He was a well-known singer who did good deeds for 11 years and did good deeds without expecting anything in return.
He donated 3 million yuan of family property, successively funded 150 out-of-school children and disabled children, adopted 37 orphans, but he saved money and lived on instant noodles, was complained by his parents, and his former wife divorced him.
He is Cong Fei, a well-deserved good man who has touched China.
It's just a pity that the world is unpredictable and people's hearts are complicated.
In March 2005, at the age of 36, Cong Fei suffered from stomach cancer, and his economy was so difficult that he could not even get the money for treatment.
At this time, many people who had been helped by Cong Fei not only did not come to visit him, but instead asked him for money in a straight face, and even asked him to deny that he had helped himself, on the grounds that "now that it is out of the way, this kind of thing is too humiliating."
A year later, with regret and reluctance, Cong Fei passed away, and his deeds caused great controversy in society, and many people thought that this was a typical "good person has no good recompense".
In 2011, Cong Fei's widow died unexpectedly, leaving two young daughters, and for a time, the saying that "kindness is not worth it" can be seen everywhere.
But is that really the case?
Today, let's walk into Cong Fei's life and the current situation of his two daughters to find the answer together.
Cong Fei was not originally called Cong Fei, and his amazing kindness was not innate, and many things gradually grew out after experiencing suffering.
On October 29, 1969, a family surnamed Zhang in Taizhuang Town, Panjintian, Liaoning Province, gave birth to a baby boy, and his father named him "Zhang Chong", hoping that he would be a person of high moral character in the future.
Years later, Zhang Chong said that he was a bird in the grass and wanted to fly to the vast sky, so he gave himself a stage name - Cong Fei.
As a child, Cong Fei did not have any lofty ideals, and he was most concerned about whether he could eat enough for the next meal, after all, he was born in a family with extremely poor economic conditions, and eating was the most important thing.
Cong Fei's family is very poor, there are elderly grandparents, there are three brothers below, and the family of eight people all rely on their father's salary of 36 yuan a month to survive. The green vegetables that could not see the oil and water and the white porridge that counted the grains of rice constituted the profound memories of his childhood.
Parents are the background of a child's life, and Cong Fei's life cannot avoid the role of father.
Cong Fei's father, Zhang Wanjun, has little culture, but he likes to listen to the northeast two people turn around, and usually when he is fine at home, he will also sing a few words at will.
Under his influence, the young Cong Fei was also fascinated by "singing", but he preferred modern songs to his father's singing of the Northeast Duo.
Heaven did not let Cong Fei be born in a wealthy family, but gave him a good voice. At that time, his favorite thing to do was to use the broom as a microphone, imitate the singers in the TV series, and sing his newly learned songs to his parents and neighbors.
"Shanghai Beach" and "The Great Wall Never Falls", these famous classic songs, Cong Fei can hold it by hand and sing it with sound and color.
Neighbors say that he has talent, when he grows up, he will definitely be a singer, and his parents did not take it seriously after hearing it, after all, the poor family has so many hearts to cultivate children's interests and hobbies, in the eyes of Cong Fei's parents, as long as the son is not naughty and does not cause trouble, he can do anything.
Compared with singing, his father's behavior in the world has a more profound impact on Cong Fei.
Although the life at home is very difficult, Zhang Wanjun still retains a kind heart, and when he encounters people in difficulty, he will not hesitate to lend a helping hand.
When Cong Fei was 7 years old, his father went to the hospital to see a doctor, and there was a critically ill man in the same ward, who said that he did not have much time, and the only thing he could not rest assured was his young daughter.
Zhang Wanjun couldn't bear it, so he adopted the man's daughter into his family, and finally the girl became Cong Fei's sister.
This incident puzzled the young Cong Fei, who asked his father why he did this? Father said: "You inadvertently pull someone along, and it may be all hope for them." ”
Cong Fei recorded his father's words in his heart, and later, whenever a beggar came to the door to beg, he would help next to his father and take some rations to the other party.
