At the end of 2022, a sigh.
No one expected that in December 2022, many parts of the country were struggling to get through.
Health is what everyone looks forward to at the end of this year. I recently write work emails that end with the words, "I wish your whole family well." Because I know that this winter, many people are having a hard time.
I will still miss my aunt, who left not only because of the new crown, but also because of a variety of underlying diseases, and when the already difficult body meets the virus, it is even more difficult.
In fact, health is not only a matter for the elderly, everyone must have a healthy body, a sound mind, and healthy learning.
Healthy body
Since the outbreak of the new crown, the biggest feeling is that the foundation of the body should be good, no matter what age, it is best not to have chronic diseases.
On the official website of the National Institutes of Health, there is a dedicated page for the new crown, and there is a category in it that is the management of special populations.
Obviously, we should all try to avoid limiting ourselves and our loved ones to this "special group". (except pregnancy).
It's so important to stay healthy.
My life is quite regular, I don't like regular diet, tobacco, alcohol and tea, and I try to finish the manuscript without staying up late to ensure enough sleep.
It's just that this year I still feel it, because I use my eyes for too long every day, my eyes are tired, and my vision is somewhat reduced. The physical strength is also poor, and the chasing baby can't run.
I'm a lazy person with very little exercise, and I really have to review myself. I really admire those who like sports, people who enjoy sports.
A few days ago, I saw an old grandfather practicing stick method in the community, and I especially wanted to take a stick and follow it a few times.
The old man's focused, breathless dantian seemed to be solidified around him. I watched it with Xiao Qiao for a long time.
Middle-aged people carry responsibilities on their shoulders, and it is often difficult to have such moments when they focus their thoughts on their bodies. I hope that in 2023, I can also treat exercise as the fourth meal of the day and stick to it.
After all, we can't bear responsibility without health, and treating our bodies better is the greatest responsibility to our parents and children.
Healthy mind
The age is impetuous, anxious, fragmented.
We are dominated by mobile phones every day, and a WeChat may be a job or a greeting from our mother.
Many people, like me, can't stand the little red dot on their phone and want to click on it when they have a message. Leave your phone, but want to see if there is a new message.
In this way, it is tied up, linked to this era in the online world.
Every year I see college students give up their college life for psychological reasons, or even choose suicide.
Watching the "Annual Comedy Contest" work "Resurrection Legion" the other day was really warm and healing.
The suicide note written by Zhang Weiyi, who failed the postgraduate examination and could not find a job, was discovered by his roommate, and his friends did not directly pick it out, but acted in a play together to pretend that this matter was written by Chen Tianyu, and finally successfully cured Zhang Weiyi.
The sketch also deeply touched me.
Employment pressure, loan pressure, workplace pressure, everyone is burdened with a lot of pressure.
As Zhang Weiyi said in the play: "If you don't find a job, then go to graduate school." If you don't get into graduate school, then look for a job. ”
Many people are stuck in an endless cycle like this, forcing themselves to take a path.
Anxiety ensues.
Anxiety is contagious, parents relax, children can relax.
Some children have tics, depression, and root causes under study pressure, and some stress comes from school, and more from parents.
Playing and yelling, or being willing to give, can put invisible pressure on the child.
Accept yourself, accept time, nothing has to be done, and nothing has to be done before that cut-off.
Zhang is a treasure left by the ancestors.
Healthy learning
In everyone's eyes, I may be a "fake" Haidian mother.
I didn't force my son to learn Olympiad, I didn't let my son take PET, but I am very clear psychologically that a mentally healthy child, a mentally healthy mother, and a healthy parent-child relationship are more important than him winning awards.
The mother who raised "Erha" does not need to look up to those who raise "Bian Mu", let alone the training methods of Bianmu mother, I believe that flowers bloom sooner or later, and education is originally a marathon.
Healthy learning patterns are sustainable.
Plan well, improve efficiency, and wait for the baby to accelerate up little by little.
The child does not hate that his parents control him, but wants his parents to manage him in a way.
Taotao also doesn't dislike me for interfering in his studies, because he can see his own progress.
Taotao learning ukulele without the teacher's guidance, just look at the automatic recognition of the app, a little practice, I appreciate his progress, ignore his problems.
But when he played the transition between chords, he got stuck. Last week I corrected his hand, and he was upset and annoyed with me.
But after correcting it, he really solved the problem of unstable hand position, and finally did not have to flip his fingers up and down when playing chords, and his hands were busy.
Later, he happily invited me to guide him once a week.
In fact, I am not as good as him, but the principle of learning skills in this world is roughly similar.
I don't expect him to go to the exam, learn a musical instrument, get a certificate, and be a special student, I only hope that he can have his own hobby and fill a good life outside of his mobile phone, TV and computer.
When expectations return to reasonable, everything is smooth.
In the process of raising a baby, I am also constantly trying to adjust myself, replacing anxiety and yelling with planning and execution.
"Gentle and firm" is simply five words, which is quite difficult to do.
If you have the means, where do you still need to be angry and angry?
We face children's learning problems, angry, angry or because we have no way, can only vent our emotions with irritability.
To "chicken dolls", but also to "healthy chicken dolls", their own health, and the children are also healthy.
I hope that the two children will be healthy and happy people before becoming top students, and first of all, I must arm myself.
In the new year, set a flag, read more and study more.
All achievements require a healthy 1, without which everything goes to 0.
May you have it all in 2023...
Healthy body
Healthy mind
Healthy learning
Work hard to manage for a better self