Text | Rice grain mother
On New Year's Day this year, Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook (formerly Facebook and now Meta), posted a photo on his Instagram:
This is a group photo of her and her wife, Priscilla Chen, who is pregnant and pregnant with their third child, wearing a white dress with a happy smile on her face.
Zuckerberg looked at his beloved wife with affection, and he was simply a fairy couple who envied the world.
Zuckerberg has become more and more like a dummy over the years, especially he is playing with the concept of "meta-universe", which makes Mi Gran's mother always have the illusion that he is a hologram.
But it should be said that the 38-year-old Zuckerberg is definitely the richest man.
He founded Facebook at the age of 20 and became the world's youngest billionaire at the age of 23.
In 2018, he surpassed Buffett to become the third richest person in the world, worth 590 billion yuan according to "Hurun" statistics!
Look at the other richest man, Elon Ske, his ex, former and current, which are super big beauties. Therefore, the model of official matching in the hearts of the melon-eating masses is, of course, a combination of big guys + beauties.
So when he looked at his beloved wife with affection and frequently posted a blog showing that he loved to spread dog food, everyone saw Priscilla Chen's appearance, and they couldn't help but feel sour with lemon essence.
Self-confidence is also a beauty
For Zuckerberg's wife's evaluation, the unfriendliness in the comment area is not a day or two:
The voice of doubt is loud and harsh, and of course some people come out to fight back:
In a way, this is even discussed specifically as a topic:
First of all, lemon essence's words, not flattering, but represent the mentality of many people, she is so popular, why does he love so much?
Mother Mi felt that Chen didn't look as ugly as they said, and the confident smile on her plain face was a little good-looking.
Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chen have been married for nine years and have two daughters, ages 7 and 5.
They met at Harvard in 2003, when Zuckerberg first started Facebook, and Chen gave him a lot of practical advice to promote Facebook's rapid growth.
Zuckerberg said Chen is one of the few people who can understand his programming and support his dreams. The cherished and adored eyes of Zuckerberg in the photo are actually maintained anytime and anywhere.
Since his student days, every time he listened to Chen's speech, he sat in the audience with this kind of fanny eyes:
In the early days of Facebook's development, some people repeatedly offered 1 billion to buy. Zuckerberg resisted the pressure to resist the great temptation, but he was really not sure whether his decision was right.
It was Chen who encouraged him: money is not important, stick to your dreams, and do what your heart desires to do the most.
In just five years, Facebook has become profitable, and it can be said that without Chen's encouragement and support, there may not be Zuckerberg and Facebook now.
After the success of the business, Zuckerberg invited his girlfriend to join the company as a partner. Before getting married, many people also advised Zuckerberg to sign a prenuptial agreement, so as not to divide the property in case of divorce.
But they really underestimated Chen, because she rejected the offer to join the company, and she had her own ideals and career to do.
Whenever she takes a picture of Chen, she has that confident sense of relaxation on her face, which is really the best gift that life and experience bring her.
Why is she so confident?
Chen's father is a Chinese living in Vietnam and his ancestral home is Xuzhou, Jiangsu Province. At that time, in order to escape the war, my father drifted to the United States and lived in a refugee camp for a long time.
After more than a decade of hard work, my father and mother finally opened a niche restaurant in Boston, and a few years later, Chen was born.
Chen, who came from a poor background, was at the top of his class since he was a child, was named a "genius in the class", and also entered his dream school: Harvard University.
But when she came to Harvard, she was devastated. Because she couldn't understand the teacher's lecture, she felt that she might have to transfer schools.
At this time, Zuckerberg, who had just been dumped by his girlfriend, was also facing a transfer from Harvard, but his reason was not because he couldn't keep up with his studies.
In order to relieve the pain of falling out of love, Zuckerberg, who is proficient in IT, hacked into Harvard's campus website.
Steal photos of girls and upload them to the FaceMash website they developed for students to score who is more attractive.
For a while, the traffic skyrocketed, the Harvard website was down, and he had to apologize publicly.
The hacking put Zuckerberg on the verge of being expelled from school, and two people facing withdrawal from school met each other in this way.
While waiting for his transfer, Chen became a volunteer. During this period, she saw that many children who had lived in the same community as her were out of school, but she did not cherish the opportunity to study at Harvard, and she had an epiphany and decided not to transfer schools.
At that time, Zuckerberg's classmates felt that he was likely to be expelled, so he held a big party for him, at which he met Chen and fell in love with her at first sight and took the initiative to provoke.
He said a word and got Chen's heart:
"I'm preparing for midterms, but I'd rather date you."
Yes, this simplicity reveals a hint of greasy love words, which is still very effective.
Shortly after the hack, two Harvard roommates approached Zuckerberg, and together they set up a social networking site: Facebook.
After its launch in 2004, Facebook swept the entire Harvard campus, with more than 1 million registrations that year! Chen gave a key piece of advice.
Zuckerberg asked her for advice and asked if she should drop out of school and focus on running a business. Chen said: "It's time to quit. ”
In this way, Zuckerberg became a Harvard dropout, and if Facebook didn't do it, he would only be a poor boy with no education.
But as we all know, he became a billionaire because of Facebook.
After two years as a science teacher, Chen was admitted as a medical doctor and became a pediatrician. And her dream is to devote herself to charity as a doctor.
