Zheng Kai was once again scolded on the hot search.
The reason is that he shared the way husband and wife get along in the program "Wife's Romantic Trip":
"Men are logical animals, women are things of attitude. There is nothing wrong with logic, and neither is there a problem with attitude. ”
When Chen Qiaoen next to him heard it, he mercilessly poked at his gender bias and machismo:
Aren't you saying that women are illogical and unreasonable?
The fact is that when Miao Miao analyzed the problem rationally with him, he only needed to say "you don't understand correctly".
Zheng Kai directly broke the defense, thinking that he was hurt.
A person who obviously cares so much about his feelings always likes to say to his wife: Your feelings are not important.
Hurt people without knowing it.
Too self-centered and lacking the ability to empathize, no wonder netizens in the comment area scolded him:
"It is clear that the ability to empathize is poor, and the logic is still sparse."
"It's too macho, I only firmly believe that I am right, and I can't talk about my wife when I am reasonable, so I say that my wife is unreasonable."
Why did Zheng Kai, who swore to be a good man who spoiled his wife, repeatedly overturned?
Zheng Kai, the former little prince of the nightclub, changed his café attributes after being with Miao Miao, and looked like a good husband.
For example, he generously showed his love in the show and regretted that he did not meet Miao Miao earlier.
Miao Miao just gave birth to her second child and went on the show, her health was not very good, Zheng Kai carried her to climb the mountain, accompanied her to do eight dan jin, and when eating outdoors, she would carefully help her hold an umbrella to block the wind.
But even if Zheng Kai fed the sugar to his mouth, netizens still didn't buy it.
Because behind his acts of love, people faintly feel a kind of "selfishness and unheartedness".
For example, Miao Miao's birthday, the surprise that Zheng Kai carefully prepared for her was a birthday cake.
Miao Miao's reaction was surprised, moved, and unbelievable.
It's just a birthday cake, not it!
Miao Miao explained afterwards that because Zheng Kai did not like surprises, this was the first time to prepare a surprise for her, which made her particularly moved.
？？？ I didn't understand and was shocked.
Let's not mention that when Zheng Kai fell in love with his ex Cheng Xiaoyue in the past, there were many surprises.
Looking back at his marriage with Miao Miao, there was no wedding and diamond ring.
Even after being married for so long, two children were born, and it was delayed until he was about to be on the show, so he prepared a birthday cake for his wife as a surprise, which is incredible to everyone!
In the final analysis, Zheng Kai said that he loved his wife, but did not put Miao Miao's needs and feelings at ease.
Miao Miao shared videos of her pregnancy with her second child, and she usually went for a maternity check-up alone.
Standing up for her pregnant belly, she was doing sports at home and wanted to record a vlog, because she was not very skilled, she called Zheng Kai to help.
Who knew that Zheng Kai didn't care at all, and replied: You can record how you want.
When Miao Miao was aggrieved to cry, he came over to coax.
The two play games on the show, and they have to work together to untie two yarn balls of different colors and re-entangle them.
The other couples were all discussing, and when they arrived at Zheng Kai, they faced a mess of wool and directly threw away the tangled hairballs.
Seeing that the previous achievements were lost, Miao Miao was obviously unhappy and urged him to have a better solution.
It was clear that he was serious about reasoning, but Zheng Kai couldn't listen to it at all, and continued to make trouble with himself.
After ending the game, Miao Miao clearly expressed her dissatisfaction, but Zheng Kai did not deal with his wife's emotions in time, but added fuel to the fire.
The program team gave each couple a red rope and asked them to tie their hands together to live. Zheng Kai complained about the various inconveniences this game brought to him, and also expressed a sigh:
Even husband and wife cannot affect each other's lives.
When Miao Miao heard this, she completely exploded.
She retorted that these games are not trouble, but to make everyone realize that if they encounter problems in life, the two couples should face them together and help solve them.
In the end, Miao Miao was aggrieved and wept, thinking that Zheng Kai's subconscious words actually exposed his true thoughts, complaining that he was bound by his other half after marriage.
Miao Miao is sentimental and needs Zheng Kai's attention to marriage and wants him to provide emotional value.
But Zheng Kai will only avoid the problem, praise his wife's earrings for being good-looking, and wash apples for her, wanting to change the topic and fool the past.
Seeing that Miao Miao did not lose his breath, he quickly lowered his head to admit his mistake, reviewed himself, and fancy coaxed his wife.
Although Miao Miao broke into a smile and chose to reconcile, her words exposed her helplessness:
You are obviously the official answer, not at all careful.
She was unwilling but could only accept it, because she knew Zheng Kai's machismo too well:
Reason with him, he is stubborn and self-righteous; Talk to him about feelings, and he can't empathize.
He knows that he is selfish, but he cannot change it, or he is unwilling to change it.
When the two couples encounter contradictions, if they collide, I am afraid that they will not be able to live this day, and Zheng Kai is still willing to coax his wife.
