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Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

Maybe you remember the elected IP of "The Character of XX"?

In 2018, netizen @SUM Buji conceived an urban female drama starring four middle-aged women based on the setting of the Korean drama "Gentleman's Character".

Who would have thought that this brain hole was immediately transferred to the hot search, and even the protagonists Zeng Li and Chen Shu were forwarded one after another.

The public opinion is so high, how can capital let go of such potential to explode.

In the following years, the news of the establishment of "Lady's Character" continued to be heard, but only some strange things came out...

And the other day, I brushed a new play.

The first reaction is that this may be the most decent one in the "Lady's Character" IP so far - "Lady's Character".

Let's not talk about the degree of reduction.

At least Wan Qian, Liu Mintao, Xing Fei, Wen Zhengrong, plus the configuration of Baike, will not pull the crotch, right?

However, when I opened the first episode, it was like I had suffered a mental bully.

How to say it.

It's a comedy, and it's funny.

The funny thing is that it wants to express seriously.

...... You can imagine how grotesque this show is.

Really, before talking about the big reason, domestic dramas might as well examine their own character first.

In fact, "character" is the most special setting of the work, not only "middle age".

Rather, "middle-aged + single".

In the original brain hole, the author directly added the qualifier "non-marriageism".

The purpose is obvious, that is, to completely expell the abusive and daddy attributes of domestic dramas and tell a story that completely belongs to modern free women.

And look at this play again - actually set all the heroines to be married.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not asking women's works to be filmed with unmarried women, but I just want to remind everyone:

The original brain hole can be unprecedentedly sought after, precisely because it unloads the biggest marriage and childbearing baggage in reality for women, allowing you to live a happy life without any worries.

To put it cruelly, I know it's not realistic, but everyone just wants to have a beautiful dream by chasing dramas.

In the setting of being married, the so-called "lady's character" is reduced to a modern "mother's way" that balances career and family.

The masses who come with character IP can disperse first.

So, does the play honestly reflect the difficulties of women in the workplace?

Yao Wei (played by Wan Qian), the commercial director of a company.

We always ridicule the big heroines of urban dramas for not having the fashionable sense and elite temperament of successful women.

And here, Director Yao simply rushed to the ultimate soil.

The thin Wan Qian walked into the office with a gloomy crotch, and under her feet was a pair of Mary Jane shoes that did not fit well.

I wonder for three seconds, this is the female bully who will accompany us for the next thirty episodes?

Don't worry, people are going to have a seizure.

"Why are you all standing?

Have you done the work at hand?

This is not a welfare place.

There's no free lunch. ”

What makes elite girls start ranting capitalist quotes regardless of decency?

It was her subordinate, a new mother who missed an important contract because she took her child to the hospital, Liu Xiaoxi.

The best thing is that Director Yao actually scolded her directly for milking...

Wonderful.

In the first 3 minutes, "Lady's Character" has already achieved the value upgrade from female mutual help to female embarrassment for each other, which is really a spectacle.

And what is more worthy of tasting is the strange general manager Ms. Xu Wen (played by Wen Zhengrong).

How do people evaluate Liu Xiaoxi? ——

"Just when she needed to fight hard, she got married and had children..."

"The company has been raising her for most of the year..."

"Let's open a postpartum nursing home..."

The core conflict of dare to love this play is a group of women tripping each other.

Unless you are lonely and old, do you want to mix in the workplace?

However, it was here that "Lady's Character" suddenly gave another shocking reversal.

Yao Wei angrily scolded Liu Xiaoxi on her face, but in fact she was trying to keep her.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

Even in order to keep this KPI subordinate, she tied up the entire team and gambled with the boss.

If you can't exceed the target, you are willing to be opened together by the whole group...

???

This level of science fiction, Liu Cixin has to quit the literary world after watching it.

So why? As for Yao Wei joking about her future?

The truth is always simple and moving.

It turned out that when Liu Xiaoxi was interviewing, Yao Wei, as the interviewer, asked her why she came to this company.

Xiao Liu's answer was that she wanted to live.

Just this answer that can choke HR to death in reality gave Yao Wei a sense of surprise that shocked the whole family at that time.

In order for Liu Xiaoxi to live alone, he did not hesitate to arrest other employees in the group to accompany the funeral.

She really, I cried to death...

