#翻阅2022 #
The old saying goes: 10 years old without worry, 20 without regret, 30 and standing, 40 without confusion, 50 knowing the destiny of heaven, 60 ears shun, 70 years old.
Among them, the age of thirty is an intermediate stage, which has to bear both the causes planted in the previous thirty years without regret, and the fruits of cultivating the next few decades without knowing the destiny of heaven.
Standing at thirty, for many people, is a stage of hard work, but also a stage of multiplication of anxiety and confusion. At this time, I especially want to know how others solve anxiety, and the following 6 books are combined with the author's personal experience and a large number of real cases to open a skylight for you to solve your worries:
1. "Cafe at the End of the World"
By John Streekie
When you're physically and mentally exhausted from long hours, come to Cafe at the End of the World to relax your mind.
The author is a business executive with an enviable salary, but after working for many years, he is confused and confused.
I sat in a cubicle every day, worked ten to twelve hours, and then got promoted, at most moved into a separate office, and the working hours became twelve to fourteen hours, and I couldn't help but start thinking, life should be like this, is there no other choice? —"Cafe at the End of the World"
By chance, he came to a café called "Why Cafe", as if traveling through the magical world, the doubts and anxiety in his heart were swept away, and the whole person was full of expectations for life, and soon after he quit his job, spent a year traveling, and wrote this book, which was translated into 39 languages the year it was published, and was on the Amazon sales list for 4 consecutive years.
What people don't know is that they are already ready for new things. —"Cafe at the End of the World"
Let go of your worries and stop at "Why Cafe", maybe what you've been looking for for a long time is here.
2. "Reconcile with Yourself: Heal Your Inner Child"
Author: Thich Nhat Hanh
Have you always been obsessed with your parents' preferences; Do you always remember childhood school bullying; Are you constantly in panic, anxiety, and inexplicable tears; Have you been unconfident and hesitant?
It was a wound from your childhood that has not healed, and although the appearance has grown into an adult, the inner child has been crying in the inner corner.
The author is a Zen master, who has had a rough fate in his life, but he holds a mindful mind. He entered a Buddhist monastery as a teenager, but was exiled overseas for more than 40 years during World War II for promoting anti-war advocacy for peace, and did not return to his birthplace Vietnam until he was 92 years old.
He helps people regardless of nationality or race; He advocates thinking small and mindfulness; He is the author of many books, knowledgeable, cured countless anxious people, has a high reputation in the fields of psychology and Buddhism, and is known as the "father of mindfulness".
If you're in a long period of fear and anxiety, hug yourself and tell the inner child who has been crying: It's okay, I'm here. Wherever and whenever I am, I'm there. I will love you selflessly, trust you, and support you forever.
3 "Yesterday I drank puffer fish soup"
Author Miha
Oops, fortunately it's okay, yesterday I drank puffer fish soup.
The title of the book is inspired by Matsuo Basho's haiku "Yesterday I drank fugu soup", which is intended for
: Oh, yesterday I drank puffer fish soup, and today, I am not dead. How lucky! —"Yesterday I Drank Puffer Fish Soup"
As long as we live, we can keep going.
The book tells the lives of 50 great writers, and through their childhood and their works, we learn that no one is perfect, and there is no red gold.
For example: Wilde is talented and arrogant at the same time, spending his life to pay for "being himself"; Truman Capote, author of Breakfast at Tiffany, called his parents when he was 12 years old to tell his parents he was an "imbecile." Hemingway, who has experienced many wars in his life, wrote "The Old Man and the Sea", and also wrote "Farewell, Weapons", in which we see an arrogant man shivering in the face of war, but also finds love in life...
In the encounters of these great writers facing life's difficulties, we see different approaches. Some methods can be learned, and some methods are warnings.
"If you go three, you will have my master." Choose those who are good and follow them, and change those who are not good. "From the experiences of others, there may be ways to improve the current situation.
When you face anxiety and confusion, there are many people facing it at the same time, let's move forward together!
4. "Intimate Relationship"
Written by Roland Miller
The story of the prince and princess in the fairy tale all ends in marriage, leaving one sentence: happily ever after. But no one tells us what if the prince and princess are unhappy after marriage?
Some people say: marriage is a wall, people outside want to go in, people inside want to come out; Some people say: marriage is the grave of love, and some people say: fortunately there is a grave, otherwise there is no place to die; Some people say: It used to be so good, the car was slow, the horse was slow, and there was only enough to love one person in life, and some people said: you have to learn to stop losses in time and don't waste time on an unsuitable person.
Every day you can see different statements about sex and marriage, everyone becomes an emotional master, even a bachelor can say more than a dozen pages. People seem to know everything about intimacy, but people are still troubled and anxious by intimacy.
When the passion of love fades, and the trivialities of life and the pressure of survival crush the roses, how can you go through the rest of your life together?
The answer lies in this book "Intimacies".
5. "Rich people are different from what you think"
Written by Harvey Ike
Your income can only increase to the extent you are most willing to do it! - "Rich people are different from what you think"
I believe that many people have heard since childhood: money is the root of all evil, rich people are bad people, people become bad as soon as they have money, promote officials to get rich and die their wives, and so on.
But what the author wants to say is: you control money, not money controls you.
Your mind is like computer software that lets you make decisions that make you act or not.
If you want to change the fruit, you first have to change its root; If you want to change what is visible, you must first change what is invisible.
- "Rich people are different from what you think"
I have heard the saying that 99% of the world's troubles are because they don't have money, and the remaining 1% are because they need more money.
If you have time to think about anxiety, it is better to change your mind and listen to what others think, and new power will be hidden in it.
6. "Living in the Here and Now"
Author: Thich Nhat Hanh
The last recommended book is Thich Nhat Hanh's "Living in the Here and Now", as the title says, no matter what anxiety and trouble you are about now, don't forget: live in the here and now.
Eat slowly and joyfully, not thinking about the future and not regretting the past. —"Living in the Here and Now"
The book tells the real experience of Thich Nhat Hanh, who became a "stateless" person overseas because he advocated peace, but there is not the slightest complaint about the environment at that time, regret for past choices, and some are faint and calm. Like flowers blooming quietly, like light rain densely underground, like a gentle breeze blowing, like clouds flowing quietly.
There is no old-fashioned preaching in the book, but gratitude and joy for nature; There are no slogans in the book, some are gentle comfort; There is no requirement in the book to open up immortal feats, but the snack, the dog, the cat, the bamboo forest.
When you feel anxious and troubled, take a deep breath, hold your breath, and then slowly exhale it, so that all your worries go with the wind.