No matter who it is, they all long for a happy and happy family. Everyone wants to bask in a warm and laughing family atmosphere.
Happy families are all similar, while unhappy families are different.
First, quarrelsome families are inferior
Yun is tall and handsome, but psychologically fragile. He has always been introverted and sensitive and suspicious at heart. Always think that others are saying bad things about themselves. His relationships were extremely poor.
When I was a student, I often had conflicts with my classmates, and my grades plummeted. The teacher talked to him, and he said the shadow in his heart. The teacher visited his home, and his mother recounted the past.
When he was a child, the family was financially strapped, and his parents often quarreled. His grandparents also quarreled. He almost grew up in quarrels.
Parents and grandparents are strong, and it seems that everyone wants to be the champion of the quarrel. Each time there was a lot of quarrel, and in the end, like a lamb to be slaughtered, he accepted the torment of the quarrel.
Over time, he was afraid to communicate with people. Finally, communication barriers arise. This also directly affected his work.
After work, he realized that there was a psychological problem and took the initiative to go to the psychology teacher for help. Hypnotized by his psychology teacher, he recalls the injuries of his childhood. I know that everything today stems from the quarrels of the family when I was a child.
Second, the control of the authoritarian family
Feng grew up in a Kochi family, and his parents were highly talented students who graduated from 985 colleges. This doomed Feng to grow up hard, and his controlled life.
In infancy, Feng enjoyed the arranged life, and he reached out to open his mouth. Gradually, Feng seems to have lost his ego, and he is completely in the control of his parents, including choosing a college major, what kind of girlfriend to find, and who to marry...
Until after marriage, Feng swayed like a pendulum between his wife and parents, but he couldn't shake his own thoughts. In the end, his wife left angrily, but Feng still did not know why, and was under his control and could not extricate himself.
The authoritarian family is rich in parental treasures, and the giant babies who have no opinion will eventually ruin their lives.
Third, a democratic, harmonious and joyful family is the foundation
Home is the birthplace of children's growth and the "society" that children are first exposed to. The nutrition of the home can nourish a child throughout life.
Mo, who was born into a similarly poor family, grew up in a relaxed and harmonious family. Since he was a child, he has known that hard work can only have food to eat, and he cannot be a slacker. Mo's parents planted the seeds of hard work in Mo's heart.
Mo Dad went out to work, no matter how hard and tired, when he came home, he was full of laughter, and Mo did a self-written and self-directed game, which made Mo smile forward and backward. Joyful laughter wafted from the windows.
Mo Mu did farm work at home, and also changed the method to make all kinds of delicious food. Mo always felt that he was a rich king who controlled all the happiness in the world.
Mo in joy, grow into self-confidence, bravery, tenacity, hard work, independence, autonomy... Sunshine people.
May every family be very eager