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The sixth season of "Wife's Romantic Trip" has ended, but I want to talk about the marriage of Zheng Kai and Miao Miao, their marriage is very interesting, especially the last two issues expose the true state of their marriage.
There was an episode of the program that used the method of "untangling yarn" to test the intimacy of 4 groups of guests, and Zheng Kai and Miao Miao had a big problem.
With the last 3 minutes left, Miao Miao felt that the yarn ball was too big to wear, and Zheng Kai said bluntly: That's not a problem, you just throw the yarn ball away.
After speaking, he threw out his fan yarn ball.
Miao Miao was stunned, "What are you smoking?"
Zheng Kai didn't care about Miao Miao and continued to smoke.
When I saw this, I was also stunned, Zheng Kai's attitude was obviously angry, he broke the jar and broke, completely ignored.
Bao Lei was also surprised: Wasn't it successful just now?
Just because of a knot that can't go away, Zheng Kai completely let go of himself and doesn't care.
He also said unashamedly: Now is the face.
Miao Miao's temper is very good, and she has been trying to restrain herself, and she is also trying to relieve her embarrassment by laughing.
Zheng Kai also said a sentence: life? Figure out why you do that.
Meaningful.
Miao Miao retorted: Husband, do you see yourself clearly?
A sentence by Bao Lei said the main key point of the contradiction between the two of them: "Miao Miao has been doing things very seriously, and she feels that she is very close to success." Then Kai Kai did it all over again. It is a person who is very serious about doing tasks and meets an overly optimistic person. The two of them did not agree on the method, and Miao Miao would be a little anxious. ”
Don't underestimate the trivial matter of "untying the yarn", in fact, it also exposes the marriage relationship between the two of them, and it is obvious from this point that they are not the same people: one is unruly and more eager for freedom; And the other prefers a prosaic life, serious and rigorous, accustomed to attachment.
When explaining the yarn ball, Zheng Kai said: "Our family has made it very clear, red has swallowed up blue, and blue can only seek a survival in the cracks and show a little head." ”
Zheng Jun hurt him at the moment: accurately expressed the current situation at home.
I always feel that Zheng Kai has words in his words. The current situation of their family is indeed the same, because Zheng Kai is equivalent to living with Miao Miao's family. Miao Miao's parents were originally in Beijing, but later they wanted to help Miao Miao with their children, so they moved to Shanghai and lived with them. Then Miao Miao's sister was also in Shanghai because of schooling problems, so she lived with the family again.
A grown man, living with his wife's parents and sister, can feel weird.
Maybe Miao Miao doesn't have this feeling, but Zheng Kai, who is accustomed to freedom and freedom, can really adapt to the intimacy of the native family brought by his wife?
When Yunlong asked about the "red line", Zheng Kai said: "The red line of both of us doesn't know where it went."
"I think at the very least, don't affect each other's lives." When he said this, Miao Miao was obviously displeased: How can my feelings be different from yours?
"My feeling is that if you tie together like this, it's actually like two people living together, the two of us become half, together become a whole, I am the left hand, then you are the right hand."
Zheng Kai was puzzled: Isn't that the loss of two hands?
This can also be seen that their views on marriage are completely different: what Zheng Kai hopes is that he can still be himself in marriage, and he opposes too much dependence, and both parties can have relatively independent time and space, or there must be a certain distance; Miao Miao's concept of marriage and love is that since two people are married, they are a whole and have a dependent relationship, otherwise how to call it marriage.
Speaking of which, because of the difference in the three views, the two people once again reached an impasse.
Afterwards, Miao Miao cried.
"Who doesn't know that they are comfortable alone, I also know that they are comfortable alone."
Miao Miao's words made Zheng Kai begin to reflect on himself, because he has always been a person with a strong personal color, he is more self-sufficient, but Miao Miao feels that the two people have to slowly fuse, and then become a whole, so that the two people will live together more smoothly.
In the final analysis, it is still a collision of two views of marriage and love: do you want 1+1=2, or 1+1=1?
I personally agree with Zheng Kai's view of marriage, although the two are married, they still have to maintain a corresponding part of themselves after marriage, and they do not completely need to be fused together. For example, now Zheng Kai is living with Miao Miao and his family, but it certainly can't last long, and for a long time, there will be problems, because it's not the home you really want. Now you can still temporarily accommodate because the child is small and needs someone to take care of it, but what about the long term? In the long run, you will feel that the living space of two people is disturbed by the original family.
I don't know if Miao Miao can realize this.
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I also have Zheng Kai and Miao Miao around me.
After marriage, the man lives with his mother-in-law, father-in-law and his wife's sister, because his wife's sister is still young, and she is in high school in the city, and needs someone to take care of her, so she can't not live together. A man will feel that there is no space for himself in his own home, and then he will always find excuses not to go home, and he is afraid that if he does something wrong, he will be talked about by his wife's parents.
In the long run, his relationship with his wife went wrong, and the man cheated.
Of course, no one will say that there will be problems for men to live with their father-in-law, mother-in-law and wife's sister, but in real life, aren't there many wives living with men's families?
But everyone found that no, such a wife will also complain, even the woman herself can't stand to get too close to her husband's native family, and will spit on the problems of her mother-in-law and sister-in-law.
Being too close to the original family will make it difficult to control the situation of your own family, and when there is a conflict between the two of you, it is difficult for the elders not to mix.
I went to see Miao Miao's volg, and many things about their New Year were Zheng Kai and Miao Miao's family together, and Zheng Kai's mother did not appear.
Zheng Kai once said that his mother likes freedom, her spare time life is very exciting, she doesn't like to stick with her juniors, and his mother has her own life circle. We don't know if Zheng Kai meant something, but this game of "removing yarn" can see that there are indeed these problems in their marriage.
In reality, marriages that are too close to the original family often do not have good results.
Zheng Kai is still very sorry for Miao Miao, we will find that Zheng Kai has changed a lot after getting married, and he is very considerate of Miao Miao everywhere. Especially when Miao Miao does not have the physical strength to climb the mountain, Zheng Kai will carry her up, which is not something that ordinary men can do.
It is still necessary to pay attention to the problem of the original family, otherwise it may really be in danger.
After marriage, you still have to have your own time and space, and it is not very convenient to live with your elders for a long time and eventually return them.
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