Recently, TVB's former boss Hua Dan Ye Xuan was scolded on the hot search again.
During her live broadcast, she was accused of being out of shape and sloppy in image.
Once, the product tasting session was hi, and Ye Xuan began to cut his toenails regardless of the image, which caused netizens to talk about it.
Seeing everyone's comments, Ye Xuan couldn't help but laugh:
Not only disclose the ID and avatar of netizens in public, but also attack their appearance;
He also degraded other people's academic qualifications and spoke proudly.
You know, Ye Xuan used to be the white moonlight in the hearts of many people.
She was the winner of the Miss Chinese International beauty pageant 1999;
the gentle and infatuated Yang Lianhua in "The List of Gods";
The heroic Shangguan Haitang in "The World's First".
The goddess of the past has become like this, and anyone is embarrassed.
In fact, Ye Xuan's starting point was very high.
She went to study in the United States at a young age, and when she graduated from high school:
Ranked first in New York, he received offers from Harvard, Columbia University and Wellesley College for Women.
Xueba's attributes are enviable enough, and God has also brought her beauty and luck.
After that, she won the beauty pageant and was handpicked by Run Run Shaw to enter TVB.
Good resources got soft, and she won the Academy Award for Best Newcomer shortly after her debut.
Ye Xuan seems to have taken the "cool book" of the big heroine.
But later, she did not sing all the way and gradually precipitated into a well-known predecessor in the industry;
On the contrary, because of intervening in other people's feelings, tearing up with artists, and abusing fans for her boyfriend, people have no good feelings for her.
Ye Xuan was really crazy when he fell in love.
Her most famous is her relationship with "Mr. Xiao Mo" outside the circle.
At that time, Ye Xuan frequently showed affection on Weibo, and sometimes his words were very explicit.
Wang Sicong commented:
"It's a bow in the head."
And what is even more outrageous is that Xiao Mo's ex-girlfriend posted a post, pointing out that he is a "scumbag" who habitually steps on multiple boats.
After Ye Xuan learned about it, he immediately sent a Weibo to scold this girl:
Forget about scolding, and take people to court with a piece of paper.
In the end, Ye Xuan lost the case.
She not only wrote a letter of apology, but also paid a fine and entered the blacklist.
In an interview, the host tentatively said:
"Are you an emotional absence?"
Ye Xuan generously admitted that he couldn't meet love.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said:
"A person's external interpersonal relationships are actually the outward manifestation of his inner relationships.
And the inner relationship is related to the way I got along with my parents when I was a child. ”
Perhaps, Ye Xuan changed from white moonlight to "crazy", not because he was PUA and lowered his head;
Her performance in the relationship is nothing more than repeating her past trauma.
Ye Xuan had an "unloved" childhood.
When my mother gave birth to a child when she was 18 years old, she couldn't even take care of herself at that time:
Without a skill, you can only start falling in love frequently.
Her mother regarded Ye Xuan as a "drag oil bottle" and did not allow her to call herself "mother".
In Ye Xuan's impression, her mother was busy playing cards, clubbing bars, and playing men every day...
Ye Xuan didn't have any chance to attach himself to his mother, and he was even beaten often.
The maternal love she can experience is the scene when her mother wakes up and only holds herself and cries.
But this bit of maternal love also quickly disappeared.
Her mother threw 3,000 pieces to Ye Xuan, and then disappeared.
At that time, Ye Xuan was less than 10 years old, and with this money, she lived alone for 2 months.
Her grandparents came to visit her and saw her in a miserable situation before they planned to pick her up.
Later, she followed her father to the United States, but it was the beginning of another nightmare.
From a career point of view, Ye Dad is an elite; But emotionally, he can't do his part.
At that time, Ye's father had already married his stepmother, and he asked 13-year-old Ye Xuan bluntly:
"Do you want to live with me or by yourself?"
Ye Xuan timidly chose the latter.
Ye's father told her that she would arrange 500 US dollars a month, and leave the rest alone.
At that time, Dad lived in a wealthy area, and $500 was not enough to support Ye Xuan to rent a small room near him.
So, she had to go to the slums and share a room with people.
The local security environment is very poor, especially for a beautiful girl like Ye Xuan, safety is not guaranteed.
Ye Xuan began to live a life of displacement, and she frequently changed addresses:
Sometimes it's because you have to be evicted by your landlord, and sometimes it's out of danger.
In those years, the main topics she communicated with her father were:
"I've changed my address again, do you want it?"
Ye Dad answered every time:
"No thanks."
He was not worried about his daughter's safety at all, and took it for granted that there was nothing wrong with him coming here like this.
And Ye Da's few "management daughters" are to catch Ye Xuan's study.
To this end, he set the rules:
If you are the first in the next exam, you can add $100 to the living expenses for the month.
Ye Xuan seemed to grasp a life-saving straw, and she never took the second place in the exam.
Therefore, her schoolboy physique is not born, more of a child without an umbrella, running hard to save herself.
In Ye Xuan's growing environment, the concept of family affection was very indifferent.
She was also never firmly loved, so in those days when she had to live alone:
Her personality, like her own environment, is crammed into a space that is both insecure and cramped.
So much so that Ye Xuan as an adult thought that it took a reason to be loved;
And no matter what, life is a battlefield, and she has to win.
After Ye Xuan won the beauty pageant championship, he decided to give up his studies.
Although his father strongly opposed it, no one knew better than Ye Xuan:
There is no hope in a life with the palm up.
Previously, she could have gone to Harvard, but had to choose Wellesley because the school could only give half the prize.
Therefore, compared to the glamorous academic qualifications, Ye Xuan valued his self-esteem that he rarely had the opportunity to get.
Later, Ye Xuan fell in love.
She and Chen Haomin filmed "God Sealing List" and had a mutual affection.
But Chen Haomin was a well-known playboy and also had a real girlfriend at that time.
Ye Xuan was accused of meddling, but he still openly interacted with him.
At the same time, Ye Xuan had an affair with Zhang Weijian, who had an object.
Originally the future was bright, but she smashed her reputation abruptly.
It seems that whenever Ye Xuan encounters something related to love, he will make himself very unseemly.
She once dressed in a bunny girl costume and went to her boyfriend's crew to visit the class;
He also used to jump into the river on a winter night to prove his love for his boyfriend.
In this interview, Ye Xuan is telling it with a show-off tone and expression.
It can be seen that she enjoys this "pain" of self-abuse, and even feels that it should be taken for granted.
To some extent, Ye Xuan copied the pattern of being treated as a child into intimate relationships.
In the past, she had to please her mother so that she could not be beaten;
You have to be better than others in order to have living expenses.
Therefore, when she grows up, she will not be ashamed of being a junior.
Instead, she got used to the "completeness" that this logic brought herself:
Only by winning in competition is you worthy of love.
The love that was missing when I was a child, I wanted to make up for it elsewhere, and I would always make up for it more and more.
After breaking up with Mr. Xiaomo, Ye Xuan still remained "aggressive".
She can't stand people saying that she is not good at all, because this will exacerbate her "sense of unworthiness".
So we see that she often tears up directly, and does not forget to show her "excellence".
In the end, man still has to ask for himself.
In all aspects of life, the law of attraction is pays attention to:
If you want others to be kind to you, you must first let yourself go.
Ye Xuan is 43 years old, but she has always been the insecure little girl in her heart.
She took too many detours to fight for something unnecessary.
However, there is no point in buying dolls that you didn't buy when you were 6 years old, and then buy them when you grow up.
Or learn to calmly take care of yourself, everything will have a new turn.