Living is not necessarily a good thing, just like this thing in the article, if there is a choice, I estimate that this child has long wanted to give up, but there is no choice. And if there is a choice, parents don't want to live, so many years have harmed the child, let the child live more and more difficult, now the child can not live, parents must also want to be free, but also want the child to live a better life.
But in the face of this matter is very helpless, what can be done? I hope that through this case, I can be more considerate of my parents when I am young, and I hope that all parents can understand young people more, it is not easy, be considerate of each other, help each other, and understand each other. What's going on? Why is this happening? Let's take a look at this case. The 63-year-old man cried to his centenarian parents: Parents, just let me go, I can't live.
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63-year-old Uncle Chen:
Seriously, if I had a choice, I really wanted to leave this world. I'm really hard, maybe many people think I'm happy now, my parents are there, my children are filial, I have everything I should have, and there is a pension, what is better than this? I want to say that what you see is only the surface of things, and if you had experienced these things, maybe you would be like me.
Or if you go through this, I don't think you will survive this long. I'm too difficult, and maybe you think I'm unfilial, but I want to say that it's not what I think, I can't help it, I'm too difficult. So I hope that my parents can leave them quickly, they are already centenarians, and what do I want, not leaving will only hurt me, and my children don't want to care about this anymore, my children are my parents' grandchildren.
I know that children should be filial to their parents should give their parents a pension, at that time I was really helpless in the face of this matter, I think if you encounter, I guess you also want your parents to leave, first of all, you want to leave by yourself, if you can't leave, then you want your parents to leave quickly.
Only in this way can I be liberated, otherwise it will not only harm me, but also harm my children, and why should I harm this family? Let me explain everything with my personal experience, if you and I estimate that you will also, like me now is really unable to live, such a painful day I don't want to stay for a moment, let's just say that, if there is a choice, either I leave, or my leave, or my parents leave, choose one of the two, or all leave together, leave together and liberate together.
Only in this way can children live better, at least no longer have to be their baggage, otherwise how to endure ah, maybe you think I am ruthless, as a child actually said these ruthless words, what I want to say is, do you think I want to do this, I don't want to ah, I can't have no choice, with a choice, how can I treat my parents like this, if you survive these things, I guess you will be like me.
I'm really hard, when will you be able to leave, centenarian parents? You guys leave, don't embarrass me anymore, okay? You don't know how uncomfortable I am, and even if I am willing to leave with you, only then can I be freed, I will no longer suffer, my children will no longer be troublesome, and you will no longer suffer disasters, right? I know it's hard for you to live, let's leave together, it's too uncomfortable to live.
I'm 68 years old, but my parents are still there, my father is 95 and my mother is 93. I have three sons. It's also a house full of children and grandchildren. But not happy at all. Can't even get by. My father was paralyzed 8 years ago. Seriously, you really can't drink that much when you're older. Three years ago, when my father was in his 80s, he used to hang out with friends. No matter how much we persuaded my father to go out drinking with others, I was 60 years old.
I'm retired and I have time, so I'll help with my father's things. That night my father had to go out for a drink, and then I said to my father, you are all old, don't always go out and toss, okay? I didn't have time to spend time with you before, now that I have time, I'll accompany you, don't go out for a drink. No matter how much I persuaded my father, he still chose to go out for a drink.
Although my father is in his 80s, he is still walking. In my father's theory, it is because I drink more alcohol and strengthen my body. So you can still drink when you are older, and you have to drink more and more. I couldn't persuade me, and then I asked my mother to come and persuade.
My mother persuaded my father, and my mother told my father that you used to say that there was no one to accompany you, and you went out to drink, and I couldn't manage so much. But now that your sons are retired and your son has come to accompany you, why do you still want to go out drinking? My father said to my mother like a child, you know, I only like to drink and I don't like to do anything.
My only hobby is drinking with old friends. Okay, you go back to cooking first, I'll be back later. My mother seemed to be considerate of my father, and then let my father out. It directly made me cry and laugh. Originally, I wanted my mother to come and persuade my father not to go drinking.
But my mother gave my father a drink, and my mother said, although it is useless to drink too much, but what, your father has drunk all his life, and now he is old and don't care so much, how many days can he live? Said so, but have you ever thought about the future. I'm not afraid of 10,000, I'm afraid of what if something happens?
After going out this time, my father was lying in the hospital, drinking too much and was sent directly to the hospital. I'm older, drink so much and have a stroke. Directly paralyzed. It cost more than 200,000 yuan before and after. Money is not too big a problem, the problem is that my father needs to take care of him after he is paralyzed.
My mother couldn't stand the blow and went crazy. Although I use this term a little excessively. But my mother was really crazy, she didn't know what she was doing, and she always said that she would wait for my father to come back. In fact, my father can't come back, how can he come back when he lies in the hospital?
And my mother has already finished eating. He also told me that he was still hungry and hadn't eaten. Suddenly I forgot what time it was, and told me about lunch at 12 o'clock in the evening. Sometimes it makes me want to cry and feel bad. I don't know what to say in the face of such a father, in the face of such a mother, especially my mother.
Three more in the middle of the night to get me up. I couldn't stand this toss, and my mother seemed to have changed back to a child, making trouble every day. When I went out to take care of my father, my mother secretly ate ice cream. When I am old, eating so much ice cream is not good for my body, and I collapse all of a sudden.
It cost thousands of dollars. My mother couldn't stop staying in the hospital. He was given the oxygen tank, and he pulled it out again. Deliberately angry those nurses. Later, he was blamed by the hospital for this incident. I can't help it, I can only let my wife take care of it.
