The second season of "Dark Glory" is finally set. This blockbuster work in 2023 has been hotly discussed since the beginning of the year. Topics ranging from school bullying and human evil to class differences and East Asian revenge can be discussed at length. But this time, instead of starting with the big picture, we will focus on the women themselves.
Now we have to start with Song Huiqiao is not beautiful in the play.
The keyword "Song Huiqiao's state" was hung up on the hot search before "Dark Glory" was broadcast, and the comments were almost one-sided, saying that her face was collapsed, tired and haggard, and the whole person was very bleak. The stills released were also met with malicious comments, and the fire was mainly aimed at her chapped lips and a deep and shallow nasolabial fold.
But by the official broadcast, the wind direction has changed subtly. "Dark glory and good looking" replaced "Song Huiqiao state" to come to the hot search, "Qiao Mei" also quietly became "Sister Qiao", the face collapse and other voices were basically drowned, ushered in "Song Huiqiao has texture", "This is French relaxation".
Regarding beauty, Song Huiqiao also mentioned in the interview, she said: "I don't feel beautiful, since playing the role of Don'en, I haven't thought about being beautiful." ”
Actresses speak with their work, and charm is judged by others.
This also ushered in a question that hits the heart, since evaluation is as elusive as an illusory bubble, how much can women dress themselves up to enhance beauty and charm? In a world where evaluation systems are becoming increasingly precise and rigorous, what is in control?
Maybe we can learn from Song Huiqiao and "Dark Glory" -
The turning point of the heroine in "Dark Glory" is that she leaves school to prepare for revenge.
Although it is a traditional plot setting, what is hidden behind is the establishment of the goal, after the goal is established, life has coordinates, followed by an ancient philosophical proposition: who are you and who are you going to be?
With such a preliminary foundation, the heroine embarked on her own long road of revenge: go to school, work to earn money, learn Go, step by step. Who you want to be is the driving force for growth.
For most people who want to improve their charm, this step is very critical, many people think they know who it is, but in fact they still follow the crowd and do not establish a firm self. How to judge? Let's take a closer look, haven't bought more than 5 pieces in the last three months, but popular items?
People can occasionally try new styles, but exceeding the limit will dampen themselves, and without a clear self-positioning, it will seem to outsiders to be nothing more than a pile of fashion. It should be "who I am, what kind of makeup I have", not "I am defined by makeup".
People who are known for their style, almost all of them. Jin Minxi is cold and charming, and will never suddenly put on fairy hair and draw a pouting lip.
Tang Wei's literary and artistic intellectuality naturally will not force into the "white, thin and young".
Their style is consistent, changing but not suddenly drastic. This comes from knowing yourself, so perhaps the most important step before embarking on a beauty action is to figure out who you want to become.
But there is no distinction between good and bad style, it is most important to suit yourself, and there is no need to be hard and cold when it is sweet in itself; Pure desire wind is the direction of your heart, you can show it generously, or you can become your own faction.
Yi Mengling's early style took a fresh sense of neighbor, but covered up her advantages, and now she knows who she is, and she begins to be bright and moving.
We sometimes say: this person, although not pretty, is very attractive.
It may sound rare, but the connection between beauty and glamour is always overestimated. Glamour is related to beauty, but it is directly linked to a sense of control.
People who have a strong sense of control over their lives naturally make people feel attractive, which is why we often feel that some people are beautiful and have no soul, not that they really have no soul, but that we see their destiny, and in fact do not rely on their own control.
The heroine played by Song Huiqiao has a strong sense of control over what is about to happen.
She knows the life of each perpetrator inside out; She came to these people smoothly step by step; Everything she got was within the plan.
If you have a sense of control, you will be calm, and there will be a sense of relaxation.
In recent years, some popular arguments such as "abandon the love brain, attractive women focus on money and career", in essence, it is also to give up what cannot be controlled and will disappear at any time, and instead grasp the most stable and reliable things.
So how can we increase our sense of control? The key is to find what you are good at, what you are good at is easy to bring positive feedback, and often immersed in this positive feedback helps build self-confidence, which in turn increases the sense of control over your life.
Just like Zhou Xun is sincere and easygoing in the interview show, but on the set, the charm is unmatched.
If you're not confident in your sense of control, go back to your home turf.
Whether you know who you are or have a sense of control, the final point must be a stable kernel.
When a person begins to have a firm and stable core, he has a "sense of ownership". The so-called "sense of ownership" is to fully understand your own needs and take the initiative, rather than waiting for others to give.
Just like the game of Go that has been used as an image many times in "Dark Glory", its essence is to expand one's territory infinitely and become the master of this chessboard.
Although when it comes to the kernel, it seems to be an ethereal thing, but whether it is there or not, it seems to be very different. For example, even if the young heroine is the same person, when she is bullied and when she decides to fight back, she gives people a completely different perception.
So how is a stable kernel established? First of all, you need to accept your current situation, have a more objective understanding of yourself, and accept all your advantages and disadvantages.
Song Huiqiao's nasolabial folds do not affect her beauty, but have a mature charm.
Tang Wei will not reduce his smile because of his crow's feet.
Yongmei also once said that her wrinkles are hard to grow and should not be repaired.
Acceptance, shortcomings will also have meaning; If you don't accept it, the advantages always seem to be less than perfect. And a person's characteristics are often not because of the advantages bonus, but by the shortcomings led by their own factions.
Shu Qi's square face and thick lips have achieved her style.
The slight convex mouth makes Wang Zuxian a little cute and coquettish.
The second is to be aware of your emotions, know your likes and dislikes, and put yourself first. Faye Wong is like this, unhappy emotions are issued, and only then will she have the courage to scare reporters on the spot.
Zhang Yuqi's blunt and quick words also made her free and dashing.
East Asian women are often taught to think of others, but often ignore their true voice. Although "big heroine dramas" have emerged one after another over the years, many times they will also fall into the cliché of relying on others to help rescue.
This time, "Dark Glory" gave the most simple solution to the big heroine, that is: I will be the master, I will control all this.
The unbeautiful Song Huiqiao makes us discover: no matter how deep the aesthetic routine is now, we can still establish our own aesthetic taste. After all, what is not in your hands is not worth the effort to follow.
Written by: Yuan Yuan
Image source: Douban, Sina Entertainment