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During the opening ceremony of the Rio 2016 Olympic Games, there was a catwalk that surprised the world.
Gisele Bundchen, known as Brazil's national treasure, slowly walked to amaze the audience on the opening day.
The spotlight followed in her footsteps, and one person held up the entire stage, known as the "Return of the Gods", and the commentators at the time described her as "a symbol of Brazilian beauty".
Being able to solo at the opening ceremony of the Olympic Games is enough to see her influence, and in the hearts of many people, she is a well-deserved supermodel sister "Ji Niangniang", and has also left many classic moments on the runway.
This extremely beautiful "world's number one supermodel" has always been very family-oriented.
In 2008, Gisele Bundchen and top American football star Tom Brady married and gave birth to sons and daughters in 2009 and 2012, respectively.
A boy born to Tom Brady's ex-girlfriend has also been raised by Gisele Bundchen, treating him as his own, and always leading him to stand in the middle every time the family photo is taken.
She also has a very out-of-the-loop work photo: breastfeeding her baby between makeup.
Gisele Bundchen and Tom Brady have always been considered a model couple in the star circle, but after 13 years of marriage, Gisele Bundchen announced his divorce.
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When people praised Gisele Bundchen for being good at work and childcare, she said:
"Although it may seem like everything is perfect, you never know what really happened."
Getting married and having a baby made her life change dramatically in a short period of time.
In 2015, one of the reasons Gisele Bundchen announced his retirement was also to devote more time and energy to his family.
Since getting married and having children, Gisele Bundchen has been almost inseparable from her children, including when she is working, she is always photographed taking care of her children.
Walk outside with a small baby, take two children out, hold one in front and one in the back.
Who would have thought that this was the first supermodel to be cool and sexy on stage?
But getting married and having children had little effect on her husband.
He competes as always, and Gisele Bundchen tries to be a virtuous assistant, and she can always be seen on the field with her children to watch the game.
Gisele Bundchen, who once shined on the runway but now wears jeans to the supermarket to buy groceries, is undoubtedly a responsible and inclusive partner.
In all the news, Giselle is a good wife and a good mother.
However, her old Reddy rarely appears in photos of everyday life.
It can be said that the growth of the three children was all taken care of by Gisele Bundchen alone, and he has not accompanied her on her birthday or participated in family gatherings for more than ten years.
Occasionally go home and appear on camera, and you will immediately get the praise of "good dad".
He promised to retire to spend time with his family, but announced that he would return to the field within 2 months of his retirement.
This was also the trigger for Gisele Bundchen's determination to divorce.
Over time, Brady seemed to take all this for granted, unaware of his wife's sacrifices and sacrifices, which made Gisele Bundchen gradually disappointed and finally chose to give up the marriage.
The seemingly sudden breakdown of the marriage has long been traced, and the photo of Gisele Bundchen taking care of her children alone has long told us the reason why she wants to divorce.
With hundreds of millions of assets, good looks and figures, she gave up the great international stage for her family, and she also lost to a chicken feather in marriage.
Everyone lamented that even the "gods" could not bear the torment of widowed marriage.
03
I once saw a netizen's complaint.
Because her husband is a middle-level member of a company and usually has busy work, she handles most of the affairs in the family, including housework, cooking, and raising children.
Sometimes she asked her husband to help, but her husband was a helper, and she had to help him wipe his ass.
For example, when drying clothes, the husband always put the clothes on randomly, not at all propped up, not only difficult to dry, the clothes were also wrinkled, she had to dry them again;
After washing the dishes in the dishwasher, she doesn't clean up the residue in the dishwasher, and she needs to get it all over again.
The netizen said: "This is helping me, it is simply making a mess for me." ”
Netizens said that her husband said several times, and her husband quarreled with her in anger and went out in anger.
Netizens called out, such a marriage, she can't stand it.
I think of Andy in "Ode to Joy" who said, "Married women are pitiful, except to endure is to burst".
There is also an impressive line in the TV series "Out of Court".
Faced with a husband who did not understand why he wanted to divorce, the wife asked:
"Why do you naturally think that I can juggle work and family? Or do you think I should do both?
You and I are twenty-four hours a day, and the priorities are all about the trade-offs, and I make the trade-offs, and you do the trade-offs. ”
It is obviously a marriage of two people, but it seems that only you need to weigh work and family.
This is the sad thing about widowed marriage.
Someone on Zhihu summed up the secret of a happy marriage: run the marriage like a company.
Like what:
Careful choice before marriage, careful management after marriage;
abandon unrealistic illusions and base yourself on immediate reality;
Happiness is not two perfect people in the same step, but two imperfect people, hand in hand....
This will all require the efforts of both parties.
There is a line in the movie "The World's Greatest Father": "I thought that the worst thing in the world was to die alone."
No, the worst thing is to die with people who make you feel lonely. ”
I think so.
Knowing how to stop losses in time in a marriage that allows you to consume infinitely is the greatest wisdom in marriage.
Therefore, Gisele Bundchen's choice is, to some extent, a timely stop loss.
Marriage is not the only thing in life, but should be the motivation to make yourself better.
As Sanmao said: "Women must learn to control their own lives, even if they are alone, it is not too bad a situation." ”
Sometimes, divorce is not the opposite of marriage, after all, marriage is for happiness, and divorce is too.
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