So every time the quarrel reached the end, it turned into Miao Miao showing weakness and crying, and Zheng Kai was unable to apologize: It's all my fault, my wife is right.
Miao Miao gave him face along the steps, and the two couples were happy.
Zheng Jun's description of the two of them is simply to the point:
"Miao Miao is a foolish fool, and Zheng Kai always wants to be smart and is held by wisdom. As soon as Zheng Kai came, Miao Miao immediately turned into a little bird, and Zheng Kai felt that he was doing it again, thinking that he controlled everything."
I will only coax my wife verbally, but I never understand her real needs.
Even if Zheng Kai behaves gentle and considerate, it is difficult for people to feel his sweetness, only seeing Miao Miao's tiredness.
What pokes the audience's pain point even more is -
Zheng Kai's machismo is just the epitome of countless male stars in marriage.
Zheng Kai's state in marriage reminds me of his good brother Du Chun.
Always hang his wife on his lips, post all kinds of spoiled wife details on Weibo, but it is difficult to say anything in private.
The pregnant wife asked him to help peel the oranges, and he was not happy;
His wife has insomnia late at night and wants him to go home to accompany, and he is busy singing and eating with his good brother Zheng Kai;
His wife is at risk of premature birth, he didn't know it at all, and he didn't care until he was on the show, and he accompanied his wife for the first maternity checkup...
Overbearing president Huang Xiaoming, confessed to Angelababy at the wedding:
I've never been so nice to a woman.
The so-called good for her is to marry her home and make her pick up her own smelly socks?
It is not unreasonable for the two to come to the step of divorce.
Zheng Jun thinks Liu Yun is happy because he "has no nightlife and no girlfriend."
For the first time, I felt that Lu Yu's rebuttal was so sharp.
There is also Zhou Wei, who openly looks down on Zhu Dan's acting skills, and coaxed her to be cold war for two hours;
Sha Yi did not allow Hu Ke to take over the drama to engage in career, Hu Ke came home late because of work, and he directly blocked his wife's WeChat;
Nie Yuan is comparable to the emperor's treatment at home, Yilai stretches out his hand to open his mouth, and his wife softly shouts to get up and lose her temper...
Painless father, children don't care, housework is not done, everyone just wants to escape family responsibilities and be a dispenser.
These images of husbands in marriage and love are all the history of blood and tears of their wives.
Hu Ke, who has been married for 12 years, once publicly cried on the show and regretted getting married.
The basic plate is so bad that everyone's standard for good men is constantly lowering:
If a man does not mess around and does not cheat, it is the happiness of a woman;
Stay at home to play games, do not smoke, drink or gamble, and are already good men on the passing line;
If he could make money and go home to do occasional housework and take care of the children, then the woman must have saved the galaxy in her last life and met the role model of a good man.
But you know, love is not just about talking.
A truly good man should be implemented in every detail of his life to respect and love each other.
Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin sprinkled all kinds of sweet sugar when they fell in love, and when they got married and raised children, they gave a textbook-like demonstration.
Tang Yixin is pregnant and has a great appetite, Zhang Ruoyun will personally cook all kinds of delicious food to relieve her hunger;
When it came time to give birth, he accompanied him throughout the whole process, contracting the task of changing diapers and coaxing the child's child-rearing tasks;
When his wife came back after giving birth, he gave her the greatest respect and was proud of her.
There is also Yuan Hong, it can be seen that he loves Zhang Xinyi from the bottom of his heart.
After Zhang Xinyi gave birth, he not only took on various housework and took the initiative to bring the baby, but also found time to help his wife massage so that she could recover her figure as soon as possible;
When his wife proposed to return to the workplace, he proposed to reduce his working hours to take care of the family;
Even if his mother is not satisfied, he does not escape the contradiction, but moves to persuade his mother with affection and reason, and mediate the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
A really good man not only sees his wife's dedication, but also knows how to care about his wife's feelings.
Kang Hui called his wife in the show and sweetened the guests.
But the content of the call was not broadcast because he said that "I cannot disclose the content of the call without my wife's consent."
Nigmat, who is smacking on candy: Her opinion is not important.
Kang Hui seriously retorted: her opinion is important.
Even if the other party is not present, still subconsciously consider the other party's opinion, which is love and respect from the heart.
At the end of the day, ignoring your wife's needs or even listening to them.
In fact, it reflects the selfish side of husbands, no matter how nice they say, they still think that their wives are not important.
If the dissatisfaction expressed by the wife is regarded as hypocrisy and pretentiousness, in the long run, the contradictions in the marriage will only accumulate.
Marriage is never a one-man show, it requires two people to work together to maintain it.
Beautiful love should be mutual understanding, mutual respect and tolerance.
Good men never disdain to market themselves as good men because their words and deeds speak for themselves.
Because no matter how fancy words of love are, it is not comparable to down-to-earth respect.
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Responsible Editor / Niu Hu Lu Sang
Edit / Tahki