There is a movie in Taiwan called "A Boat in the Ocean", which tells the love story of a beautiful rich girl and a poor disabled boy, the protagonist of the film, Zheng Fengxi, has deformed his legs since childhood, and can only walk with the help of prosthetic limbs, but he is deeply loved by his classmates around him, and the beautiful girl Wu Jizhao took the initiative to launch a love offensive against him. The storyline of this movie is like an unusual love portrayal of Taiwanese disabled painter Xie Kunshan and his wife.
The initial impression of acquaintance is good
Xie Kunshan is a well-known legend in Taiwan. He worked on construction sites from the age of 12, lost both arms and one leg by mistake at the age of 16, and lost an eye in an accident at the age of 23. In order not to involve the poor family, Xie Kunshan left home the following year, with a disability, and began a tenacious life struggle alone. At the most difficult moment of his life, a girl named Ye Really Beautiful came into his life.
I really grew up in a well-off family environment and did not suffer any setbacks. When she saw Xie Kunshan's story on TV, she became intrigued by his legendary experience and decided to meet him in person and talk to him. Before seeing Xie Kunshan, I really learned from my friends that he was a very optimistic person, and she who had never met Xie Kunshan thought: After meeting, what do I say to him? As a disabled person, is there an untouchable topic in Xie Kunshan's heart? I was also really afraid that after seeing Xie Kunshan, I would say something I shouldn't have said, which would hurt his self-esteem and cause him displeasure, and my heart was always uneasy.
That day, when I went to look for Xie Kunshan, I brought a watermelon as a gift. Unexpectedly, at that time, Xie Kunshan paid attention to the watermelon in Ye Zhen's hand, not Ye Zhen himself. He shouted in Minnan dialect: Ah, watermelon! The first time I heard someone call out a watermelon with such an accent, I really thought it was funny, and I couldn't help but laugh. In this laugh, the atmosphere suddenly relaxed, and I really forgot the tension, and forgot that the other party was a disabled person, and the two talked very casually.
Subsequently, Xie Kunshan happily took out his own photo to show Italia, triumphantly pointed to the photo of his first love girlfriend and said: This is my girlfriend. At that time, I was really happy to share the joy of Xie Kunshan. Later, Xie Kunshan said: At that time, if I knew that the girl in front of me was my future wife, I would not be able to show her the photo when I was killed.
I also met Xie Kunshan for the first time, and they both left a good impression on each other. In the next two or three years, Xie Kunshan went all out to learn painting, and he really only regarded Xie Kunshan as a general friend, and the two sides did not have much contact. Until one day, the two met again at art school, and xie Kunshan just fell out of love at this time.
That day, Xie Kunshan went to the art college to observe, and when he learned that Ye Zhen was also there, he went to her classroom. I was also very surprised that Xie Kunshan was also here, and the two entered into a friendly conversation again. Since then, Xie Kunshan has often invited Ye Zhen to sketch and play together.
Feelings gradually deepened into love
Once, Xie Kunshan took him to see a very traditional movie. The movie tells the story of a bitter girl, like a rapeseed, drifting with the cold wind, where it takes root. Both have a lot of sympathy for the girl in the movie.
At that time, Xie Kunshan did not deliberately take and really watch this movie, so that she had a psychological preparation for their relationship. But since then, the two have grown closer together, often doing things together that they like each other and feeling fulfilled and happy. Many times, they go to art exhibitions and go out to sketch. When the two of them jointly moved a landscape from heaven and earth to the canvas, they seemed to really have this landscape, and they were immersed in a state of mind as beautiful as this landscape. They really like to paint such a beautiful picture together.
On a cold and drizzly day, I really went to the northeast corner of Taiwan with Xie Kunshan to sketch. The monsoon there was very cold, xie Kunshan's easel was blown unsteadily, and he really picked a few stones to help him fix the easel, that is, he painted independently in the wind and rain on one leg. I really don't understand the question: Why did you deliberately choose to sketch in such bad weather? Xie Kunshan said: I want to capture this feeling of dark clouds and cold wind blowing.
