My sister weighed only two and a half pounds when she was born, and the doctors and nurses all said that it is difficult to survive, so let it be fate.
My mother had two major surgeries in three days because she gave birth to my sister, and finally had a hysterectomy and eight bags of blood transfused, which saved a life.
The family is not rich, the mother's medical expenses alone have spent the family, plus a premature baby, sent to the incubator as soon as it is born, the cost behind may be a bottomless pit.
Even so, Dad gritted his teeth and said to the hospital: "Help! No matter what the situation of the child, I gave birth to her, I raised her. ”
My mother had a heavy bleeding from the operation, cut off her uterus, and went into shock for two days before gradually waking up. When my mother woke up, the doctor said to her: "You married a good husband, you were unconscious for two days and two nights, and your husband was by your bedside, not leaving an inch, not a single glance." ”
Dad was alone in the hospital to take care of his mother, unable to separate, and his sister was always in the incubator, taken care of by nurses, until the day my mother was discharged, she took it out and followed her mother home.
That was the first time I met her. She was only ten days old, and her small body was almost a layer of skin wrapped in a thin skeleton, the skin seemed to be transparent, and the blood vessels below were all distinct. The small hand, like two chicken feet, can see the small bones one by one, as if it will break with a pinch. The scalp is also transparent, without hair, covered with the white skull underneath. The entire scalp is covered with scabbed needle holes. I heard my father say that because she was too young, it was difficult to eat, and she relied on nurses to prick her scalp needles to give her nutrition.
But I finally have a sister, and I am no longer a lonely only child. I also took good care of this sister and grew up with her day by day.
Later, after I became a doctor, I learned that it was a miracle that my sister survived. In medicine, newborns under five pounds are called low-weight babies. Those below four pounds are called very low body weight babies. The survival rate of very low birth weight infants is very low. And my sister was only two and a half pounds when she was born.
But the difficulties lie ahead. Congenital deficiency, resulting in her acquired poor immunity, she gets sick at every turn. Before she was three years old, she was more familiar with the hospital than at home.
Finally a little older, she went to school. It seems that the illness is slightly less, at least it will not make the hospital critically ill at every turn. But there was a new problem: she studied hard, but her grades were always unsatisfactory.
The knowledge of elementary school, as long as you use a little snack, the exam does not say full scores, at least get eighty or ninety is a very easy thing. But since the first grade of primary school, she has shown a clear gap with other students. Often the first and second lowest in the class. At this time, my parents realized that this child was not only a little sluggish in her usual reaction, but her IQ may also be worse than that of ordinary people.
My parents are also intellectuals in the village, and they attach great importance to the education of their children, and no matter how difficult the family is, they will try to provide for us to go to school. But the obvious contrast between my sister and my sister's academic performance increased my parents' sense of loss. I think that in the next ten years, I may have been the shadow of my sister, because the more anxious my parents were, the more they liked to say to her, "Look at how your sister is, why are you so far behind?" "Every time she heard this, she was very sad, and many times I saw her crying secretly.
But when you look back at me, you are still very close. Maybe as my parents said, she doesn't have a high IQ, but I think she has love, knows love, and loves people.
By junior high school, her parents no longer expected her to be admitted to any school, and her father tried his best to send her to the local health school to let her study nursing. Dad made plans to let her work in the village health center after she graduated. Let her be able to support herself, and it can be regarded as her parents have fulfilled their nurturing responsibilities to her.
By this time, I had graduated from university and was well on my way to work in the best local hospital.
In the next few years, everything was as Dad planned, step by step. After working in the hospital for two years, she was also old enough to start a family, and her parents asked someone to introduce her to someone.
In the eyes of her parents, her daughter has a low IQ and a mediocre job. I dare not expect to find a son-in-law with good conditions, as long as I can be good to my sister and willing to take care of my sister for a lifetime, there are no other conditions.
Unexpectedly, at this time, something happened again. After two blind dates, the younger sister began to refuse blind dates. And the two boys we had gone on a blind date before, we felt quite thick and honest, and in my sister's opinion, they were all kinds of bad.
After refusing the blind date, she told us another groundbreaking sentence: she was going to quit her job to take the college entrance examination.
In our opinion, this idea is simply ridiculous.
Dad privately complained to me and my mother: Just based on her grades from childhood to adulthood, with her IQ, she still wants to take the college entrance examination? Don't you have a little self-knowledge?
And at that time, there were only about two months left before the college entrance examination.
