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An unexpected fact is that the emotional concept of the post-90s generation is very conservative.
A survey of the "Post-90s Insight Report" shows that nearly 90% of the post-90s are willing to fall in love only once in their lives, more than 90% of the post-90s have zero tolerance for the behavior of lovers splitting their legs, and more than 75% of the post-90s clearly state that they have a "virgin/virgin" complex...
Perhaps, it is time to re-understand the post-90s.
One
This year, the oldest group of post-90s has been 28 years old, and the post-90s collective strides to the third, talk about marriage and marriage on the agenda, and it is indispensable to arrange blind dates arranged by the seven aunts and eight aunts.
The reaction of the post-90s, one word: shame. Many post-90s blind dates said, "After the kiss, I feel embarrassed to even ask for a phone number and add a WeChat." ”
In reality, there is no room for the body, and the soul can be placed on the network. The "Application Industry Trend Report for the First Half of 2017" shows that the post-90s are more willing to make friends online than straightforward blind dates.
Making friends through playing games is a popular social way for post-90s generations. In the first half of 2017, the number of social download users of games increased by a factor of nearly 40 times compared with the same period in 2016.
Blind dates are still shy, don't consider the post-90s with a "wayward", "unrestrained", "irresponsible" vision, they will not flash marriage.
According to the "2014-2015 China Men and Women Marriage and Love Concept Survey Report", among the groups that can accept flash marriage, the largest proportion is actually after the 70s, the proportion of men and women is 63% and 55% respectively, and the proportion of post-90s agreeing to flash marriage is the smallest.
Not only ashamed to talk about marriage, but also ashamed to confess their hearts after 90. "Always clamoring to find a partner, but never taking the initiative to hook up." People who don't like it are too lazy to accept other people's pursuits. "This has become a daily routine for many post-90s single dogs.
The data shows that although 87% of the post-90s live on the Internet, they are really "feelingless and idle" for meeting netizens.
There is a post-90s roommate who is keen to play games, there is a female companion online, "Divine Eagle Hero" general Qingqing me and me, after five levels of slashing six will be able to make you drop goosebumps, but rarely meet offline.
Once, playing escape rooms required manpower, and the roommate finally plucked up the courage to ask someone out. When they met, they saw these two people chatting awkwardly, helpless, and their painting style was the opposite of when they played games.
After returning, he said that he could still fly with wings in the game, and he would kill two eagles with one stone, and there was no tacit understanding to pass the level.
Two
Don't fall in love, and don't want to go on a blind date, the post-90s have lived a single life, eating alone, carrying water, and walking at night.
There are currently more than 200 million single adults in the country, equivalent to the populations of Russia and the United Kingdom combined, and about 20 million young people (20 to 39 years old) live alone.
In big cities, young people are happy to laugh at the daily life of single dogs. According to statistics, in first-tier cities such as Beijing and Shanghai, the single rate of marriageable young people has reached more than 30%.
Marriage is no longer included in the life plan that young people must practice, and young people have a more diversified understanding of marriage. In a survey of post-90s marriage attitudes, only 20% of post-90s want to get married.
2018 Marriage and Love Survey / Beijing Morning News
If you study the "fast food" social APP such as Momo and Tantan, it is mainly aimed at young people with love needs, such as the post-90s, however, this type of population generally does not have a stable marriage attitude.
"It's not a can on the shelf, and getting married later will not expire," the post-90s quipped when talking about marriage.
In addition to a bit of unmarriedism, the post-90s generation also has a sexless life, which is not very favorable to premarital sex, nor is it interested in sex.
In terms of the view of premarital sexual behavior, the "2014-2015 Survey Report on the Concept of Marriage and Love between Chinese Men and Women" shows that according to age groups, the older men and women, the more they are in favor of premarital sex. Compared with nearly 50% of single women after the 70s who favor premarital sex, only 28% of post-90s single women are in favor.
Chinese sexologist Pan Suiming began surveying people aged 18 to 29 years in 2000, and in 2000, men and women accounted for 5% and 13% of men and women, and by 2015 this data had doubled.
Three
In fact, it is false to say that you don't want to fall in love, that you don't envy people's show love is false, that you are not lonely is also false, and that the post-90s generation is just willing to choose to be single rather than casually talk about feelings.
The vast majority of post-90s have entered the workplace, work and life are far less than the student era, busy, who still wants to eat the pain of love.
A "2017 Single Worker Survey Report" shows that 70% of the single people in the workplace said that they have to work overtime every day. Among single dogs working overtime, nearly 30% of men work more than 2 hours of overtime on average.
In addition to overtime, home is also the reason why single men and women are left behind. About 50% of single people are "weekend homeowners", and women love home more than men, and the lower the income, the more they love home.
A colleague of 96 years, with a witty tone, said, "If I can't give myself enough material support, I may not dare to find the other half to get married." The main thing is still poor, embarrassed to harm others. ”
Not only are they strict with themselves, but the post-90s generation has no low requirements for their other half. The "2017 Single Population Survey Report" shows that post-90s single women require the other half of their monthly income to reach more than 8,000 yuan, that is, if the monthly income has not yet reached 8,000 yuan, you are likely to be rejected by the other party.
The hard requirements are not low, and the soft requirements are not low. The data shows that from the perspective of age differences, the post-70s mate selection is the most concerned about income, the 80s mate selection is the most face-looking, and the post-90s mate selection is the most important to living habits.
Otherwise, the post-90s generation feels that one person is better than two people. "If two people live together, no festivals, no surprises, no touches, no love, no care, no romance, no communication, no sense of ceremony, this kind of day can only be called a partnership." Understand you, know you, love you, hurt you, protect you, don't let you be sad and wronged, give you enough security, and make you laugh to deserve the rest of your life. ”
The post-90s generation is not so lacking or indiscriminate, but it is just unwilling to be wronged. The post-90s generation knows what they want in their hearts and what they don't want, so when they think about it, in fact, the post-90s generation is like the most normal generation.
As emotional experts said, "The willfulness of the post-90s is manifested in the feelings of daring to love and dare to hate, and the mentality of the post-90s is indeed more open than that of the post-70s and post-80s, but they also have their own bottom line and principles, and their love is more pure and not casual." ”
Resources
1. Baidu CBG (User Consumption Business Group) "Post-90s Insight Report"
2.360 Mobile Assistant 《Application Industry Trend Report for the First Half of 2017》
3. Marriage and Dating Operation Platform Century Jiayuan "2014-2015 China Men and Women's View of Marriage and Love Survey Report"
4. How big is the market space of "blind date economy", Workers Daily (June 20, 2018, 05 edition)
<h1>5. The "wave of singles" is coming, why is it affecting the economy? Half Moon Talk</h1>
6. 2018 Marriage and Love Survey, Beijing Morning Post
7. 18-29 years old, no sexual interest pan Suiming in the first half of the year four national survey results
8. LinkedIn (LinkedIn) and Zhen'ai Network "2017 Single Workplace Survey Report"
9. Zhen'ai Network "2017 Single Population Survey Report"
Text: Yu Yang, new media reporter of China News Weekly
Editor on duty: Zhuang Jiancheng