As usual, before each painting, Xie Kunshan had to remove the dirty paint left over from the previous painting and replace it with new paint. He bit the painting knife with his mouth, and replaced the wrist of ordinary people with his tongue to turn the animation knife and get the paint well. I also really saw that when he bit the painting knife to adjust the paint, the corners of his mouth oozed blood, and she wanted to help him, but Xie Kunshan would not let him. As long as he can do it himself, he will never let others help. I really admire it.
Gradually, I really couldn't stand the blowing of the cold wind and cold rain, and I went to the side to hide. Seeing Xie Kunshan, standing in a rugged rock, still painting against the wind and rain, I was really touched by his courage to brave the wind and rain and stand up to the sky. Xie Kunshan has been painting in the wind and rain for three hours. I also really feel that this is a true portrayal of Xie Kunshan's tenacious perseverance and love of creation and love of life.
In the days he spent with Xie Kunshan, he really felt his open-minded optimism about life and his persistent pursuit of career again and again. While admiring Xie Kunshan, he also really felt confusion in his heart.
Whenever they walked side by side on the street, they really found that people's eyes often stayed on Xie Kunshan, who was physically mutilated, and more on himself. Sometimes I really feel unbearable, and I don't feel like slowing down. And when she saw the back of Xie Kunshan, who did not care and bravely moved forward, she felt that there were mutilated people who were herself, not Xie Kunshan. She thought: Everyone is flawed. Some people's flaws are obvious and obvious, just like Xie Kunshan; while some people look physically sound, but in their hearts they have defects that they are not willing to face. And the soundness and happiness of Xie Kunshan's soul have covered up and even surpassed his external defects, and she even feels that he is a person without defects.
Since then, I have really begun to adjust my psychology. She repeatedly compared: her strengths were not as much as Xie Kunshan's, only a few more sound hands and feet, and this hand and foot did not do anything amazing; although Xie Kunshan was less hands and feet, he was crippled and not wasted, and he worked hard to do things that many people could not do, and won the respect of everyone. It also really strengthened her determination to be with Xie Kunshan, but her feelings were difficult to understand, especially in her own parents, and her relationship with Xie Kunshan was seriously tested.
Break through the barriers to marriage
One day, Walking on the streets of Taipei, Ye Zhen and Xie Kunshan were inadvertently seen by Ye Zhen's father's friends and told Ye Zhen's parents, which was nothing more than a thunderbolt on the head of Ye Zhen's parents. The real father knows Xie Kunshan from the media and appreciates the perseverance of his life, but he opposes his daughter making friends with him, and even more opposes choosing him as a lifelong partner: the sky falls, and he does not have the hand to help you support. I also really told my father: Xie Kunshan will let me share his love for life with his love for me, and I feel very down-to-earth with him. I don't rely on tangible shoulder arms, but on the spirit of wrestling with fate. Seeing that the persuasion was fruitless, the parents took strict measures against Ye Zhen: it was forbidden to go out to meet Xie Kunshan. After a long time, it is really natural to forget Xie Kunshan.
Seeing that he could not communicate with his father with words, he had never written a letter to his father, and wrote a long letter to his father to state his true understanding of Xie Kunshan. But her father took her letter as an essay and wrote a criticism on it with a red pen, thinking that it was really a wrong thought. During the time when I didn't meet Xie Kunshan, I really felt that both of them were accumulating emotions and facing the future together.
Unable to see xie kunshan, who wanted to prove his ability to his parents with actions, he worked harder to paint and open painting exhibitions, and constantly won awards in some painting competitions. Even so, Xie Kunshan failed to convince his parents to really know themselves.
For the next two or three years, Xie Kunshan and Ye Real Love were like underground work under the supervision of their parents. But time did not dilute their feelings, but made them feel inseparable. After a period of precipitation, both of them know that the problem they face together is whether they have the financial ability to maintain the survival of the family. They feel that they have enough mind and ability to bear the load of life. So, in the 8th year of their acquaintance, Xie Kunshan and Ye Zhen made an important decision in each other's lives: to get married.
