Many mothers who are pregnant or have just given birth are entangled in this problem: my mother-in-law wants to help me bring the baby, I am worried that she will not bring it well, and it is unreasonable to refuse, and someone to help bring it is really worry-free, what should I do?
In fact, this matter is not so difficult, as long as your mother-in-law does not have the following habits, you can rest assured to let her help with the baby.
1. Blindly listening to folk customs and harmful behavior to children
Milk the nipple for the child and pinch the bridge of the nose: many people of the older generation will help the baby milk the nipple after the baby is born, there are many sayings, some say that girls will not develop well in the future if they do not milk the nipple, affecting the feeding of the child, the boy will become larger after the chest does not squeeze, etc., in fact, these have long been falsified, there is no need to squeeze at all, not only is it not necessary, but it will also affect the child's body, causing mastoinflammation, redness and swelling;
Pinch the bridge of the nose is the same, the bridge of the nose grows tall, good or not, not a pinch can be changed, excessive force will cause damage to the baby's nasal mucosa, and it is a harm to the child.
Give the newborn leggings: There is a traditional custom in mainland China, when the baby sleeps, use a cloth belt to straighten and tie the child's legs, thinking that only in this way will it not grow into looped legs (O-shaped legs), and then attach the arms to the sides of the body to fix, so that the baby can sleep sweetly and not be frightened, so use the strap to tie the baby up and down tightly.
In fact, baby leggings are not good for the baby's growth and development, not only can not make the baby's legs grow straight, prevent O-shaped legs or X-shaped legs, but hinder the baby's free movement, which is not conducive to the baby's normal development. What's more frightening is that the baby's long-term legs have poor blood circulation, which can easily lead to a series of problems such as skin erosion;
Shake the baby when sleeping: shaking the baby to sleep is not conducive to the baby's brain development, although the method of shaking and sleeping works, but in fact, because the child is in a shaky state, the mind is groggy, which is a method of sleeping that has damage to the child's brain. And after shaking for a long time, it is easy to develop the habit of shaking sleep;
Second, prevent the baby's development
Prevent the baby from eating hands: In fact, many new mothers will also make mistakes, generally the baby will start to eat hands about three months, eating hands is a process of exploring the new world and intellectual development, there is no need to deliberately prevent, ensure hand hygiene, properly guide children to play with some toys that can be grasped, promote the development of children's fine motor development;
Premature feces and urine: Children before the age of one and a half do not have to deliberately pee with, easy to cause prolapse, but also cause the problem of tail vertebrae deformation, after the child has a sense of urine, you can properly guide the child to use the toilet without premature intervention.
Premature standing of the baby: The baby's legs are not fully developed, and letting the baby stand too early will cause damage to his spine and lower limbs, resulting in the baby walking and stepping or other bad habits in the future.
Third, do not love hygiene
Babies in infancy are the most need to pay attention to hygiene, especially hand hygiene, many elderly people in the hometown living habits, after going to the toilet without the habit of washing hands, changing the child diapers and not washing hands, turning around and feeding the child to eat, which can easily lead to very serious bacterial infections, the baby stomach is delicate, but the most can not bear this type of germs.
Fourth, stubborn opinions and not listening to the opinions of others
This can be seen from the daily relationship, see if she feels that she is right in everything, others are wrong, how to persuade can not move, even if it is a big mistake, do not feel that it is their own reason, if so, must not let her help to bring, can not say that there will be a big accident, but must be troublesome, endless disasters.