But do you think this show is that simple?

Yao Wei was not only moved by Liu Xiaoxi's sincerity, but also had the empathy of being a married woman in the workplace...

Anthracene, the famous golden bachelorette in the whole division, her real identity is actually the wife of a person who has been married in secrecy for many years and engages in office romance:

Ms. Xu Wen unfortunately said that the concept of this play is really a maternal and child sanatorium.

Every successful woman has a marriage story.

Tao Ruoyan, a big star who is competing for endorsements by several companies, is actually a former alumnus of Yao Wei.

The two have never been on good terms because they once fought over robbing men.

An Xin (played by Liu Mintao), the archrival of the Opposite Family Group, seems to have a strong wrist and no weakness.

As a result, he was also busy catching the mistress behind his back.

As for Xu Wen, the big boss of the family planning management company, his own family is the biggest mess.

He quarreled with his rebellious son, and his career and family were torn apart.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

...... Sorry, I'm going to overturn the above assertion that this is a "mother's way".

No matter how bad and pedantic the values of "Niang Dao" are, at least in a complete set of narrative logic:

The backward patriarchal environment has created a closed consciousness for women, who have no opportunities to study and work, and can only play a role in the family and be willing to dedicate their lives to their children.

It's ugly, but to some extent it reflects that women didn't have a choice in the old days.

And "Lady's Character", which stacks tragic women's literature, vows not to let any woman have a good time.

It's ugly, and it's not unusual.

It is said that it is a cool drama for the big heroine, and it grills people between work and family.

Let's say that it is a realistic theme, these beautiful female bullies are neither portrayed by most ordinary women, and their hysterical Korean-style yelling is not like the elite talents who are well versed in emotional management skills.

Let's say it's a workplace drama, and it's not good to shoot the career, patronizing the short dog blood in the parents.

It's very tempting to ask, has anyone in your crew really been to work?

What do you mean by that?

In my opinion, the biggest problem with "Lady's Character" is that it seems to define the victory of women in the workplace as "balance."

Marriage and career, family and work, life and survival.

Each of them is desperately trying to accomplish this goal.

But people who have truly experienced workplace tempering will naturally understand that balance is just a luxury.

Ordinary women are still unable to balance career and life, sleep, rest, and entertainment are disrupted by work, and even breathe time.

How can a married mother with more family responsibilities balance both ends of the scale?

Cate Blanchett and Michelle Yeoh, who have three children, discussed the issue when she threw two words to the camera.

I don't

I'm unbalanced

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

This is the truest answer given by a woman who has made a difference.

Career and family cannot be a matter of "balance" not only for women, but for everyone.

It's more of a matter of trade-offs.

You will inevitably be biased and sacrificed, and the so-called double harvest is just a fantasy.

What is more important for women is how to get more support and tolerance under the influence of multiple parties, instead of being questioned head-on, how do you plan to balance career and family?

This kind of discriminatory unilateral demand is the biggest dilemma of women.

Trapped in an unreasonable demand.

It is even more trapped in a default adherence that no one jumps out of the misunderstanding.

On this set of inexplicable rules of fighting in the nest, the play gives birth to discomfort in the perception - the most unsupportive and tolerant of women is precisely the women themselves.

In order to pursue their own "balance", they are taking advantage of each other's gender disadvantages throughout the process.

In the play, the two companies compete for a project, and An Xin and Yao Wei become opponents.

But at the scene of the competition of strength, An Xin took out to suppress the opponent but Yao Wei's pregnant melon.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

The business war went offline, and the two met in a narrow way.

As a result, both began to take out a set of male condensation, pouring dirty water on each other, saying that the other party relied on the resources obtained by men.

And Xu Wen, the big boss who saw me explode in place.

The poacher removed Yao Wei's position and took away her project, not even leaving a subordinate who took advantage of it.

Later, he also painted a big cake for her, saying that it was Yao Wei who was most optimistic about succeeding him.

Why?

Just to persuade Yao Wei to miscarry, because "talking about projects with a big belly" is not the same.

Again, these troubles do exist in reality, and they are not impossible to shoot.

But presenting the subtle difference between suffering and consuming suffering, it's easy to find clues in the details.

It's like a section in the film where two competitors join forces to fight the junior.