I thought these things would pass quickly, and this toss-up was more than two months, and my mother was in the hospital for more than two months. My father was sent home. My wife and I worked hard to take care of it. My wife has an opinion. My wife said, it's not your parents alone, why should you be responsible alone? I feel the same way, it cost me money, do you still want me to take care of it now?
I told my two brothers in the group. The two brothers said they would come back and be responsible after they knew it. Said so, but no one wanted to come back. You push me, I push you. Finally, the second brother told me that the eldest brother used to pay more. Then you as the smallest you get the most. Now it's up to you to take on it.
We'll take it when you really can't. The eldest brother agreed to this matter, and I also agreed, and I can only let you bear it like this. I was directly by the words of the two of them. Father is the father on both sides of us, why should I be held responsible alone? When my wife found out about this, she quarreled with them in the group. Then they also quit the group chat.
It's a family. If this is a family, how could he treat me like this. Later, my wife died because of this. While my wife was taking care of my mother, she accidentally fell over. My wife was 63 years old at the time, and I was taking care of my father for three years. After my wife died, I also became seriously ill.
Then I let the two brothers come back, and they had to come back. When they saw that I was a little better, they cried to me, brother, as far as your conditions are good, who will take care of you if you don't take care of your father? I told them, if it really doesn't work, hire a babysitter.
One top nanny is fine, a nanny is more than 6,000 yuan. But how much does it cost to hire a nanny to take care of two elderly people? And my father often went to the hospital in this situation. My mother's health is getting worse and worse, and I have to find someone to watch my mother. How much does this cost?
As soon as they received the money, they refused. They are unwilling to come back to take care of them, and they refuse to give money. I understand that they are helpless, but it is impossible for me to take responsibility alone. My living conditions are better, but I can't bear you shirking your responsibilities like this. In the face of this, I really don't want to care.
They knew I couldn't get this heart. Then I gave some money and went back to work. Say what is out of money to find them. They just give more than 2,000 yuan a month. What can more than 2000 yuan do? I'm getting older and more powerless about it.
Then I fainted again. My eldest brother is back. I asked my eldest brother not to go anymore, and I really can't hold on if you go again. Big brother can't help it. The eldest brother stayed behind to take care of his father. Unexpectedly, he hurt his eldest brother because of this matter. The eldest brother's family is inseparable from the eldest brother's eldest brother, and he is the pillar of the family.
The eldest brother is in his 60s and still works outside. The eldest brother's son went to prison. It's good now, the eldest brother comes back to take care of it, how to repay the mortgage and car loan in the future? The eldest brother was in a hurry, and then he suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and was paralyzed again. Not long after, the eldest brother died. Now the eldest brother's son's car loan and mortgage don't know who will pay it back.
I was helpless in the face of this. My eldest brother's wife came to me asking for money. Say what, if I hadn't asked him to come back and take care of it, nothing would have happened, and now I should be put in charge. The pressure on me to take care of my parents is already great, and my pension is not enough for the two of them. I've sold my old house now. What am I going to do?
My second brother went directly to the provinces. Don't give me money every month, but that little money is simply not enough to spend, the second brother told me, it's not that I don't want to be responsible, it's that I can't do it. So I can only rely on you. In fact, I know that it is not my second brother who wants to escape from my second brother's wife, don't let my second brother go.
Who can stand it in the face of these two old men. Big brother is like this, this is a case. Then the second brother chose to escape. The second brother escaped, so I can be held responsible alone. Then my eldest brother's family asked me for money. And when they know these things, they feel that they are going too far and quarrel with them. Fought because of this matter. We are all family.
How did it come to be like this? I knew that my parents wouldn't want to do this if they had a choice, especially my father, who couldn't move, but he still felt it. I often see him crying, and his tears show that he is sad. But some choices may not be my father wants to live like this, so that there is no quality in living, and it harms the children and becomes our baggage.
But he is still alive after all, and his father has killed us miserably by living like this. My son said, it's not that we are not filial, it's that you alone have limited ability. You should put them in charge, how much have you paid over the years? Don't forget how my mother died again...
I didn't cry before my son finished speaking, I was very uncomfortable. Although I now have a pension of 6800 a month, the days are getting worse and I am getting older. Now I have to take care of my parents, and they will not be responsible for what to do in the future.
It can be said that filial piety can also be said to be unfilial, they are also helpless. In the face of this, I don't know what to say, and I dare not let my children help me take responsibility. Every generation has a generation to do, not to mention that even their own sons are not responsible, how can they let their grandchildren be responsible? After my second brother left, he gave less and less money.
Although he has such a big reason, we are almost unable to get up like this. A good home, but because of the parents paralyzed. Three years ago, my mother was paralyzed. Mother fell from the 2nd floor. This fall was paralyzed, and the father who had been caring for the paralysis was out of breath. What should I do if I have to take care of one more mother?
I'm also an old man, and I also want others to take care of me. But now I'm going to do everything. I really can't stand it, God, why not take me? In the face of these things, I really want to go quickly, I don't want to live anymore. But I had to stay, I was too difficult, what about the pension of 6800? I'd rather not do a pension and live well, but I can't.
Epilogue:
Although I am not very old in my 60s, and then I have a pension of 6800 every month, I was really helpless in the face of these things, and if I did, I would probably want to leave. And it's not very ruthless, after all, after so many years, it's uncomfortable not to say it's yours, I think there are few people in real life who can stick to it for so long, so you have no regrets in this matter, and you have done a good job in this matter.
I just hope that through this case, all young people can be more considerate of their parents, if you can help, try to help, your parents are old, they still have to take care of your grandparents, that is, your parents' parents, or your grandparents.
It's not easy to understand each other, you don't understand your parents' words, your children will not understand you in the future, be more considerate of your parents, they really can't survive, they are really difficult, otherwise they won't say these words to understand? As children, let's be more considerate and understanding.