The day after Facebook's launch, Zuckerberg's profile information was changed to "married."
They had a simple, low-key wedding, and Zuckerberg happily announced to the world that Priscilla Chen was his goddess and that he had climbed her.
That year, they donated $100 million to a school in New Jersey.
In 2013, Priscilla founded a nonprofit private school where poor children can attend school for free and she also treats their families.
Zuckerberg couldn't help but praise on Facebook: "I'm so proud of you, Dr. Chen." ”
Under the influence of his wife, he promoted organ donation programs on Facebook and promised to use 99% of Facebook's shares for charity in the future.
May 25, 2017, Harvard University's 366th graduation ceremony. He gave a speech: "The most important thing I did at Harvard was meeting my wife. ”
Because Zuckerberg likes to show affection too much, he likes to confess his wife on public platforms, which has attracted a lot of criticism.
Everyone thinks that Chen is fat and ugly, with thick arms and a protruding lower abdomen, there is simply no image management to speak of, and his skin is still very dark. (Europeans and Americans just look good for healthy wheat-colored skin!) ）
But Chen, as always, maintained her simple dress and always plain face, and her mind was not on her appearance or on these voices from the outside world.
She is concerned about the medical problems of children all over the world, and she is so generous and relaxed, this kind of not anxious, not justifying, showing a higher dimensional self-confidence.
Although she is married to Zuckerberg and has been giving advice and advice to her husband, she has always maintained a high degree of personality independence and has never existed as Zuckerberg's subordinate one day.
She and Zuckerberg founded an elementary school in East Palo Alto, a nonprofit private organization that specializes in K-12 education, prenatal support and medical care.
The school is completely free for all students and focuses on children from low-income families.
Chen's philosophy is: education, medical care, science in parallel, with their own strength, so that more people and children can enjoy a more sound social security.
So why can she be so confident? It's because her spiritual world is rich enough!
It's as if some people do not hesitate to take risks in pursuit of fame and profit, and some people do not hesitate to invest a lot of money in plastic surgery in order to "roll" their beauty.
It's as if you don't understand why she can put all her assets into charity, and you can't understand why something that seems as heavy as Tarzan can be as light as a feather.
Because what she pursues is not external things such as money and beauty at all, if she does not pursue it, she certainly will not invest energy in it.
This made Mi Li's mother think of Lu Xun's words: "It's always been like this, right?" ”
Everyone pursues money, fame and fortune, beauty, does she have to pursue it? Isn't it okay for her to pursue something she thinks is important?
Of course, but these trolls are not in her perspective.
A strong spiritual core is the most important
To be fair, there are not many women who can be truly relaxed and self-consistent like Chen.
For a long time, image has always been a content that cannot be ignored for women.
For example, Deng Wendi, although she is also known for her high IQ, her requirements for her body management and dressing taste are very strict, and the management of her two daughters in this regard is also almost strict.
And Priscilla Chan, wearing the most casual T-shirts, rarely wears makeup. Ren sour words on the Internet, and did not care at all.
Mi Li Ma feels that this kind of calmness must be supported by a very high-energy inner strength, and this power is the rich spiritual world.
It seems that when a person's energy is allocated to something she thinks is important, you can really see her giving up some of the details.
In this article: "Stepping on the three-inch golden lotus, she became the first female professor of Peking University, tell me what the best love looks like", wrote the story of Feng Yuanjun, the first female president of Peking University.
She and her husband Lu Kanru are both academic heroes, but their lives are extremely simple, not even simple, but to the point of simplicity.
A mosquito net has been used for decades, and the bookshelf where the books are placed is directly made of a few sticks, and once Feng Youlan went to their house, saw this broken bookshelf and thought that they were about to move.
Ye Shuhua, the "mother of time in Beijing" written by Mi Grain's mother, is also so focused on academic research and has a particularly simple life.
They have a golden castle in their spiritual world, but the material world is not attractive to them, as long as there is a place to eat and sleep.
The couple has been obsessed with academic research all their lives, and they have lived an extremely fulfilling life in a simple life. They have no children and can be said to devote their energies to academic research.
The Zuckerbergs drove the Honda Fit, discussing a $3 billion biomedical plan, nibbling on a McDonald's burger on the street, and discussing how the "metaverse" and artificial intelligence will change the lives of future humans.
This scene is the same, when the spiritual core is full enough and the energy invested in the outside will inevitably decrease.
There are many rich people, and there are many beautiful women. But it can be seen with the naked eye, there are too many stars and bigwigs in the entertainment industry and Vanity Fair, married a young and beautiful wife, divorced in a few years, and then replaced with a new one.
That's because the beautiful skin bag is the same, when the years passed, Zhu Yan resigned, after the novelty, the different steps of values and vision were highlighted, and the two people were only unable to communicate, and gradually drifted apart.
But the spiritual world is as rich as Priscilla Chen, but there is no such anxiety, because she has jumped out of this layer.
When educating our children, we should also tell them that external image management is important, but the stability of the spiritual core is the secret to truly get out of anxiety.
No matter how beautiful you look, there will always be something more beautiful. But if you have a career and ideals worth fighting for all your life, you will have an irreplaceable soul.
This lasts longer than any medical beauty.
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