How many people still remember singer Cong Fei?
Cong Fei, who sponsored 183 poor children, performed more than 300 charity performances, and donated 3 million family belongings.
The Cong Fei, who donated 150 disabled people, adopted 37 orphans, and volunteered more than 6,000 hours.
The Cong Fei who won the "100 Chinese Things That Have Touched Since the Founding of New China", but had no money to treat the disease, died of stomach cancer.
Such a kind and pure man, the deeds of his life are brilliant, but he is full of helplessness and desolation of being hurt by his own kindness.
How tragic was Cong Fei's life?
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Cong Fei was born in 1969 to a poor family in Liaoning Province.
A family of 8 people, all have to rely on their father's meager income to live, life is very difficult.
However, the Cong Fei family is a kind person, a well-known local well-wisher, often selflessly helping others.
Perhaps it was this family environment that created Cong Fei's bodhisattva heart.
When he was a child, Cong Fei showed an amazing talent for singing.
The theme song of film and television dramas such as "Huo Yuanjia" and "Shanghai Beach" is played on tv, and Cong Fei can perfectly cover it as long as he listens to it once or twice, which is not much worse than the original song.
In that era of lack of entertainment, the neighbors next to the door became Cong Fei's "fans", and they let Cong Fei sing two voices to them when there was nothing to do.
Gradually, Cong Fei became self-taught, and his singing skills became better and better.
However, the poor family environment makes Cong Fei's musical dream unsustainable. He has been sensible since he was a child, and he knows that his parents have already done their best to support a large family.
In the second year of junior high school, Cong Fei dropped out of school and entered a local bank as a cashier.
But the heavy lifting didn't make him give up on his dreams, and he used his free time to continue singing.
Kung Fu paid off, and Cong Fei was admitted to the Shenyang Conservatory of Music with a salary.
A peasant boy, relying on his own unremitting efforts, became a college student in the Art College. At that time, Cong Fei was definitely an excellent student in the cold door and an inspirational figure.
In 1992, Cong Fei graduated from school, and with a musical dream, he went south from the northeast to the economically developed Guangzhou to pursue his chances of fame.
However, singing was destined to be a difficult road, and at that time, music students said that graduation from this major meant unemployment.
Cong Fei, who had just arrived in Guangzhou, was equally difficult, had no source of life, and he was kind and unwilling to open his mouth to ask his family for money.
Cong Fei, who ran into walls everywhere, could only sell songs on the street when it was most difficult, spent the night under the cold bridge holes, and even picked up leftovers.
The polishing of life did not change Cong Fei, but let a little kindness become the eternal sunshine in his heart.
Once Cong Fei was selling songs on the side of the road, and a "Ussuri Boat Song" intoxicated himself. After the song was sung, a girl in the crowd was deeply moved, and she took out 600 yuan on the spot to fund Cong Fei to pursue her musical dreams.
In this way, with 600 pieces sponsored by the kind girl, Cong Fei participated in the singer competition and appeared on the stage for the first time.
This game surprised the audience to find that the plain-looking, plainly dressed young man on the stage actually had such a high musical talent.
Cong Fei's fate has finally changed, his career is booming, and he has finally ushered in the climax of his life.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > second, the charity performance changes the trajectory of life</h1>
If this continues, Cong Fei will at most become an ordinary singer, and eventually the light will gradually be forgotten at any time.
But a charity performance that I participated in by chance completely changed the normal trajectory of Cong Fei's life.
In 1994, Cong Fei was invited to participate in a charity performance in Chengdu to help out-of-school children return to school.
After singing, Cong Fei learned that these out-of-school children were all because of poor family conditions, and their parents were unable to support their studies.
This is very similar to Cong Fei's experience of being forced to drop out of school as a child, and the kind Cong Fei felt empathy and donated all of his 2400 yuan on the spot.
When he learned that the money he donated would allow 40 children to complete a year's education, Cong Fei's warm face burst into a kind smile.
As if he had done the right thing in his life, Cong Fei's heart was extremely stable, and an unprecedented sense of satisfaction filled his body.
At that time, Cong Fei did not know that philanthropy would accompany him throughout his life and make him "addicted".
At that time, Cong Fei, who was a little famous, paid as much as 10,000 yuan for a concert.
In that era, Cong Fei could have relied on this skill to become an upper-class person above countless ordinary people and live a solid and wealthy life.
But to everyone's surprise, Cong Fei plunged headlong into the "bottomless pit" of charity, which cost money.
All of Cong Fei's income has been donated to charity to support poor children and the disabled.
However, his own life is very poor, and the family is still crowded in an old-fashioned community of tens of square meters.
In the 12 years of charity, Cong Fei has volunteered for more than 6,000 hours and performed more than 400 charity performances. It has funded 183 poor children to continue their studies and donated more than 3 million yuan to their entire wealth.
He also assisted more than 150 disabled people and adopted 37 orphans, covering Bai, Miao, Qiang and other ethnic minorities.
Cong Fei's love for children, regardless of ethnicity or region, is a truly selfless fraternity.
However, such a man with good intentions like a glorious day, his dazzling life ended in tragedy.
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When Cong Fei did charity, he had a family. His wife at the time was a Burmese, and at first the two had a good relationship and gave birth to a lovely daughter.
However, Cong Fei is obsessed with doing charity, and the life of the family is becoming more and more difficult, and his wife has repeatedly dissuaded him uselessly, and finally angrily proposed divorce, and also lost his 2-year-old daughter to Cong Fei.