Zhang Wanjun and his wife were not angry at Cong Fei's kind deeds, in their opinion: they had a kind heart, they could withstand all kinds of skills, and Cong Fei did not dislike beggars, and often distributed what he ate to them.
Pure hearts plant seeds of goodness, which gradually take root and sprout, outlining the original appearance of "good people".
But Cong Fei really understands the meaning of "help" is the bittersweet and bittersweet that he encountered after stepping into society.
Once upon a time, it was always difficult for people to understand what made Cong Fei desperately try to help others, and whether there was any other reason besides his father's teachings.
In the end, Cong Fei himself gave the answer to this question, he said: "In the most difficult time of my life, someone helped me, so I should also help others." ”
Fate was cruel to Cong Fei, when he was 15 years old, he did not have time to finish the second year of junior high school, he was rushed to society because his family could not afford to pay the tuition.
Losing the protection of his parents, Cong Fei, who is not highly educated, can only work part-time outside, and he spends most of his salary to support his two younger brothers to study, leaving a small part to support his own life.
Later, the family's economic situation improved, and his father found a job for Cong Fei as a cashier in the bank, however, after doing it for a while, Cong Fei always felt that this was not the right choice for his life, and he could never forget his childhood dream of singing.
Are you content with the status quo, or are you fighting for it? Cong Fei was caught in a dilemma, the pressure of life told him to be stable, and the young heart was constantly restless.
In the end, he chose to chase his dreams.
After making up his mind, Cong Fei took the money he had saved for more than half a year to enter the Shenyang Conservatory of Music, and until 1992, he felt that he had achieved something in his studies and planned to leave the northeast and go to Guangzhou.
However, the road to chasing his dreams was far more difficult than he had imagined.
In Guangzhou, where he was not familiar with life, Cong Fei, who had just arrived, could not find a job, and he did not have much money on his body, so he had no choice but to live a life without a fixed place.
He ate a box lunch for 5 yuan, a top day, and spent the night on the side of the road when the weather was good, and when it was windy and rainy, the bridge hole was a "warm" home.
The hard life did not make Cong Fei give up his dreams, he was like a bird dormant in the grass, waiting in the storm for the opportunity to fly into the sky.
In order to maintain his livelihood, Cong Fei worked as a dishwasher, a porter, a miscellaneous worker... He said: "I can only make money, and I am willing to do it no matter how hard I am tired."
It was also at that time that he gave himself a stage name - Cong Fei.
When one strives to amaze fate, any desperate situation can be broken.
In the winter of 1993, Guangdong held an amateur singer competition, Cong Fei heard about it and quickly signed up, but when he waited until the scene, he found out that the competition not only had to pay 80 yuan registration fee, but also had to buy suitable clothing.
"I don't even have enough money for the registration fee, where is the money to buy clothes?" Cong Fei was embarrassed, and he even had the idea of giving up on it.
When Cong Fei was distressed, the person in charge of the registration office walked towards him, and it turned out that the other party saw that Cong Fei had nothing, and he loved singing so much, and his heart was very moved, so he lent him the 600 yuan salary he had just issued.
With this money, he successfully participated in the competition and won the Excellence Award.
On the day of receiving the award, Cong Fei couldn't help but burst into tears, and he suddenly realized the deeper meaning of his father's words: "Sometimes, a person's small actions can really change the fate of others." ”
Cong Fei accepted the kindness of others and got out of the predicament, and now, he also wants to help more people change their fate.
The small fame won in the amateur singer competition seems to make Cong Fly to run, and the dream goes exceptionally smoothly.
He began to go in and out of various dance halls to sing and perform, and gradually some people came to the door hoping to cooperate with him, and the remuneration changed from the initial tens of yuan to hundreds or thousands of yuan.
