; In terms of IQ, people are politicians and military experts, whether they are commanding subordinates or attacking on the battlefield, they can't fight. However, he "found a different way", seizing every opportunity he could, saying strange and sour things, sarcastically ridiculing his superiors, and even showing his superiority by opposing Cao Cao's major decisions.
Once, Cao Cao issued a prohibition on alcohol, saying that alcohol is not a good thing, and that drinking too much will kill the country and must be strictly prohibited. The supreme leader spoke, and basically no one objected, even if the cadres with good wine muttered in their hearts, they did not dare to say it. Just Kong Rong didn't dry, he jumped out and said, Cao Chengxiang, you said that drinking alcohol died in the country, I don't think it may be! Cao Cao was unhappy in his heart, and asked casually, why not one? Kong Rong blurted out, I heard that women are more likely to die than wine, so why not ban women together? This analogy is pungent enough and in place, Cao Cao's reaction at that time was: hate to the root of the tooth!
It is not terrible to say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing in front of the boss, what is terrible is to make mistakes again and again, which is Kong Rong's third and most fatal weakness. After that bickering incident, if Kong Rong could find an opportunity in time to admit his mistake to Cao Cao and give his boss a step down, Cao Cao might laugh and laugh, all gone, and mention what it did? Unfortunately, Kong Rong did not realize this, but went further and further down the wrong road of feeling good about himself, until he reached a dead end.
In the ninth year of Jian'an, when Cao Jun captured Yecheng, Cao Cao's eldest son Cao Pi took a fancy to Yuan Shao's daughter-in-law Zhen and married her. This was originally a family affair of the leader, and it had nothing to do with Kong Rong, and he stood up against it when he was nosy. Cao Cao asked Kong Rong, what do you say is wrong with this? Kong Rong played with an allusion: when King Wu of Zhou was the king of Shang, he gave the favored concubine Daji to the Duke of Zhou. Cao Cao was confused, and he didn't know what this meant, so he humbly asked for advice, and you explained it clearly. Kong Rong explained: "Take it for granted today! "Kong Rong fabricated a non-existent historical fact, and with an attitude of treating death as if he were at home, he pushed the bottom line of his superior's patience with bad information to the limit! Therefore, later, when Kong Rong directly criticized his superiors for "holding the Son of Heaven to order the princes", Cao Cao no longer wanted to endure it.
According to the announced charges, Kong Rong had two "reactionary remarks." One is to say: Father and Son, what grace? In its original meaning, but at that time the lust attacked. Son and mother, what love is there? It's like a thing temporarily stored in a crockpot, and after pouring it out, it doesn't matter anything. The second is to say: When there is a famine, there is something to eat, and if the father is not good, it is better to take it to others to eat. Such remarks are, of course, "unfilial piety".
Therefore, Cao Cao said viciously on the notice: "Contrary to the heavens, contrary to the way, corrupt and disorderly, although the city is wanton, I hate it late." "It means that not only should you kill, but you kill late." Kong Rong did not die on "rebellion", but planted in "unfilial piety", which once again shows that he is just a nerd who blindly uses his intentions. There were eggs under the nest, and finally Kong Wenju's whole family was killed.
Kong Rong's literary wisdom is outstanding, but he is dismissive of the workplace. Don't think about what the consequences of what you say will cause, and only care about your own happiness and have such an ending.