Guan Zhong said: "A plan for one year is like a tree valley A plan for ten years is like a tree, a lifelong plan, and it is like a tree man." ”
A phrase we often hear now is: "Look at other people's children, what they want, and develop comprehensively in all aspects; Looking at my own children, I always feel that I can't take it. ”
This may be the common disease of every parent, and their children are probably not as good as others. Seeing that their own children are still struggling, other people's children have shone. At this time, are you particularly uncomfortable in your heart?
So how to make your children shine like other people's children?
American homeschooling expert, best-selling author, speaker. In "Thrive: Raising Living Children," M.D. in Education, Michelle Boba argues that the difference between struggling children and those who shine is not in scores, but in whether they have 7 unique traits.
So, now let's take a look at three of the traits in this book and what can be done to make them available to children.
01 Self-confidence, the shining point of life
Turgenev said: "Believe in yourself first, and then others will believe in you." ”
Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous symphony conductor. In a World Series, he played according to the score given by the jury and keenly spotted discordant sounds. At first, he thought the band had made a mistake and stopped and played again, but it was still wrong.
So he felt that there was something wrong with the score, and the composers and judges and some authorities who were present at the time insisted that there was absolutely nothing wrong with the score, and that he was wrong. He thought for a while, and finally said categorically: "No, it must be the wrong score." After that, thunderous applause broke out. It turned out that this was an elaborate trap devised by the judges to test whether the conductor insisted on his ideas after discovering the score error and being rejected by the authorities.
In the end, Seiji Ozawa won the World Series. And Seiji Ozawa is because of self-confidence, he believes in himself, so, he won. This shows how important self-confidence is.
So how to make self-confidence a child's superpower?
1. Discover your child's talents, help him overcome adversity, build character, and become a better version of himself.
2. Building self-confidence requires children to first understand their strengths and then develop them into their core strengths.
3. In this process, parents need to defend, no longer protect them, make arrangements for them, and help them at all times.
02 Empathy, children's gratitude
While teaching children to build self-confidence, it is also necessary to teach children empathy. What is empathy? Most people describe empathy as being able to "feel the pain of others" from the heart.
How to develop empathy in children? Several methods are given in this book:
1. Learn to recognize other people's emotions.
2. Limit the use of electronics and encourage face-to-face communication.
3. Mimic the behavior of empathetic listening.
4. Put yourself in the shoes of others.
5. Expect your child to care about others.
6. Imagine how others feel.
7. Inspire gratitude.
8. Put empathy into action.
Parents are their children's first teachers and most influential teachers, children long for our love, want us to recognize, hope that we can empathize with their stress and emptiness, and we help develop their determination to deal with the difficulties and confusion they encounter in the process of growing up.
03 Self-control, the child's ability to discipline himself
Self-control is the rudder of life, so that your ship of life avoids reefs, whirlpools, and never collapses.
We all know that self-control is a bit difficult for children. And teaching children self-control is actually not that difficult. Only master the following three points:
1. Concentration, which strengthens your child's concentration and strengthens his patience.
2. Self-management, which is a skill for children to learn to regulate bad emotions.
3. Make the right decisions so children can make informed, right choices.
Every child will have difficulties, and some will have more challenging difficulties than others. However, developing self-control while having lasting parental angstroms can help children overcome difficulties in life.
No one knows whether a child can succeed at the beginning, but with self-control and parental love, children will not feel so empty and can grow up better.
Write at the end
Every child is a beacon, if you want to keep this light bright. We often say, "The best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago, and second, it's now." "It's the same with educating children, if these qualities have not been cultivated before, then start now, from now on.
Every parent wants their child to thrive. And this book "Thriving and Raising Living Children" by Doctor of Education Michelle Boba provides you with the means to easily educate your children so that they can thrive.