At the peak of Cong Fei's career, there were countless big names who performed on the same stage with him, Jiang Dawei, Song Zuying, Dai Yuqiang... In addition to singing, Cong Fei is also very good at imitation, Zhao Benshan jokingly said to him: "Cong Fei, I don't dare to perform with you, others see your imitation, they don't look at me." ”
Listening to the praise of his predecessors, Cong Fei touched his head shyly, but everyone knew that with these skills, he was enough to occupy a place in the industry and live a rich life that was unimaginable to ordinary people.
However, an unexpected experience changed Cong Fei's life.
It was September 1994, and Cong flew to Sichuan to participate in a charity performance called "Out-of-School Children Return to School". During the period, the organizer held a fundraising session, and according to the custom, he donated all the more than 2,000 yuan he had.
Although Cong Fei felt that this was just a small matter, the audience at the scene did not think so, and this money was the hope for their children's future.
After the event, a mother walked up to Cong Fei and prepared to kneel down to thank him, but fortunately the person next to her reacted in time and helped him up.
This shocked Cong Fei, and what made him feel even more incredible was that the 2,000 yuan was enough to help more than 20 children complete three years of schooling.
Looking at the hundreds of children around him, the desire to learn in their eyes, Cong Fei was silent, and at that moment he suddenly realized that he was no longer the one who needed to be helped, on the contrary, he was actually capable of helping more people now.
I have experienced the pain of running barefoot in the rainstorm, and I have experienced the hope of others to hold umbrellas and wear shoes for myself, so I want to become a safe haven for more people.
After returning to Guangzhou, Cong Fei began to devote himself to charity and public welfare undertakings, donating all the money earned from each performance, and sometimes took the initiative to pay for it.
He set up the Cong Fei Scholarship Foundation for out-of-school children, bought food and clothing for children in poor counties, and claimed many orphans.
People who don't know the specific situation still think that Cong Fei has made a lot of money, but in fact, the money he earned has basically been donated, not to mention making money, and it is already very rare not to lose money.
Zhang Wanjun went to Guangzhou to visit Cong Fei, only to find that his son's life was very poor, and he thought that he was infected with some bad habits and squandered all the money he earned.
For a moment, the old man scolded his son with a split head and a face.
In desperation, Cong Fei had to confess the truth to his father, Zhang Wanjun knew that his son was after doing good deeds, and immediately turned his anger into laughter, he said: "You just need to ensure that you can live a normal life, and I don't care about the rest, which is a good thing." ”
With the support of his parents, Cong Fei is more motivated to do charity.
But not everyone can understand his behavior, and Cong Fei, who is enthusiastic about doing good deeds, has also experienced a lot of despair.
In 1998, Cong Fei met his first wife during the performance, the two fell in love, and soon became a family, and 3 years later, the daughter was born.
Unfortunately, the marriage did not go all the way to the end.
In 2002, Cong Fei's wife could not accept her husband's "crazy" charity behavior, chose to divorce, left her 2-year-old daughter, and disappeared into the vast sea of people.
He was bent on helping others, but in exchange for a broken family and a daughter for his life, Cong Fei felt very confused, during that time, he had little money left on him, and he ate instant noodles almost every day.
For a star with unlimited scenery, such an encounter is so sad, however, the bigger blow is still to come.
A girl that Cong Fei had sponsored called and hoped to find a job in the Shenzhen Song and Dance Troupe, and he asked an acquaintance, who said it was impossible. Cong Fei went to a middle school again, and finally helped the girl find a job as a music teacher.
Help can help this extent, replaced by other people have long been happy to close their mouths, but this female college student is still not satisfied, she called Cong Fei, angrily said: "I want to be a singer, do not want to be a music teacher, you yourself are a singer and let me do other work?" I'm not going to rob you of your job. ”
Cong Fei on the other end of the phone, listening to these words, was both shocked and sad, and said that the grace of dripping water should be repaid by the spring, which was good, not only did not reciprocate, but also regarded his kindness as a donkey's liver and lungs.
