Hello, I am Kirin Mom, a twin mother who shares her parenting experience and experience with you.
There are still two days to celebrate the New Year! It is estimated that when you take your children and carry large bags and small bags on the road to the Spring Festival, your pockets must also contain red envelopes for relatives and friends' children. Although everyone now says that the taste of the year is light, the "traditional custom" of "pressing money" for children every Spring Festival is essential.
For children, collecting and pressing the money is to receive blessings and expectations, but for parents, sending or receiving money tests each other's relationships, emotions and the so-called "emotional intelligence" - after all, now with the opening of the "second child" and "third child" policies, some families are one child, some families are two or three children, how to make the money to others satisfied, do not suffer losses, is indeed a test question. For this matter, Kirin Mother I have four suggestions for your reference, I hope it will help you.
Open the skylight and say bright words, and discuss the amount of money in advance
Maybe you think: how can the matter of pressing the money be discussed, we just feel unsure of the amount of money to give! In fact, the original meaning of pressing money is "suppressing" and "warding off evil spirits", which is a kind of blessing and love given by elders to younger generations.
It is precisely because of this that if it is a person of each other's family or a particularly good friend, you may wish to discuss in advance (understand each other's economic level through the usual expenses), so that they have a spectrum in each other's hearts, sum up the amount of the money to be pressed for each other, pay attention to the meaning and form of the money of the year, and ignore the specific amount of the money, and do not let the "money" disrupt the original plan.
Just like my best friend who grew up with me, the first two years of the New Year was the New Year and her child's first birthday. At that time, I did not give birth to a child, I did not give her a baby, but went directly to the jewelry store and bought a zodiac pendant with ten thousand gold to give to the child. Later, when I gave birth to a child for the Spring Festival, although I gave birth to twins (two children), she directly wrapped a red envelope to me. We all feel normal and simple to each other, and we are not troubled by how much money we have to pay for the years, but there is a sigh: "Those of us who have grown up together since childhood have reached middle age, and our next generation is growing up happily like we did back then".
Take the initiative to give red envelopes and wait for the other party to "return the gift"
In real life, we do not always meet people who are particularly close to us and are particularly close, and sometimes it is more of a "courtesy" to press money for children. Since this is the case, we might as well give each other red envelopes generously and wait for the other party to return the gift.
It should be noted that if you are taking the initiative to give red envelopes, you must be thoughtful. For example, the other party is a child, your family is two children, you don't give 500 yuan, otherwise the other party will return 250 yuan when returning the gift, it is inevitable that there will be the suspicion of "scolding your baby"; You can give 400 yuan, 600 yuan, in short, to make it convenient for others to return the gift, it is very beneficial to put the idea of "convenience with others is convenience for yourself" into the matter of pressing money.
If you are the party who passively receives the red envelope, then consider that the total amount of the gift should be equal to or slightly larger than the other party, so that it is particularly acceptable to each other.
Especially if you are taking your children to other people's homes to celebrate the New Year (New Year's greeting) as a guest, you should pay more attention to wrapping more red envelopes for each other's children, after all, bring a baby to "harass" each other, on the bright side is "children go to New Year's greetings", in the dark it may be "children everywhere calamity", even if they feel that their children are obedient and well-behaved, they may be "disturbed" for others, so we can have a little spectrum in our own hearts, and it is very important to appropriate other people's children to press more money.
The "big family" must be fair and open
Two days ago, I saw such a video on the Internet, when an uncle gave money to his relatives and children, it was that every child in the family lined up, and the children got 200 yuan red envelopes, and the babies were very happy after getting the money.
In fact, whether it is the New Year's money or red envelopes, it is the big guys who take advantage of the happy time of the Spring Festival to gather happily as a family. If there are more children in the family, you may wish to celebrate the New Year together, and the elders in the family will take turns to send red envelopes to each child, and the amount of red envelopes is within your means, not too much, everyone is open and average. This form of red envelope distribution picture is a celebration, and the play is a reunion.
The red envelope blind box allows the red envelope to have a new form and inheritance
Now that the economic conditions are better, the idea of adults wanting to "make money" from the child's money is not common, in addition to the fact that because other things in the family conflict with the child's parents, deliberately take the "money pressing" to say things, more people are willing to treat the distribution of the money as a "happy thing". #儿童家庭教育 #
Therefore, with the play of the red envelope "blind box", that is, the package of different amounts of New Year money, write New Year blessings, let their children "draw lots", draw which New Year money is counted as one - this way makes people feel not only the meaning of inheritance, but also the blessings of the New Year, which is worth recommending.
Well, how to give the money for the year? What other good ideas do you have, you may wish to leave me a message in the comment area, and we will talk about it together.
[Kirin mother: After 85 years of struggling on the road to fetal arrest, she has rich experience in medical treatment for fetal arrest, has taught and written articles. ] Now accompany the twin male treasures Qiqi and grow up one by one, and regularly share with you the two or three things in your emotional and parenting life]