Two days ago, I watched a movie called "Dog Thirteen".
A lot of the plot in it makes me feel very heart-wrenching, especially bringing in the role of myself who was once a little girl, and the role that I also grew up in a single-parent family, which is even more heart-wrenching.
Today, I will only talk about one of the seemingly inconspicuous plots, and the others, I will talk to you slowly later when I have the opportunity.
The plot goes like this:
The protagonist is a little girl named Lee Play, who raises a puppy named Einstein.
Li Play's stepmother gave birth to a younger brother, not surprisingly, the child is very naughty, not surprisingly, the whole family is extremely doting on that child.
Every time the younger brother comes to Play at Li's grandparents' house (Li Plays lives with his grandparents), either bullying adults or bullying puppies, of course, puppies are bullied more, because it is just a "beast", except for the little master Li play, no one will protect it.
The younger brother bullied the puppy Einstein miserably, and the puppy finally found an opportunity to retaliate and bit his brother's foot.
Li Play bought pork liver for the puppy and came home, pushed open the door, and heard his stepmother roaring hysterically, threatening his husband (that is, Li Play's father), asking him to take Einstein to the hot pot restaurant, and stressing that it was the kind of place where dog meat hot pot was eaten.
At this time, the puppy was beaten so badly that it was covered in blood and could only curl up helplessly in the corner, trembling.
Dad carried the puppy and went outside, pleading bitterly in spite of Li Play's tearful face.
This dog, for Li Play, is very important.
Her parents were not around, and her grandparents, although they hurt her, loved her more as the boy's younger brother.
You can imagine how desperate it was for her to send her only little friend in the family to the dog meat shop.
As you read this article, you might as well recall that in your childhood (and now), if your beloved pet was gone, how did you feel?
I have also been very fond of small animals since I was a child, and I have seen animals, basically except for snakes and caterpillars, other things, such as cats, dogs, chickens, ducks and pigs, I like them.
When I was a child, I had dogs, chickens and ducks at home, and I would feed them and play with them whenever I had the chance.
I remember when I was 5 years old, the first time I had ducks in the house, I was very fresh, and the little ducks always ran from a distance to eat while I shook the rice in the bowl.
Later, as soon as they hear my voice, they will run toward me with their hands in a daze, and then, hunching their necks on my shoulders, look for me to hug.
Just like that.
Basically, my greatest joy every day is playing with the ducks.
But one day, my grandfather grabbed one of them and prepared to kill it and eat it.
I cried and hugged the duck and wouldn't let Grandpa take it away. But how can a 5-year-old compete with an adult?
Grandpa took the duck, took the kitchen knife, walked to the side of the house, crouched down at a tree stump, put down the duck, grabbed the neck, got up, the knife fell, in the blink of an eye, cut off its neck, and then, without a moment's hesitation, threw the duck's neck into a pond next to the house.
"The duck's brain shell can't eat it, it must be dumped," Grandpa chanted, while carrying the duck upside down to bleed (I don't know why, at that time my grandfather they thought the duck's head could not eat).
Failed to prevent the duck from being killed, watching it be killed, bloodied, scalded with boiling water, plucked...
I felt powerless and desperate, I only knew how to cry, and I cried while shedding tears: "Daddy (our family dialect, call Grandpa for Daddy, call Daddy for Daddy) You don't have a conscience, and you have to be fierce?!!! Woohoo ~~~ Daddy, your heart is so fierce!!! ”
The duck was stewed into duck broth, and I refused to eat that day at noon and in the evening, and even more refused to go near the kitchen.
I remember that incident vividly when I was a child, and every time I think about it, I think of a series of desperate eyes of the domestic animals that were slaughtered in front of my eyes, and my heart will be very uncomfortable.
But later, when I grew up a little, my heart became "hard", and I would no longer cry in despair because domestic poultry and pigs were killed, and I could eat their flesh.
It can be cruel to say, because this is the "law of the jungle" ah- the weak eat the strong.
However, for those animals that are not kept as food, but as pets or members of the family, I can't eat them, such as dogs, such as cats.
Because I like dogs, I have refused to eat dog meat since I was a child. This may be unfair to pigs and cattle and sheep, but human feelings are like this, and sometimes, I know that it is unfair to animals or things that have feelings for me, but I am still biased.
A friend who is particularly close will occasionally be awakened by nightmares, and sometimes when awake, he will be overwhelmed by a very complex emotion—a collection of emotions such as guilt, anguish, self-loathing, hate, helplessness, and so on.
The psychological shadow came from his childhood, when he was a child, he had several dogs in his family, and he liked them very much, and often played with them.
But the grown-ups would force him to join them, kill the dogs, and then let him eat the flesh of the dogs he had played with.
He often laughed at me and said, "Why didn't I refuse when I was a child?" I could still eat their flesh, so why didn't I feel sad back then? Every time I think about it now, I feel very heartbroken, how can I feel so cruel back then? ”
I can't judge the adults who can kill their own nursing home dogs without any psychological pressure to stew and eat, because I haven't eaten the suffering they have suffered.
Many of them, even if they have not experienced the great famine of that year, have certainly experienced poverty and hunger, and they have their trade-offs in the face of fullness and emotion.
All I know is that I couldn't eat my own "little buddy (dog)" like them, maybe because I had a deep affection for them, or maybe it was just because I didn't endure hunger in the true sense.
I also know that my friend's pain, his self-blame, his remorse, is real.
I don't know if you have seen the "Wuxia" played by Zhen Zidan (as Liu Jinxi), which has a plot, Liu Jinxi was originally Tang Long, the second boss of the Seventy-Two Hells of Western Xia (a fierce character with high martial arts and fierce heart).