The dazzling editing technique, coupled with the tense soundtrack, obviously broadcasts this bridge as a good show.

The complex contradictions between women are completely reduced to landscapes here.

They don't seem to want to extract any inspiration from these questions, but only to sell conflict and superficial refreshment.

Why they are so is not a matter of importance, the most important thing is to play beautifully.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

Yes, "Lady's Character" is no different in essence from the so-called "female competition dramas" before.

They all focus on presenting women's difficulties, but do not explore the problems behind this difficulty, and only sell it on the spot emotional fast food.

But this play also makes a very bad demonstration.

That is, it weaves all contradictions among several heroines, and it seems that all difficulties are caused by the infighting of the female group.

And the impossible goal it sets for women — balance — spreads an anxiety throughout.

With such a high threshold, who can be an independent woman?

Besides, is it really women themselves who cause such a difficult situation for women?

Don't give me a different concept, hey.

In the uproar of the "Kita Lady" conversation about the Chizuko Ueno incident two days ago, there is a relatively secret detail.

Many netizens think that the UP master @Quan Xi Hee The three are offending a feminist with their "servility" and tarnishing the teacher's IQ with various low-intelligence remarks.

But when I look closer, I see that their most striking personality is not complacency, but anxiety.

They seem to be stuck in the confusion of their own identity – am I married, had children, done something else, is that independent enough? Is feminism enough?

Source| Station B up main @ full hee hee

This is an extremely typical contemporary female anxiety.

I am always worried that I am missing something from perfection, and I urgently need recognition and affirmation, so my anxiety is getting deeper and deeper.

Although the three alumni of Peking University carry outdated thinking shaped by society, they still retain the sensitivity of the weak.

Even if they have reached a very ideal state in the secular sense, they are still full of distrust of the "happiness" in front of them.

You know, people who are truly addicted to marriage do not need anyone's approval.

And a conversation between Liu Xiaoxi and An Xin in "Lady's Character" is also an appropriate case.

Subordinates regretted that they had children too early and did not have the opportunity to become the backbone of the workplace.

The boss envied that the subordinates had a family career and did not leave regrets.

It should be said that "Lady's Character" shows a frighteningly high standard of contemporary women.

Even the most elite women will inevitably reflect on themselves again and again before this threshold.

This value is brought to reality, that is, the "Peking University wife" who longs to be stamped by the female authority.

and you and me, who are always anxious about being recognized by society.

Women are always worried about their own shortcomings because society has given them too strict rules and no one is even capable of both.

You can see that they have also wondered if it is right to be a full-time wife or a workplace slut.

But they are wrapped up in discipline and can only continue to live like this.

Some would argue that it's a matter of "choice" — how a woman wants to live, and society gives freedom to choose.

But we have to see, first of all, that women are almost alone in bearing the price of choice.

Whether it is becoming a wife or a strong woman, often only women will have identity anxiety and confusion.

And what kind of choice would a man make to be a masculine?

What ability does it take to bear the consequences of your choice?

This is actually a false proposition.

- They don't have to make a choice at all.

The core behind women's identity anxiety is actually the struggle in a vulnerable position.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

And second, as I emphasized, even women have the ability to choose and bear the consequences of that choice.

Nor can she really be the perfect independent woman.

Because this standard is precisely defined by patriarchy and is eternally transformed.

It is also the horror of the play to talk about "character" in a pseudo-propositional tone.

They use "success" as an excuse to make them misogyny, humiliate women, and infighting in the workplace, and unconsciously degenerate into another patriarchal embodiment.

And use discipline to make women think that this is a choice they have made.

This is actually completely consistent with the process of producing a "wife" in society.

The so-called "independence" has now become a kind of kidnapping of us.

Urban comedy becomes "mental bullying"? The wife is full of taste for the hidden marriage father, and I dare not dream of thinking so

What worries me the most is that these "daddy women" shaped by society are being pushed to the public in various ways.

Whether in seemingly silly interviews or failed women's dramas, they are attracting unlimited abuse and attacks.

At the same time, we are forgetting who shaped their "character."

To be honest, I don't know what independence and freedom really mean.

Because I was far from reaching, I couldn't pretend to shout a few slogans.

But perhaps we can rule out two wrong options from this counterexample.

Don't believe we have any standards of life that need to be met.

Don't even throw knives at your companions for any reason.

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