In this way, Cong Fei had to carry out a busy charity performance while taking time to take care of his daughter, and he could not be idle for a moment.
However, Cong Fei's kindness was rewarded, and in 2003, a beautiful flight attendant named Xing Dan was attracted by Cong Fei's deeds.
As a fellow of Cong Fei, she took the initiative to come to Cong Fei's side, and even took the initiative to quit her job as a flight attendant in order to take care of Cong Fei and her daughter.
Someone asked Xing Dan, Cong Fei took all the money to donate, will you have no opinion?
As a result, Xing Dan just smiled and said: "He can do whatever he wants, anyway, he is happy, as for the money thing, anyway, the family situation is not to the extent that he can't eat, he can fund it, and he can spend it himself." ”
Such an open-minded couple, such an enviable fairy love, but did not let God have a trace of mercy.
Just over a year later, Cong Fei was diagnosed with stomach cancer in 2005, so severe that he couldn't swallow it.
Even though life has sounded the alarm bell, Cong Fei's first consideration is still those poor children.
In fact, from 2003 to 2004, Cong Fei borrowed 170,000 yuan from relatives and friends because his children were in a hurry to go to school.
Now that he has lost his source of livelihood, Cong Fei's life is even more difficult, he does not even have money for medical treatment, and he needs to borrow money from relatives and friends and collect donations from society.
At that time, Xing Dan had just become pregnant, Cong Fei was about to have a second child, cong Fei on the hospital bed, praying day and night that he could survive that day.
However, Cong Fei, who disappeared into the public eye, was questioned by the donors.
The parents of poor children called cong fei, and the first sentence was: You said that you would sponsor my children to go to college, and now they are only in junior high school.
Cong Fei had no choice but to patiently explain that he was suffering from cancer and now did not have the ability to continue to donate.
As a result, the other party said a chilling sentence: Then when will you be able to cure the disease and come out to make money?
How can a person who is thin and cold be able to say such a thing? I believe that the pain caused to Cong Fei by this sentence is even worse than the physical torture caused by chemotherapy.
Coincidentally, the children who received funding and shouted "Daddy" to Cong Fei were more white-eyed wolves than the other.
A child who was recommended by Cong Fei to become a music teacher said: "Cong Fei helped me voluntarily, and I did not force him. Everyone does things with a purpose, and I don't say that you know the purpose of Cong Fei. ”
Another child who was sponsored to go to college said: "It is a shame to be funded, it is a shame to be known, please delete my name from Cong Fei's article." ”
There was also a poor girl who once wrote to Cong Fei for a luxury MD CD player to compare with her classmates and called it for study.
Cong Fei did not suspect, directly to the mall to buy a 2800 yuan MD to send over, and finally the girl just replied with a text message: "MD has been received." ”
When told that Cong Fei was hospitalized with cancer, the girl said lightly: "Oh, then I wish him peace of mind and a speedy recovery." "Then there was no news.
Even after being treated like this, Cong Fei did not blame them, but fell into a deep self-blame: "I said I would fund them to finish college, how can I talk now without counting?" ”
To this end, he donated only 3 months of medical treatment money for the donation of well-wishers, and the rest was donated.
God didn't open his eyes, and in 2006, Cong Fei's condition deteriorated rapidly.
On April 20, Cong Fei fell into a coma and eventually passed away.
An angel who radiated light and warmth fell to earth at the age of 37.
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At the time of his death, Cong Fei was still concerned about the world.
He made only three demands, the first was to join the party; the second was to donate his cornea after death; and the third was to refuse a four-bedroom, two-hall house donated by the Shenzhen Housing Bureau.
And Cong Fei's wife, Xing Dan, insisted on taking care of her husband even when Cong Fei was seriously ill. To give birth to a child, there is no intention of being alone.
When Cong Fei died, Cong Fei's daughter had just been born.
New life and death, intertwined, brew up a more emotional sadness.
On that day, countless people held up signs that had gone all the way to send Cong Fei on his last journey. More than 300,000 people mourned for Cong Fei online.
People died and the dust fell, but Xing Dan did not escape, she used her weak shoulders to carry down the debts owed by Cong Fei before she died, and continued to move forward with her daughter.
Who would have thought that fate would not let go of this poor family.
On April 13, 2011, While driving, Xing Dan was hit by a stone deliberately thrown by three bear children on the side of the road.
Xing Dan's artery in the corner of his left eye was severely injured, and he died after being sent to the hospital for rescue.
That year, Xing Dan was just 30 years old, and he was the pillar that supported his daughter's sky.
Although all three teenagers were sentenced to prison, Xing Dan's life could not be saved, and the 5-year-old daughter became an orphan and could only be raised by Xing Dan's parents.
In just 5 years, bad luck has torn the family apart.
The deeds of Cong Fei's life inevitably make people sigh.
Those who were warmed by Cong Fei did not reciprocate their kindness. Instead, taking the request as a matter of course and the goodwill as a matter of course is inevitably disgusting.
When Xing Dan commented on her husband Cong Fei before his death, he said: He is too soft-hearted, let alone a poor child, even ordinary friends come to plead, and Cong Fei also tried his best to solve it. He doesn't know how to reject others, which is an advantage, but it is also a weakness.
Cong Fei, Cong Fei, may you have an afterlife and continue your goodness, but please remember:
Kindness should also have a sharp edge.