Cong Fei was so distraught that he bought a bottle of sleeping pills and ran to the Lotus Mountain in Shenzhen to prepare to end his life.
Perhaps it was that heaven could not bear that good people would end up with such a sad end, so a beam of light shone into Cong Fei's life.
Previously, Cong Fei helped a girl named Xing Dan, who was a flight attendant of Shenzhen Airlines, and just when he was looking for death, Xing Dan happened to call him.
On the phone, Xing Dan felt that Cong Fei's tone was not quite right, and sensing something strange, he found an excuse to ask where he was, and then rushed to find him.
On the Lotus Mountain, Cong Fei changed his former strong appearance and told Xing Dan about his inner pain, and Xing Dan also comforted him very gently, so that he could dispel the idea of seeking death.
After experiencing this incident, Cong Fei and Xing Dan had more contact.
"Lady, gentleman is good", Xing Dan's gentleness and understanding made Cong Fei's heart move, and Cong Fei's kindness also made Xing Dan very admirable, the two encouraged each other, talked to each other, and finally came together.
Cong Fei had no savings, no house and car, and a daughter, and their relationship was initially opposed by many people, especially Xing Dan's friends around her could not understand why she would marry such a poor and white person?
No matter how much his parents and friends persuaded him, Xing Dan did not change his mind about marrying Cong Fei.
Later, Cong Fei's deeds were reported, and the voice of incomprehension gradually disappeared, and only a soul of high moral character was worthy of another noble soul.
Cong Fei used his kindness to convince the outside world that his love with Xing Dan was blessed by countless people.
While harvesting love, Cong Fei still did not stop helping others, he has helped 183 poor children, a total of more than 6,000 hours of volunteer work, almost donated money for each performance, the cumulative amount of more than 3 million yuan.
In 2004, Xing Dan accompanied her husband to the poverty-stricken mountainous areas of Sichuan to do charity, just arrived at the destination, a group of children gathered around, shouted "Daddy" to Cong Fei, a childish and simple call, so that Xing Dan could not calm down for a long time, she finally understood why her husband was so keen on charity.
Sprinkle your own little kindness in the depths of the mountains of poverty until it takes root and illuminates the next generation, and the meaning of life is realized little by little.
Later, Xing Dan quit her job as a flight attendant and devoted herself to charity with Cong Fei, buying stationery for the children and teaching them to read.
In addition to "Cong Fei's father", the children gradually have an additional "Xing Dan mother".
People who have never seen poverty always think that there is no poverty in the world, so they will have objections to the charitable acts of Cong Fei and his wife, and for those who have seen and experienced poverty, they only have heartfelt admiration for Cong Fei and Xing Dan.
"Birds that fly out of the grass, sprinkle the seeds of goodness on the earth, and let hope illuminate the world", this is Cong Fei.
But who at that time could have imagined that such a good and kind person would go so suddenly.
In 2005, Cong Fei was diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer, and although Shenzhen Hospital waived him of all treatment costs and organized experts to treat him with all his strength, after the first surgery, Cong Fei's cancer cells still spread.
At that time, Xing Dan was 4 months pregnant, but the doctor said that Cong Fei only had 3 months left.
The ups and downs of life are often so involuntary, in the last moments of life, Cong Fei did not give up on himself, but left three wills:
"Let a friend help persuade Xing Dan to beat up the child and avoid affecting her later life;
Let the parents take the eldest daughter back to their hometown in Liaoning to live;
Ask for more care for children who are still receiving financial support. ”
After listening to her husband's will, Xing Dan said with tears in his eyes:
"He has nothing left, this child is left, how can I beat the child?"
On April 20, 2006, after insisting until the birth of his daughter, Cong Fei left, with regret and reluctance, and left the world.
After the death of her husband, Xing Dan shouldered the burden of the family and took care of her two daughters alone, but also inherited Cong Fei's last wish and continued to engage in charity.
