<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > everyone has a child living inside: does not want to grow up, wants to be willful and self-centered, does not want to take responsibility, can be loved unconditionally, so for love, everyone has an instinctive desire for love. Although the desire for love is innate, the return of love is not innate, it needs to be learned. Just as the desire for maternal love is a human instinct, filial piety to one's mother is not necessarily a character that everyone has. </h1>
Everyone has a child living inside: does not want to grow up, wants to be willful and self-centered, does not want to take responsibility, can be loved unconditionally, so for love, everyone has an instinctive desire for love. Although the desire for love is innate, the return of love is not innate, it needs to be learned. Just as the desire for maternal love is a human instinct, filial piety to one's mother is not necessarily a character that everyone has.
In the marriage relationship, wanting to get love and ask for love is also an outpouring of our nature, and for the love that is fed back to this love or given to the heart first, it is not natural, it needs to be learned, and it is also necessary to draw on the power of love.
Xiao Xin is a more assertive woman, before marriage she knows what kind of man she can grasp, so when in love, she will strictly control, and finally choose a Superior Than her own conditions in all aspects of Xiao Di, Xiao Di has a strong sense of motivation, and people look very thick, which makes Xiao Xin particularly practical, the most important thing is that Xiao Di is very obedient, in the process of getting along, Xiao Xin's sense of control can be well satisfied, so they soon got married.
But after getting married and having children, the relationship is not as Good as Xiao Xin wishes, she feels that Xiao Di is alienating him, every time she wants Xiao Di to go out to dinner or go out to relax, Xiao Di is not willing to go together, communicate with him, he just listens, does not make any statement, Xiao Xin even sees Xiao Di on WeChat and others talk more than with himself, which makes Xiao Xin feel that Xiao Di has changed.
And Xiao Di's heart is actually more bitter, he feels that he has been very depressed, he does not want to be close to Xiao Xin, it is Xiao Xin who pushes him out step by step, because sleeping will snore, so Xiao Xin kicked Xiao Di to another room to sleep, before eating or chatting together, Xiao Xin is always strong, Xiao Di said that she had to fight back, do not give Xiao Di the space to express his position, then Xiao Di simply remained silent. Xiao Di felt that Xiao Xin only hoped that Xiao Di could make more money, but in fact, he didn't care if he was happy or not, nor did he care what he needed, so Xiao Di felt very tired of love.
In Xiao Xin's marriage, she just hopes to find someone who can love herself, but forgets that she also has to pay love. You don't want to love each other, or you don't love each other at all, but you want the other party to pay non-stop, the love for you never stops, obviously it is a fantasy, in the hottest stage of love, one party can burn passion, regardless of the return of the pay, but in a long marriage, no one can do it, even if it is done, it is the other party to endure a deformed relationship, endure the heart of one party is also extremely distorted, and the marriage relationship maintained is also unbalanced.
Xiao Xin's desire for love is an instinctive pursuit, she also knows how to make her love satisfied, but she does not know how to let her desire for love be continuously satisfied, although her choice is full of wisdom, but it does not let this love into the wisdom of a virtuous circle, in the end the marriage is still because she did not learn how to give back to each other's love, and pay their own love, and towards imbalance.
In marriage, in fact, there is no once and for all choice, you choose a person who can give you a guaranteed sex life and is willing to love you, does not mean that you can sit back and enjoy the natural success, but that under such a choice, if you know how to give back and operate, your marriage is more likely to go to a virtuous circle. If you think of a good beginning as a way to satisfy your demand for love in a steady stream, then the beautiful seedling of love will wither because you don't know how to give it nourishment.