On the day of the registration of the marriage, because of the economic tension, Xie Kunshan did not even wear a wedding dress, but wore simple casual clothes; he really just borrowed a chic belt from his sister. They didn't invite too many guests, and Xie Kunshan only invited his own teacher and a gallery friend as their witnesses. To bless the couple were their teachers, friends, and siblings. They didn't even have a camera with them, but thanks to a camera in the teacher's car, they took a wedding photo of them walking out of the auditorium.
Although she entered the marriage hall in such a simple way, she really did not feel wronged, because Xie Kunshan gave her strength. She felt that the wedding was an important choice in her life. Even without romantic music, warm blessings, and beautiful white veils, as long as she can be with Xie Kunshan, she feels that this life is enough. She knows what she is pursuing, what she has already had, although she does not know what the future will be, she believes that every day of her life will not be repeated, and she believes that she and Xie Kunshan can accompany her through every day of the future: as long as she works hard today, there will be a happy future.
Happy family parents are relieved
After marriage, Ye Zhen and Xie Kunshan began an independent small family life. Because the real parents did not support the marriage of the two, the poor Xie Kunshan's parents could not give the couple too much help, and they were fully prepared for the difficulties in the future. But with their joint efforts, the difficulties did not seem to be as great as they thought.
When they had their first daughter, the body that had just given birth really needed to recover, Xie Kunshan tried to let her rest as much as possible, and he poured milk for the child. Xie Kunshan, who had lost both hands, could only slowly bite open the bottle cap with his teeth, bite the spoon to scoop out the milk powder, fill the water and then use his mouth to close the bottle cap tightly, and then bite the nipple with his mouth, shake the milk powder in the bottle, and then use the slightly injured arm to hold the bottle to feed the child.
Later, they had a daughter again, and Xie Kunshan still took care of his wife and daughter tirelessly. Sometimes the child cries, and he picks up and coaxes. When he holds the child, he first bites the clothes on the child's chest with his mouth, picks him up, and then uses the arm to support the back of the child's head and slowly place it on the thigh, so as to hold and coax her. I also really think that if she scores the child's father, she will give Xie Kunshan 200 points: a daughter 100 points.
Both children are lively, like their fathers, cheerful, optimistic about life, always smiling. In addition to blood inheritance, Xie Kunshan's words and deeds are also deeply infected by children. Although Xie Kunshan did not have upper limbs, his physical contact with the child was very rich. There is no gap between father and daughter, and it is true that the two children have been close to Xie Kunshan for more time than they have.
Sometimes friends ask the truth: Now that children are small, they have no distance from their fathers, but they will have social interactions when they grow up, and they will have classmates and friends. When children grow up, they may be embarrassed to let others know that they come from such a family whose father is different from others, how will you educate them? Zhen and Xie Kunshan never thought anything of it. Xie Kunshan said: If my children are ashamed of my disability, then I will try to achieve something and make them proud of me.
After 4 years of notarized marriage with Xie Kunshan, the real father saw that what he was worried about did not happen, and the daughter and Xie Kunshan, together, not only did not have poverty, but had a stable life and a happy family, but also recognized their marriage, affirmed Xie Kunshan, and felt that he did have the ability to surpass himself and be different from ordinary people. In life, Xie Kunshan and Ye Zhen love each other and support each other.
After accepting their marriage, the real parents gave the little couple a lot of love, especially the real mother, who hurt the son-in-law very much, and called Xie Kunshan when there was nothing to do, just to tell him jokes. Often, before she could speak on the other end of the phone, she couldn't stop laughing. From this, Xie Kunshan felt kind and warm: it didn't matter whether the jokes told by her mother-in-law were funny or not, what was important was that her mood infected everyone's attitude towards life.
Someone asked Xie Kunshan: If you have a pair of healthy hands, what do you most want to do with these hands? Xie Kunshan answered: I will hold my wife in my left hand and my two daughters in my right hand, and walk the road of life together. Just like on our family portrait: the family is harmonious and beautiful, and every face is overflowing with happy smiles from the heart.
Some people also asked: If you were given another chance to choose, would you still choose Xie Kunshan? I don't know if I'll be so lucky to know him again. Because many people know that he is a happy person and want to be good friends with him.
Xie Kunshan, who makes people respected, is also admired, and I hope that more people can feel your life and share your happiness.
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