My husband and I have been married for five years, and now I have a daughter who is more than three years old, although his parents did not like me when I first got married, thinking that my family was only rural and could not bring a rich dowry, but as long as my husband is good to me, I don't think all this is a problem.
When I first got married, I didn't buy a house, and my husband said that I had to rely on my own ability, and I think it's right, so after getting married, we worked harder than before, and finally paid the down payment when the child was two years old, and the names of the two of us were written, and my mother-in-law and aunt said in private that my husband was stupid after they knew it.
Yes, my husband also has a sister, five years older than him, who treated him well when he was a child, married relatively early, married a fairly wealthy family, gave birth to a son, and my mother-in-law felt that there was light on her face, plus I gave birth to a daughter, and I was even more unwelcome.
But the eldest sister is not very easy to get along with, I heard that I don't get along well with my in-laws at my in-laws' house, and I quarrel with my husband all day, my mother-in-law also said that women have to have tempers, but they can't be pinched, but she always wants to hold me, and this double standard is also drunk.
As a result, the eldest sister divorced this year, it is said that she quarreled with her mother-in-law and beat her mother-in-law and pushed the old man directly into the hospital, his husband divorced her directly, my mother-in-law went to the door to ask for explanations, but was driven back, and when she bought a house, she didn't write her aunt's name, she didn't get anything, basically equivalent to leaving the house, but with children.
The man promised to bear the child's tuition, but he paid it directly to the school, and did not let the eldest sister handle it at all. After the divorce, she brought her son to live in my house, saying that her mother-in-law's family was too small to live, and her husband said that her sister was pitiful, and as a brother, she had to help them, well, for the sake of the family's face, then live for a while.
But since I moved in, my eldest sister has been like the mistress of this family all day long, doing no housework, not spending a penny, and eating this and that all day, always saying that the vegetables I buy are not fresh meat, eating a little, and always using my cosmetics to wear my clothes casually. My husband said that these are trifles, forget it.
But his son is at a naughty age, always bullying his daughter, robbing her things and always hitting her and pushing her, the daughter is crying aggrieved, and the mother-in-law and the eldest sister just look at it and laugh hehe, saying that boys are strong, grow up to be not bullied, girls are useless.
I was so angry that I didn't let my daughter play with my aunt and son, and I would rather send her to the nursery school than let my eldest sister look at her when I went to work, and she also said that I couldn't trust her, I just couldn't trust her.
She lived for most of the year, did not go out to work, ate and drank at home, and always asked her husband for money to buy things, and her husband's monthly salary was given to them except for the mortgage repayment, and my family has always been my expenses. I wanted to save money to buy a car, but I couldn't save this penny.
I didn't know how long I could endure until all the conflicts erupted that day, and I came back from work so tired that I was dying in the kitchen cooking, and my eldest sister said that I would eat this and that, and I was still wearing my newly bought dress.
I heard my daughter's crying again in the kitchen, and when I came out to see my nephew pushing her daughter down, her arm hitting the table and bleeding, the eldest sister said something about her son without pain.
At this time, my husband came back, and I came to comfort her when I saw my daughter crying, but the eldest sister went directly to my husband and said that she wanted to buy a skirt for a thousand yuan. I couldn't bear it, I snatched my husband's wallet, maybe I gave it. The eldest sister scolded me for being nosy, I said this is my home, I will take care of what?
My husband pulled me into the room, said what kind of wind I smoked, I was also angry, pointed at him and said, I can't go on this day, she has been divorced for so long and still depends on here, do you want us to raise her for a lifetime? Yes, your monthly salary is more than 10,000, you have money, then you raise them, we divorce, I take my daughter away, not being bullied and hurt every day.
My husband was silent for a long time, saying that he would deal with this matter, I don't know what he said to my eldest sister, and the next day they moved to my mother-in-law's house in anger, and with my mother-in-law's personality, I didn't bother to pursue it, as long as it didn't affect my life.
Now that the days have finally returned to calm, I have also seen through the faces of these so-called relatives, and I have repeatedly retreated and have not been touched and grateful by others, and I must be tough and cannot touch my bottom line, otherwise the bad days are endless!