However, fate still does not want to let go of this kind and unfortunate family.
On April 11, 2011, Xing Dan was thrown a stone by three undesirable youths on his way home, and unfortunately died, leaving two daughters, one 11 years old and one 5 years old.
Although the three murderers were eventually punished by the law, the controversy over Cong Fei and his wife has never subsided.
As early as Cong Fei's hospitalization, many people called him and said to him unceremoniously: "How do you talk without counting, you said that you sent this semester's tuition fee last month, why hasn't it been sent now?" ”
There was also a college student surnamed Li, who had accepted Cong Fei's financial support, but lost contact after graduation, and later he saw his name appear in the manuscript written by Cong Fei, called cong fei to delete it, and said, "Never mention these past events that have become history." ”
These things were constantly reported by some media, causing great controversy in society, and Cong Fei also became a "stupid wolf with white eyes" in people's hearts, especially after Xing Dan's unexpected death, which made many people assert that "good people have no good rewards, and kindness is not worth it."
But is that really the case? Is the goodwill of the payment really only malicious in exchange?
In fact, in the current situation of Cong Fei's life and his two daughters, the answer has long been revealed.
There is no shortage of narrow-minded people in this world, but there are also many kind people who see Cong Fei's good deeds one by one.
After Cong Fei fell ill, many social beings spontaneously donated money in the hope that he could overcome the disease, and the children in the mountainous areas also wrote letters to condolences after they knew that Cong Fei was ill.
A high school girl wrote in the letter: "I hope cong fei dad gets better soon, and when I graduate, I will take cong fei dad to see the sea, and I will also be a useful person to society in the future." ”
The first child sponsored by Cong Fei, named Gao Guo, told reporters: "Teacher Cong Fei was so kind to me, without his help, there would be no me today." ”
In addition to these children, there is a disabled person named Hu Shishi, who successfully completed college and became a writer with the financial support of Cong Fei.
After hearing the news of Cong Fei's illness, Hu Shishi, who had been inseparable from a wheelchair all his life, dragged his inconvenient body to Shenzhen to visit Cong Fei and told him: "I have now sponsored 6 students to study. ”
On the day of Cong Fei's death, the people of Shenzhen spontaneously took to the streets to send him off, people have never forgotten Cong Fei, and everything he did was firmly remembered by the society.
After Xing Dan's unfortunate death, the local "Cong Fei Children Care Program" was set up to ensure that their two daughters could successfully complete their studies.
The eldest daughter has been raised by her grandparents over the years, and a few years ago, she was admitted to Cong Fei's alma mater, the Shenyang Conservatory of Music, and Mr. Jiang Da'ao, a "good man in China", will donate 10,000 yuan every year to solve her tuition problem.
Now, at the age of 22, she will graduate from college next year.
Cong Fei's little daughter is not far behind, she has been taken care of by her grandparents since she was a child, and she is now a beautiful girl.
When asked what ideals she had in the future, her younger daughter said, "I want to help more people like mom and dad." ”
Admittedly, Cong Fei's story is not lacking in sadness, but more is still warm.
There is evil in the world, but there is also good, we can't just see the bad side, ignore the good side, Cong Fei has not let the world down, and the world has not let him down.
Although he has met some people with corrupt moral character, on the other hand, it is the existence of these people that reflects the preciousness of his good qualities.
Xu Hua, a reporter from the Shenzhen Special Economic Zone Daily, once interviewed Cong Fei, and when Cong Fei was running out of time, Xu Hua asked him: "Do you regret it?" ”
Cong Fei said: "No regrets, if the purpose of helping others is to get something in return, then what else can I do charity?" ”
When he finished, he smiled, happy and loud, as warm as the sunlight outside the window.
Mr. Lu Xun said: "Some people are alive, he is already dead; some people are dead, he is still alive." ”
As long as there is goodness in the world, Cong Fei will always live in our hearts.