I once asked myself a question: Man, do you have to make friends?
In fact, without friends, you can also live as usual, but people in the world will not be used to a state of life, they will not block out loneliness.
Only those who have experienced loneliness will understand how desirable friendship is.
The greatest value of friends is not that they can be used occasionally, but that they are always there and can be disturbed at any time.
And true friends can not only hear your words, but also understand your heart.
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Everyone needs to understand.
Someone once said to me, "Every time I hear you say 'get used to it,' it hurts you." ”
Indeed, I seem to be "used to" with her usually.
Do I have to transfer several buses to work every day? - Yeah, get used to it.
Don't you usually eat breakfast? - Yeah, I can sleep a little longer, get used to it.
Do you stay up late often? - Yeah, get used to it.
I don't have time to rest on weekends, do I have to work overtime? - Ah it's okay, get used to it.
In fact, these are just the normal life of ordinary people, when you are young, you may feel that this is unfair, that is unfair, and when you reach a certain level of age, you will only say: get used to it.
However, is it not necessary to be comforted and understood when we are accustomed to these things?
In this world, there are always many people greeting you.
The boss cares about whether you can do a good job, your parents care about whether your body is good or not, and those wine and meat friends will only care about whether you are free and can't get out.
Only a small number of people ask you from the bottom of their hearts, "Are you happy?" Tired? ”
Greeting, and caring, are two different things, just like friends and ordinary friends, are also two different things.
What we need is friends, not so-called ordinary friends.
If a person understands you and can feel the bitterness and pain that you have hidden deep in your heart, then this person must care about you very much.
Everyone's time and effort are limited, and only those who really understand you and are willing to understand you can see through your disguise and see through your vulnerability.
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Friends, you know each other.
Why is it so hard to make friends?
Some people may retort to me: "I don't think it's hard!" I have a lot of friends, how can I say it's difficult? ”
So I ask you three questions:
If, at the moment, your life is in a difficult situation, continue to help, how many people are willing to answer your phone?
When you're upset, how many people are willing to spend an hour or two listening to you?
When you do something wrong, aren't afraid to be blamed or misunderstood by you and pull you back from the wrong path?
If you answer these three questions seriously and feel that you have a lot of friends, then congratulations, you are really lucky.
Make friends so that both parties can have a better life.
This is better, not only to become a better person, but also to make each other a happier person.
Friends are the kind of people who really understand what you need, what you want, and are willing to give it a try as long as it's good for you.
Many times, the words spoken will make you angry, and the things you do will make you misunderstood, but since they are friends, they have no scruples.
Many friendships end because of misunderstandings, and some friendships end because some people have forgotten their original intentions.
What are you making friends for? Those friends around you, what are you close to?
Do they really understand you? Is it really worth fellowship?
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Because I understand, it's worth it.
The allusion of Bo Ya breaking the piano, the truth told, is two words - worth it.
If no one in this world can understand my voice, then it is meaningless for me to say more.
The flowing water of the mountains is not a profound artistic conception, but it witnesses what a confidant is.
The words of the heart should be spoken to the right people, trusted, and handed over to the reliable people.
If someone asks you, is it worth giving all your trust for someone who is not related to you by blood?
It's worth it, as long as you understand it, it's really worth it.
Friendship is not to pull each other, but to take the initiative to go, wind and rain on the same road.
May the affection not be betrayed, and may the ending be worthy of paying.
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