In the process of killing a person, he suddenly felt that "people, in fact, have a heart", suddenly, did not want to kill anymore, fled the home that made him an emotionless killing machine.
Once gone, it's ten years.
Later, in order to save the villagers in the village where he lived in anonymity, he killed the bandits who came to rob the villagers, which attracted the attention of the catchers.
Catching Fast was curious as to why he was able to leave his hometown for ten years, and he had never even thought of going back.
He told him the reason why he didn't want to go back (actually, it was just one of the reasons):
I had a horse but it was killed by my dad.
My father, seeing that I had a good relationship with the horse, killed the horse.
Then give me something to eat, and when I eat, I don't know.
Then he said that if I could eat even my most beloved horse, there would be nothing in the world to fear, and nothing could bother me anymore.
You say such a home, do you still want to go back?
People who didn't have a similar experience as a child may find such a thing appalling when watching this film.
However, in fact, film and television are derived from life.
Life can only be richer than film and television dramas.
Although my relatives have not been so cruel as to force me to kill or eat my own beloved pet or friend, I have seen many such cruel things.
For example, in the preface to Wu Zhihong's book "Why Does Home Hurt", two cases were mentioned:
There was once a news story about a girl who had a cat and had a very deep affection for the cat and established a deep attachment.
But one day she came home to find that the cat was missing, and it turned out that it had been sold by her mother.
Since then, she has worked hard to earn money, buying her own house five years later, and then telling reporters that she wants to find the beloved cat.
Is what this mother is doing something familiar to you?
But this mother, fortunately, was not cruel enough to force her to eat meat with her.
One more thing:
A netizen's pet is a chicken, and the father locks him (or her) and the chicken on the balcony, gives him a knife, and says that he will kill the chicken before letting him (or her) out.
The book "Why Home Hurts", very profoundly writes about those that happen at home, intentional or unintentional injuries, very worthy of our reading, if you have time, I suggest you can check it out (if you want to see the electronic version, you can find me for free):
It turns out that there will really be people, and people who are very close to us, who will take away our beloved things;
Or, it will force us to destroy our beloved things with our own hands;
It will even force us to eat their flesh.
Back to the protagonist in "Wuxia", there is such a cruel father, how can he feel warm in that home?
That's why he asked the one who came to check on his catch:
Such a home, you say I want to go back?
Anyone who encounters such a thing will be hurt inside.
Therefore, Li Play in "Dog Thirteen" mentioned at the beginning will cry so heart-rending.
From the perspective of the "injured person", we will think, what a cruel person must be to do such a thing?
However, I have not experienced the pain and pain experienced by the perpetrators, so I do not dare to easily condemn them.
As the saying goes:
Do not know the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good.
It's like, the father of the protagonist in "Wuxia", the reason why he is so hard-hearted is because they were once slaughtered like cattle in the Western Xia, and he has hatred in his heart, so he feels that he is not worthy of a warm life, in fact, he is also a poor person.
For example, those who can kill their own animals for many years and eat them without changing their faces, perhaps they have actually experienced hunger, so he thinks that is nothing.
On the other hand:
Everyone has their own values.
We attach great importance to our relationship with pets and animal friends, so it is absolutely impossible to abandon them, let alone kill them.
But in the eyes of some people, beasts are beasts, and people eat animals, which is natural.
We may face animals that have feelings for us and can't go down, for example, I can't eat my own dog, and I can't eat dog meat further; but for those animals that don't have any feelings for us, such as chicken, duck, fish, cattle, sheep and pork sold in supermarkets, we can still eat.
But for those vegetarians, as long as it is an animal, it cannot be eaten.
There are too many things involved.
I think of a controversial Japanese one called "Life Education", which once made a reality show to get two stupid and cute piglets for children to raise.
They named the two piglets, one called Sun, and always nami.
The children take care of the piglets every day to eat, drink, pull, sprinkle, play with them, and gradually develop a deep affection with the stupid and cute piglets.
But the piglet grew very fast, and after a few months, the piglet grew up a lot, and then, suddenly, one day, the adults brought two large boxes of dismembered pork to them and said to them, This is the sun, and this side is Nami.
Then let the children eat their flesh.
Most children simply cannot accept that the little cute pigs that they once spent their days and nights with suddenly appear in front of their eyes in the form of meat pieces, and refuse to eat them, thinking that this is really cruel.
However, the original intention of this "life education" is to let children understand the preciousness and difficulty of life, so as to learn to respect life and respect food.
This is called "life education", and it has also been made into a movie, called "Piggy Classroom", interested friends, you can go to see.
In the movie, you can see how many complex moral and ethical issues are stirred up in the hearts of children.
I respect their position on this bizarre "education of life," but I really can't praise it.
Who decides the length of "life"?
Well, back to the center of my article – sometimes, there are people around us who are different from our values and want to impose their values on us and end up causing us a lot of psychological trauma.
What we can do about this, first of all, regardless of our own values, but at least do not hurt others.
For example, at least don't force the daughter of a cat to discard it, and don't sell the family dog or even force him to eat it.
After Liu Jinxi told his father to let him eat his horse, his 4-year-old son innocently asked: "Is it delicious?" ”
He smiled bitterly and said, "It's not delicious~", how can it be delicious? The heart is in tears and even dripping blood.
If we are hurt, we have to firmly say to him, "I will be very sad if you do this." ”
If he doesn't want to listen to us, then, say it out loud.
Or, just stay away and refuse to communicate if he goes too far.
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