"Sit down and eat." For this sentence, Tan Yankai's mother Li Shi waited for 24 years, and finally heard her husband's greeting on the day that her son met in high school.
The marriage of Song Meiling and Chiang Kai-shek is known to everyone, but few people know that before meeting the old Chiang, the man who almost entered the marriage hall with her was Tan Yankai. She refused Song Meiling's affection, saying that she would never continue the string after the death of her wife, and she could only be sorry for Miss Song. As for the reason why Tan Yankai did this, it can be traced back to the person who had the greatest influence on his life's ideas - his mother Li.
Tan Yankai's father was Tan Zhonglin, a late Qing dynasty dignitary, who served as Shangshu of the Ministry of Rites and Governor of Liangguang.
On January 25, 1880, the night Tan Yankai was born, his father Tan Zhonglin was dreaming that the late Qing minister He Linhan came to visit him, and woke up in a beautiful dream. At this time, his concubine Li Shi gave birth to a baby boy, and Tan Zhonglin was secretly happy in his heart, thinking that this child was He Linghan, a tanhua, and would become a great vessel after reincarnation.
But as the lowest-ranking son in the family, Tan Yankai has not been treated well by his brothers and sisters since he was a child, and he is often bullied. Her own mother, Li Shi, was even more miserable, as a concubine, she was called around every day, and she didn't even have the qualifications to eat at the table, even during the special period of pregnancy, she could only eat standing up.
Therefore, Tan Yankai's least favorite thing since he was a child was eating, and watching his mother take care of others, he felt very uncomfortable. It is also for this reason that Tan Yankai set a goal when he was a child, to get ahead, strive to get a good name, and let his mother live a better life.
Father Tam Zhonglin saw his son so studious, thinking of his dream on the day he was born, he was naturally happy to cultivate. With the help of his father, Tan Yankai began to study all kinds of books, and when other children were playing and skipping class, Tan Yankai still wrote every word with self-discipline.
3 Li Shi was in his heart at this time, with mixed feelings, looking at his son who was becoming more and more productive, and he also had some confidence in his heart. Perhaps, in the near future, their own children can really change the fate of the mother and son, and they can also make themselves live without such grievances.
In 1904, Tan Yankai was 24 years old. He participated in the last imperial examination of the Qing Dynasty at that time, and obtained the huiyuan in the township examination, filling the gap that Hunan had no huiyuan in the Qing Dynasty for more than 200 years, and became the pride of Hunan people, famous in Sanxiang. His calligraphy and writing are equally excellent. It was liked by Empress Dowager Cixi. Fate finally saw Tan Yankai's efforts and overturned the rewards after all his efforts.
When the news of Tan Yankai's imperial examination and the first came in, Li finally heard her husband's greeting at the dinner table, "Let's sit down and eat later."
In fact, compared to the hard life he has long been accustomed to, he pays more attention to the future of his children. She seriously told Tan Yankai, child, I am naturally happy that you have achieved a good name, but remember not to forget the original intention of taking the name of merit, and to be a good person and a good official.
In 1916, Tan Yankai's mother Li Shi died, and according to tradition, concubines could not go out of the ancestral hall gate for funerals. After receiving the news, he rushed home and insisted on a beautiful funeral for his mother. But because Li was a concubine all his life, the people in the clan never agreed to go out of the main entrance of the coffin, saying that they were going out of the funeral through the gate and did not agree. After some theories with the clansmen, Tan Yankai became angry, he went straight to his mother's coffin, and lay on the lid of the coffin, threatening, today I Tan Yankai is dead, carry me out of the funeral.
As soon as these words came out, the audience fell silent. Seeing this scene, the next people finally smoothly carried Li's coffin out of the gate.
After that, Pai Yankai even led by example, because he witnessed his mother's various experiences as a concubine, and always insisted on monogamy in marriage, even if he achieved fame, he never moved the idea of taking a concubine.
Throughout Tan Yankai's life, he has always been filial to his mother, he has always been deeply attached to his wife, and he has kept his promise to his family all his life.