Of course, this cannot be said in front of my sister. However, in the 20 years of raising her, her parents have experienced so many hardships, and finally when she can work to support herself, her parents feel that the days of worrying about her have finally come to an end, but she came out again. Being patient with my parents is a huge challenge.
At first, Dad tried to persuade her, but she was not an ordinary stubborn, no matter how much persuasion helped. Dad was also hot-tempered, and later he was really angry and beat her hard. Hopefully, this will suppress her.
But I never expected that after being beaten, my sister stayed at home for only one night, and disappeared completely the next day. The whole family tried their best to find her news in various ways, but found nothing, and she seemed to have evaporated from the world.
During that time, my parents regretted it immensely, my mother cried countless times at home, and my father was annoyed silently. Because we all have a sense of ominousness, guessing if my sister can't think about it, looking for short-sightedness.
What was even more unexpected was that a few months later, my sister stood in front of us with an admission letter from a certain university.
What really happened during those months, none of us know. Only once, she said vaguely, that she was hiding in the house of an extremely reliable friend to review and prepare for the exam. We don't know the specific details, but anyway, she really passed the college entrance examination and got the university admission notice. It's still a nursing profession, and even though it's a junior college, it's already incredible for us. Because of this diploma, it is no longer difficult for her to find a job.
Her parents sent her to college in that distant city. After returning, her parents would often call her to ask about her study life. But never said anything like "she can't do anything" again.
During the summer vacation the year before graduation, she did not come home as usual. We called worriedly to ask about her. She only said she was preparing for graduation. We were sure she was safe, and we were relieved.
About half a year before she graduated, she told us one day that she had taken advantage of the summer vacation to find an internship hospital in Beijing, and had already undergone an internship for half a year. Before returning to school to get her diploma, the leader of the internship hospital told her that he hoped that she would come to work directly in this hospital after graduation.
That's when we learned that her internship not only provided room and board, but also paid money. Her internship salary is nearly double my official salary. If she returns to work there with her diploma, her salary will double again.
Her salary at that time was very amazing to me and my parents who had never left the small county. I suddenly felt that my little sense of superiority in front of her from childhood to adulthood was actually not worth mentioning.
She later talked to me about her internship. At that time, the hospital had some work specially assigned to interns, because it was dirty and tired and had to be put down. The other interns were disgusted, but my sister was diligent and did not complain, and at the end of the internship, her performance was more than ten times that of the other interns. All this, the leaders saw in their eyes.
A year later, more than a year after she officially joined, she brought her boyfriend home.
She told us that her boyfriend also works in Beijing, graduated from a prestigious university in the top 30 in the country, and is a senior engineer in a well-known enterprise (the company she is talking about is unknown to no one in China).
Our family was not happy for my sister, but worried. Because this boy is so good, whether it is education or income, my sister and him are worlds apart, if they get married, will my sister be happy?
But then I listened to my sister tell some stories about her boyfriend, and I began to believe that the boy truly loved his sister.
This boy's family is very poor, although he has been smart since he was a child and studies well, he was bullied by his classmates when he was in school. When I was in college, I once talked about a girlfriend, and when it came time to talk about marriage, the woman's family clearly stated that they wanted a large amount of bride price, otherwise they would not let their daughter marry him.
With the boy's income, it is not that he cannot get this bride price, but his self-esteem is deeply hurt. For years since, he has been reluctant to fall in love. Until he met my sister, he found that his sister was dating him, only for him as a person, and did not care about his work and income. His true heart is reawakened and he feels that he has met a girl who is truly worth cherishing.
Now, the younger sister has been married for two years, and the two have their own house and car in Beijing. And many Beipiao, who are about the same age as them, are still struggling for rent.
Every time she and her brother-in-law returned to their hometown and brought back all kinds of food, clothing, and gifts for her parents, her father could see the envious and jealous eyes of the neighbors. The daughter who was once the least favored is now the person who makes him look the most.
Standing in front of her, I hope to feel beyond my reach.
I don't know what my father will feel when he remembers beating her in order to prevent his sister from taking the college entrance examination.
From my sister, I see that a person's destiny may have innate advantages and disadvantages, but what a person can live is really infinitely possible.
First, she does not let innate conditions become her limitations;
Second, her hard work, steadfastness, and seriousness have been maintained since she was a child, and she has never changed due to external blows;
Third, in the face of the distrust of others and even her family, she is forgiving enough and has the perseverance to lie down and try the courage.
These are enough for her to counterattack the ceiling of an ordinary family of ours.
